And I didn’t even think about photos and sharing online. Thank you for bringing that up. -OP

Update - I ordered an electric trimmer and board short bottoms. I told her that summer will be here sooner than we think and if she is going to the pool or a beach with friends she can use a regular or electric razor or use the shorts and it’s good to have options. Sorry for the details but I also had a blunt discussion about her period and said if she is ever in the situation where she’s at the beach or pool with that, all of that hair will make things more complicated even with a tampon and she may appreciate the shorts. She said okay and we stopped talking about it. She’s still fairly new to having a period in the summer and isn’t that comfortable with it yet.

I appreciate all of the replies and the discussion. It’s so much easier to talk about this anonymously.

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Anonymous wrote:Let her wear what she wants. Your personal hangups are clearly not hers. She'll either be comfortable or change, either way it should be her decision. No random stranger is going to notice or care.

You are very very wrong. I definitely notice when women have pubes sticking out of their bathing suits.

I will say though, if your daughter doesn’t care, then not much you can do. Maybe other kids will make comments and she will change or maybe she will start a new trend. Just because I think it’s revolting doesn’t mean it is. It’s my opinion.

OP back again. This is where I am. I think it’s terrible but there’s nothing I can do, right? I guess I’ll let it go for now. She will change her mind by the summer or get some serious looks at the pool but that’s her business. I’m trying to tell myself that there are lots of posts on here about parents who feel strongly about young kids coloring their hair and how that’s wrong and looks bad. I think this looks bad. But as long as the kids are clean and not harming anyone else, it’s all opinion.

One the one hand, I think it’s sweet she’s so idealistic. Maybe there is nothing you can do?

OTOH, teens are ruthless. She will be made fun of, and it will hurt.

Worse still: kids these days do not just talk, like when we were young. I am learning they will use their phones to record everything. Yes everything. Then they post and share it. All of it.

So much more potential for terrible situations.

But again- what can a parent do?

Great point. If it is quite obvious, especially from some distance, that she has a significant amount of pubic hair creeping out of her swimsuit, it will for sure be captured and shared.

Anonymous wrote:How about swim skirt with built in bottom like these?

https://albionfit.com/products/houndstooth-high-waisted-swim-skirt?option1=XS

The issue is her daughter doesn't want to wear that. She wants to wear a regular swimsuit despite visible pubic hair, doesn't care.

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Anonymous wrote:Let her wear what she wants. Your personal hangups are clearly not hers. She'll either be comfortable or change, either way it should be her decision. No random stranger is going to notice or care.

You are very very wrong. I definitely notice when women have pubes sticking out of their bathing suits.

I will say though, if your daughter doesn’t care, then not much you can do. Maybe other kids will make comments and she will change or maybe she will start a new trend. Just because I think it’s revolting doesn’t mean it is. It’s my opinion.

OP back again. This is where I am. I think it’s terrible but there’s nothing I can do, right? I guess I’ll let it go for now. She will change her mind by the summer or get some serious looks at the pool but that’s her business. I’m trying to tell myself that there are lots of posts on here about parents who feel strongly about young kids coloring their hair and how that’s wrong and looks bad. I think this looks bad. But as long as the kids are clean and not harming anyone else, it’s all opinion.

One the one hand, I think it’s sweet she’s so idealistic. Maybe there is nothing you can do?

OTOH, teens are ruthless. She will be made fun of, and it will hurt.

Worse still: kids these days do not just talk, like when we were young. I am learning they will use their phones to record everything. Yes everything. Then they post and share it. All of it.

So much more potential for terrible situations.

But again- what can a parent do?

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Anonymous wrote:So it’s ok to show the tops of your thighs in public as long as there’s no hair there? It’s just hair. Sheesh. I hope the PPs calling pubic hair “gross” and “nasty” aren’t raising their kids to be full of shame and self loathing about their bodies.

Pubic hair is not on the tops of thighs.

If you have a really hairy bush it can be

This.

How about swim skirt with built in bottom like these?

https://albionfit.com/products/houndstooth-high-waisted-swim-skirt?option1=XS

This will make for one interesting pool party invite. Just one.

Anonymous wrote:I have dark hair that grows all the way from my nether regions all the way down my inner thighs. Women have this. If I didn't trim it, I would have to wear shorts down to mid thigh to cover it.

A 13 year old can decide what she wants to do; she probably wants to shock people with her natural hair to piss off mom, or maybe she doesn't feel like dealing with it. It's a lot of work, that you don't have to do if you aren't hairy.

Mom, buy her a trimmer and also some boy short bottoms and leave them as an option. She may eventually take you up on it or not.

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This is good advice. My DD never wants to do/wear anything I suggest, but if I buy it and just put in her room, magically she ends up wearing it without saying a word

I have dark hair that grows all the way from my nether regions all the way down my inner thighs. Women have this. If I didn't trim it, I would have to wear shorts down to mid thigh to cover it.

A 13 year old can decide what she wants to do; she probably wants to shock people with her natural hair to piss off mom, or maybe she doesn't feel like dealing with it. It's a lot of work, that you don't have to do if you aren't hairy.

Mom, buy her a trimmer and also some boy short bottoms and leave them as an option. She may eventually take you up on it or not.

It isn’t that people are looking at your privates. But a big bush coming out of bikini bottoms is REALLY noticeable. It is hard to NOT see it. And people will stare bc it is 1) yuck 2) a shock

It isn’t just “hair on the upper thigh.” It is quite obviously pubic hair unless it blends in with your normal leg hair

Let her be. Either people will make comments and she will change her mind about it, or she will prove her confidence is true confidence and not bravado and not care what they think. Either way, her parents telling her to do it won't do a thing LOL

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Anonymous wrote:So it’s ok to show the tops of your thighs in public as long as there’s no hair there? It’s just hair. Sheesh. I hope the PPs calling pubic hair “gross” and “nasty” aren’t raising their kids to be full of shame and self loathing about their bodies.

Pubic hair is not on the tops of thighs.

If you have a really hairy bush it can be

If you’re talking the inner thigh - yea, but then that wouldn’t be the top of the thigh. You’re just arguing over hairy legs at that point - which this kid has too. So NBD, it all probably blends together.

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Anonymous wrote:So it’s ok to show the tops of your thighs in public as long as there’s no hair there? It’s just hair. Sheesh. I hope the PPs calling pubic hair “gross” and “nasty” aren’t raising their kids to be full of shame and self loathing about their bodies.

Pubic hair is not on the tops of thighs.

If it exceeds the bounds of a standard bikini bikini bottom, that means there’s hair on the upper thighs. If labia or mons are showing that’s a different conversation.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So it’s ok to show the tops of your thighs in public as long as there’s no hair there? It’s just hair. Sheesh. I hope the PPs calling pubic hair “gross” and “nasty” aren’t raising their kids to be full of shame and self loathing about their bodies.

Pubic hair is not on the tops of thighs.

If you have a really hairy bush it can be