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Anonymous wrote:I’m only jealous financially.

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Other than financially, I pity them.

No need, we’re doing great!

Tell me that when you're 80 and alone and all your friends are dead.

Having children is not a guarantee that you won't be alone in old age. This isn't some sinister warning that kids will grow up and dislike or be resentful of their parents for whatever reason, but they could live halfway around the world from you.

I am child free by choice. I do think it will make old age harder, not having kids. I’m scared for that. But I do think it’s a good idea for someone to spend the bulk of their adulthood raising kids if they don’t want to, just to have kids in old age. That’s not fair for the kids, for one thing.

Typo. Don’t think not do

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Anonymous wrote:Same OP same…I’ll go further and say some days I cry and cry about it because my friends get to travel and I see their smiling rested faces with beautiful backgrounds and decadent meals. I just ate a half pbj sandwich in 3.56 minutes and from the moment I wake up someone asks for something is crying about something is touching me.

I am so, so tired and then I feel guilty for how I feel. I am jealous of childless people, they are very lucky indeed.

BIG hugs from a childfree internet stranger, PP. If I were your friend IRL I'd come over and help out to give you a much-needed break (seriously!)

I am a mom and I have no sympathy for this mommy martyr. Manage your time better. Being a mom doesn’t mean only eating pb and j.

Yeah not to be harsh but I agree. And I have little kids too. Unless PP is in a very dire circumstance, she is doing something wrong.

I wrote this post and just had my second that has major health issues that require my toddler to be home for the next few weeks and my husband is working away from home. I appreciate the PP hugs, it was a kind message in a very low day when I wrote that yesterday.

But I’m glad you all are doing better than me and have forgotten how it is to have a 1 month old and a 3 year old.

And back to the topic, I love seeing my friends’ travel photos and delicious meals, gives me hope for years down the road maybe and some pangs of jealousy but happy for them jealousy.

I am the “harsh” poster and now I feel like an a-hole Sorry PP! I wish you the best in your trying situation.

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Anonymous wrote:Same OP same…I’ll go further and say some days I cry and cry about it because my friends get to travel and I see their smiling rested faces with beautiful backgrounds and decadent meals. I just ate a half pbj sandwich in 3.56 minutes and from the moment I wake up someone asks for something is crying about something is touching me.

I am so, so tired and then I feel guilty for how I feel. I am jealous of childless people, they are very lucky indeed.

BIG hugs from a childfree internet stranger, PP. If I were your friend IRL I'd come over and help out to give you a much-needed break (seriously!)

I am a mom and I have no sympathy for this mommy martyr. Manage your time better. Being a mom doesn’t mean only eating pb and j.

Yeah not to be harsh but I agree. And I have little kids too. Unless PP is in a very dire circumstance, she is doing something wrong.

I wrote this post and just had my second that has major health issues that require my toddler to be home for the next few weeks and my husband is working away from home. I appreciate the PP hugs, it was a kind message in a very low day when I wrote that yesterday.

But I’m glad you all are doing better than me and have forgotten how it is to have a 1 month old and a 3 year old.

And back to the topic, I love seeing my friends’ travel photos and delicious meals, gives me hope for years down the road maybe and some pangs of jealousy but happy for them jealousy.

I have not forgotten! Oh god, I am grateful every day not to be in those trenches again. Hugs and flowers and wine and ALL good things to you, PP. You will get through this and life will be brighter someday soon. Xo

Anonymous wrote:How many childless friends do you have?

I don’t know a single person childless because they just didn’t want children. I have all of one friend without children, and while it is by choice, it is largely bc of medical reasons and life circumstances.

People without children usually have a depressing reason why they don’t have children in the first place. Sometimes if you truly know the problems other people are facing, you will gladly keep your own problems

This is SO not true, from what I can see. Wanting kids may be the norm but it’s pretty common these days to choose otherwise. Two of my closest friends are child free, for completely different but well-considered reasons. I definitely used to wish one of them in particular would have kids, mainly for selfish reasons. But having them in my life has made it all the richer. We respect each other’s choices without question and none of us think think we have it all figured out, because, well no one does. I think it’s great that people who are not enthusiastic about parenting do not become parents. As a teacher in a fairly poor rural area, I see so many unwanted and neglected kids whose parents act like they don’t even exist. Also, my kids are so wanted and loved and I still find it extremely difficult to be a parent and work and all of that. The idea that kids solve the problems of life is just so laughable.

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Anonymous wrote:Same OP same…I’ll go further and say some days I cry and cry about it because my friends get to travel and I see their smiling rested faces with beautiful backgrounds and decadent meals. I just ate a half pbj sandwich in 3.56 minutes and from the moment I wake up someone asks for something is crying about something is touching me.

I am so, so tired and then I feel guilty for how I feel. I am jealous of childless people, they are very lucky indeed.

BIG hugs from a childfree internet stranger, PP. If I were your friend IRL I'd come over and help out to give you a much-needed break (seriously!)

I am a mom and I have no sympathy for this mommy martyr. Manage your time better. Being a mom doesn’t mean only eating pb and j.

Yeah not to be harsh but I agree. And I have little kids too. Unless PP is in a very dire circumstance, she is doing something wrong.

I wrote this post and just had my second that has major health issues that require my toddler to be home for the next few weeks and my husband is working away from home. I appreciate the PP hugs, it was a kind message in a very low day when I wrote that yesterday.

But I’m glad you all are doing better than me and have forgotten how it is to have a 1 month old and a 3 year old.

And back to the topic, I love seeing my friends’ travel photos and delicious meals, gives me hope for years down the road maybe and some pangs of jealousy but happy for them jealousy.

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Anonymous wrote:Same OP same…I’ll go further and say some days I cry and cry about it because my friends get to travel and I see their smiling rested faces with beautiful backgrounds and decadent meals. I just ate a half pbj sandwich in 3.56 minutes and from the moment I wake up someone asks for something is crying about something is touching me.

I am so, so tired and then I feel guilty for how I feel. I am jealous of childless people, they are very lucky indeed.

BIG hugs from a childfree internet stranger, PP. If I were your friend IRL I'd come over and help out to give you a much-needed break (seriously!)

I am a mom and I have no sympathy for this mommy martyr. Manage your time better. Being a mom doesn’t mean only eating pb and j.

Yeah not to be harsh but I agree. And I have little kids too. Unless PP is in a very dire circumstance, she is doing something wrong.

Anonymous wrote:No tbd. I feel sorry for people without kids. Kid is exhausting but I wake up excited to see him everyday.

Me too. I would never say it out loud of course.

Not jealous at all. Jealous of those with hired help/sleep nannies so they get rest. That I do want.

Anonymous wrote:How many childless friends do you have?

I don’t know a single person childless because they just didn’t want children. I have all of one friend without children, and while it is by choice, it is largely bc of medical reasons and life circumstances.

People without children usually have a depressing reason why they don’t have children in the first place. Sometimes if you truly know the problems other people are facing, you will gladly keep your own problems

This is sort of true in many cases. I just posted about not having kids just so you have them around in your old age. I have health conditions that would have made child care and pregnancy difficult and physically Painful. If I did not have those conditions, I would have wanted to have kids. I decided those Conditions would make it hard both for me and the kids

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Anonymous wrote:I’m only jealous financially.

+1
Other than financially, I pity them.

No need, we’re doing great!

Tell me that when you're 80 and alone and all your friends are dead.

Having children is not a guarantee that you won't be alone in old age. This isn't some sinister warning that kids will grow up and dislike or be resentful of their parents for whatever reason, but they could live halfway around the world from you.

I am child free by choice. I do think it will make old age harder, not having kids. I’m scared for that. But I do think it’s a good idea for someone to spend the bulk of their adulthood raising kids if they don’t want to, just to have kids in old age. That’s not fair for the kids, for one thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Same OP same…I’ll go further and say some days I cry and cry about it because my friends get to travel and I see their smiling rested faces with beautiful backgrounds and decadent meals. I just ate a half pbj sandwich in 3.56 minutes and from the moment I wake up someone asks for something is crying about something is touching me.

I am so, so tired and then I feel guilty for how I feel. I am jealous of childless people, they are very lucky indeed.

BIG hugs from a childfree internet stranger, PP. If I were your friend IRL I'd come over and help out to give you a much-needed break (seriously!)

I am a mom and I have no sympathy for this mommy martyr. Manage your time better. Being a mom doesn’t mean only eating pb and j.

How many childless friends do you have?

I don’t know a single person childless because they just didn’t want children. I have all of one friend without children, and while it is by choice, it is largely bc of medical reasons and life circumstances.

People without children usually have a depressing reason why they don’t have children in the first place. Sometimes if you truly know the problems other people are facing, you will gladly keep your own problems

Anonymous wrote:Same OP same…I’ll go further and say some days I cry and cry about it because my friends get to travel and I see their smiling rested faces with beautiful backgrounds and decadent meals. I just ate a half pbj sandwich in 3.56 minutes and from the moment I wake up someone asks for something is crying about something is touching me.

I am so, so tired and then I feel guilty for how I feel. I am jealous of childless people, they are very lucky indeed.

BIG hugs from a childfree internet stranger, PP. If I were your friend IRL I'd come over and help out to give you a much-needed break (seriously!)

Anonymous wrote:All my childless friends look so well rested. I will admit im jealous of that. Being a parent comes with challenges but also a overwhelming love. Other than the lack of sleep not jealous but definitely see the perks of being childless.

The crazy thing is, mine don't. I feel like my friends without kids are so much more stressed out and always so busy that I can never make plans with them. And it's not like they are traveling and only one has a job that is high-level. Yet they always seem to be tired, and complain about being tired, more so than my friends with kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m only jealous financially.

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Other than financially, I pity them.

No need, we’re doing great!

Tell me that when you're 80 and alone and all your friends are dead.

And when *your* kids, who you had to “take care of you when you’re old,” have out you away in a home and never visit.

Why did you post this? NP.