Anonymous
Post 03/30/2022 17:11     Subject: If you SAH, do you clean your own house?

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Anonymous wrote:Split. I’m a stay at home mom, not a maid.


So husband works and he has to do half the cleaning? ok…he’s happy with this arrangement?
have you ever been a sahp for young children? Yes, he’s happy, why wouldn’t he be? He didn’t marry me for my cleaning skills.


🤣you kidding right? I’ve been a SAHM since my children were born and yes, I always cleaned the house and did housework too. My husband works, takes overtimes, so I can take care of our kids. You’re probably rich rich, so you think simple tasks that normal folks do are super demanding and feel overwhelmed when you have to clean the bathrooms.


NP. Lots of people who don’t have a lot of money find cleaning demanding and overwhelming. In fact every MC SAH mom I know with the exception of one feels that way.



Different SAHM poster and I don’t understand this. I’ve been a working mom and a SAHM and can definitely see the need/desire for a cleaning lady when both parents are working. Really odd to me to outsource basic house responsibilities when the point of staying at home is to NOT outsource. Of course you take care of children, but keeping the house clean takes like 5% of my total day, which I can do because I…stay at home. If picking up toys, wiping down sinks, and putting dishes in the dishwasher is overwhelming for someone who is home all day, I’d assume they are not a clean person at all to begin with. Anyone with a basic sense cleanliness should be able to do that. My young kids can, in fact.


?? We are not talking about putting dishes in the dishwasher and picking up toys. We all do that! We are talking about scrubbing tubs and mopping kitchens and changing sheets on lots of beds, etc.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2022 14:53     Subject: If you SAH, do you clean your own house?

Dh and I both work out of the home full time but we don't outsource the cleaning. We could afford to, but our home is very very small and we can manage ourselves. 900sq ft with 2 young kids and we can tidy up in 20 minutes and do a deep cleaning in half a day. We tidy up every day and the apartment is more than presentable after a an hour or two on the weekend. Bigger house = bigger mess.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2022 14:37     Subject: If you SAH, do you clean your own house?

I’m one of those SAHMs who is easily overwhelmed. Motherhood and our messy house for sure overwhelms me often. We are (thankfully!) rich enough that I don’t have to do all the cleaning myself. I am grateful. I don’t think that makes me a less competent or worse mother and wife, it’s just who I am and DH accepts that about me. If we couldn’t afford cleaners, we would just live in a messier house and I would be more stressed, but we would survive.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2022 14:23     Subject: Re:If you SAH, do you clean your own house?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nothing has changed in the world. Rich people pay poor people to clean their toilets


Isn’t that better than the poor people not having jobs?
m

Do you allow your staff enter through the main door or do you have a side/basement door for your workers?


I clean my own house.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2022 14:22     Subject: If you SAH, do you clean your own house?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Split. I’m a stay at home mom, not a maid.


So husband works and he has to do half the cleaning? ok…he’s happy with this arrangement?
have you ever been a sahp for young children? Yes, he’s happy, why wouldn’t he be? He didn’t marry me for my cleaning skills.


🤣you kidding right? I’ve been a SAHM since my children were born and yes, I always cleaned the house and did housework too. My husband works, takes overtimes, so I can take care of our kids. You’re probably rich rich, so you think simple tasks that normal folks do are super demanding and feel overwhelmed when you have to clean the bathrooms.


NP. Lots of people who don’t have a lot of money find cleaning demanding and overwhelming. In fact every MC SAH mom I know with the exception of one feels that way.



Different SAHM poster and I don’t understand this. I’ve been a working mom and a SAHM and can definitely see the need/desire for a cleaning lady when both parents are working. Really odd to me to outsource basic house responsibilities when the point of staying at home is to NOT outsource. Of course you take care of children, but keeping the house clean takes like 5% of my total day, which I can do because I…stay at home. If picking up toys, wiping down sinks, and putting dishes in the dishwasher is overwhelming for someone who is home all day, I’d assume they are not a clean person at all to begin with. Anyone with a basic sense cleanliness should be able to do that. My young kids can, in fact.


I don't think you *really* mean that. Do you stay home so to make your life easier and spend more time with kids or so you can completely avoid outsourcing?

And congrats on your basic sense cleanliness, but not everybody is like you. I know sometimes it's hard to use your imagination but you can just believe others whey they say they're not like you.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2022 14:08     Subject: If you SAH, do you clean your own house?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Split. I’m a stay at home mom, not a maid.


So husband works and he has to do half the cleaning? ok…he’s happy with this arrangement?
have you ever been a sahp for young children? Yes, he’s happy, why wouldn’t he be? He didn’t marry me for my cleaning skills.


🤣you kidding right? I’ve been a SAHM since my children were born and yes, I always cleaned the house and did housework too. My husband works, takes overtimes, so I can take care of our kids. You’re probably rich rich, so you think simple tasks that normal folks do are super demanding and feel overwhelmed when you have to clean the bathrooms.


NP. Lots of people who don’t have a lot of money find cleaning demanding and overwhelming. In fact every MC SAH mom I know with the exception of one feels that way.



Different SAHM poster and I don’t understand this. I’ve been a working mom and a SAHM and can definitely see the need/desire for a cleaning lady when both parents are working. Really odd to me to outsource basic house responsibilities when the point of staying at home is to NOT outsource. Of course you take care of children, but keeping the house clean takes like 5% of my total day, which I can do because I…stay at home. If picking up toys, wiping down sinks, and putting dishes in the dishwasher is overwhelming for someone who is home all day, I’d assume they are not a clean person at all to begin with. Anyone with a basic sense cleanliness should be able to do that. My young kids can, in fact.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2022 14:03     Subject: Re:If you SAH, do you clean your own house?

We have house cleaners but I still clean everyday. Of course.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2022 13:55     Subject: If you SAH, do you clean your own house?

I do unless I'm having people over for a special event.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2022 13:39     Subject: Re:If you SAH, do you clean your own house?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nothing has changed in the world. Rich people pay poor people to clean their toilets


Isn’t that better than the poor people not having jobs?
m

Do you allow your staff enter through the main door or do you have a side/basement door for your workers?


I work right along with my housekeeper.
At my husband’s office, the cleaning staff comes at night and don’t interact with the rich people they clean for. Yet somehow that’s okay.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2022 13:38     Subject: If you SAH, do you clean your own house?

I have generally done it all myself but I'm much happier when we have someone come do a deep clean every 4-5 weeks. It's my "reset" and it makes the day-to-day feel much more manageable!
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2022 13:34     Subject: If you SAH, do you clean your own house?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Split. I’m a stay at home mom, not a maid.


So husband works and he has to do half the cleaning? ok…he’s happy with this arrangement?
have you ever been a sahp for young children? Yes, he’s happy, why wouldn’t he be? He didn’t marry me for my cleaning skills.


🤣you kidding right? I’ve been a SAHM since my children were born and yes, I always cleaned the house and did housework too. My husband works, takes overtimes, so I can take care of our kids. You’re probably rich rich, so you think simple tasks that normal folks do are super demanding and feel overwhelmed when you have to clean the bathrooms.


NP. Lots of people who don’t have a lot of money find cleaning demanding and overwhelming. In fact every MC SAH mom I know with the exception of one feels that way.

Anonymous
Post 03/30/2022 13:31     Subject: Re:If you SAH, do you clean your own house?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nothing has changed in the world. Rich people pay poor people to clean their toilets


Isn’t that better than the poor people not having jobs?
m

Do you allow your staff enter through the main door or do you have a side/basement door for your workers?
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2022 13:27     Subject: If you SAH, do you clean your own house?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Split. I’m a stay at home mom, not a maid.


So husband works and he has to do half the cleaning? ok…he’s happy with this arrangement?
have you ever been a sahp for young children? Yes, he’s happy, why wouldn’t he be? He didn’t marry me for my cleaning skills.


🤣you kidding right? I’ve been a SAHM since my children were born and yes, I always cleaned the house and did housework too. My husband works, takes overtimes, so I can take care of our kids. You’re probably rich rich, so you think simple tasks that normal folks do are super demanding and feel overwhelmed when you have to clean the bathrooms.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2022 12:43     Subject: If you SAH, do you clean your own house?

I have a housecleaner once every other week, so I do outsource some of the cleaning but I still do a lot myself.
Anonymous
Post 03/30/2022 12:41     Subject: Re:If you SAH, do you clean your own house?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nothing has changed in the world. Rich people pay poor people to clean their toilets


Isn’t that better than the poor people not having jobs?


There’s a lot wrong with your statement but you’ll never understand.