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Anonymous wrote:Have you all seen the college "bed party" posts?

https://www.instagram.com/explore/tags/bedparty/

https://www.instagram.com/p/CbavSzmOqxs/

https://www.instagram.com/p/CP3LJwsj3SF/

https://www.instagram.com/p/Cbhz-tZOvlN/

Wow.
I can't imagine even having that much college gear. I managed to graduate without buying one single sweatshirt, hat, etc.

I had a ton of school spirit, but got so many free/cheap t-shirts from events and clubs that I don't really remember buying anything from the clothing section of the bookstore.

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Anonymous wrote:My son did not do a reveal. He just told us when he got accepted to the school that he really wanted to go that was where he wanted to go. Some seniors at his high school set up a Instagram page for seniors to post their college choices. He posted his choice there. That’s where other parents found out where my kid was going. Their kids saw my kids college choice.

This is the current standard as far as I know.

Something else was mentioned by my DD where a group of friends have a little celebration for their friend and put college themed gifts in friends bedroom. But I don't believe that is an event meant to be publically consumed.

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I've heard this referred to as a "bed party." One blog I read about it said that it is initiated by the parent of the student and that the friends are expected to contribute money towards it! I guess there are variations (like your daughter's friends bringing gifts instead of contributing money.) So does everyone just buy gifts from each other's school? That's gotta sting when a student doesn't get into a school but their friend does--and now they have to go buy a t shirt or hat or whatever from the school they got rejected from and put it in their friends bedroom?

That’s life. No one is forcing them to go to the party. Part of being an adult (which is where these kids are headed) is being gracious and able to celebrate your friends’ triumphs and realize it has nothing to do with you.

Also part of being an adult is mommy no longer inviting your friends to parties in your bedroom. Can’t have it both ways.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh dear god! I hope not.

Oh my, yes I did!

They earned it, and others do it, so why not?

The reason would be that ....

why share an abundance of admits with kids that may have an abundance of rejections...maybe from some of the same schools. Just share the final selection and off you go.

Doing something just because other people do it is rarely a great reason.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh dear god! I hope not.

Oh my, yes I did!

They earned it, and others do it, so why not?

SP here. I have former classmates that shared on social media all colleges that their kid was a recruited athlete at. Every single one. The post received over 400 likes. People are happy for this kid.

Some pals have not posted, and that's okay.

What's weird to me are people coming on this site who post stuff like "my kid got into a few top twenties, but would be miserable if this week they don't get into the 6 Ivies they applied to." That's insufferable and full of brag.

And what about the post where the mom talked about how everyone, everyone expected her smart as a whip son to get into a top Ivy and so far the results have been disappointing, so much so that when she talks to friends and share the news, they are all shocked and surprised at where he got rejected from.

So it happens, and no one should judge others that share. It may not be your cup of tea, but for others it works.

Like I said, to each their own.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you all seen the college "bed party" posts?

https://www.instagram.com/explore/tags/bedparty/

https://www.instagram.com/p/CbavSzmOqxs/

https://www.instagram.com/p/CP3LJwsj3SF/

https://www.instagram.com/p/Cbhz-tZOvlN/

Wow.
I can't imagine even having that much college gear. I managed to graduate without buying one single sweatshirt, hat, etc.

I was hoping for live sex, snapchat kinds of bed party videos. Like, buck naked except for the swag hat or just face paint in school colors. Disappointed

Absolutely not, and us parents are also not allowed to announce it before they do, which will not be any sort of big reveal.

Anonymous wrote:Oh dear god! I hope not.

Oh my, yes I did!

They earned it, and others do it, so why not?

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't know this was a thing. I mean, we've been having conversations with our son throughout the whole process and his decision on which school he will go to has just come out during those conversations.

Apparently students now "reveal" their school choice to family and friends, very similar to "gender reveals" (also obnoxious) for expecting couples? I just saw a facebook post where someone's daughter "revealed" her school choice with a cake--with frosting in the school colors inside.
Siena college has a whole list of things to do, including a powder cannon! https://www.siena.edu/news/story/10-creative-ways-to-announce-your-college-decision/?msclkid=bbf81695af5511ec85b1d6ef224a9d7c

Unless you are a first generation college student, it’s not a big deal.

I disagree. It’s a big thing in everyone’s life. The process is long.

Big thing doesn’t mean public thing. It’s may be a tough time for others in your circle, be kind.

I assume you are seeing these on social media? Honestly if this is triggering for you, you don’t belong on social media. What do you expect people to post about if college decisions are off limits now too? Why have social media at all?

I wouldn’t do it but I appreciate a simple FB announcement of where the kid is going to attend. I don’t want to ask so it’s great when people share. Love seeing the pic of your kid in the college sweatshirt.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't know this was a thing. I mean, we've been having conversations with our son throughout the whole process and his decision on which school he will go to has just come out during those conversations.

Apparently students now "reveal" their school choice to family and friends, very similar to "gender reveals" (also obnoxious) for expecting couples? I just saw a facebook post where someone's daughter "revealed" her school choice with a cake--with frosting in the school colors inside.
Siena college has a whole list of things to do, including a powder cannon! https://www.siena.edu/news/story/10-creative-ways-to-announce-your-college-decision/?msclkid=bbf81695af5511ec85b1d6ef224a9d7c

Unless you are a first generation college student, it’s not a big deal.

I disagree. It’s a big thing in everyone’s life. The process is long.

Big thing doesn’t mean public thing. It’s may be a tough time for others in your circle, be kind.

Mine had many top acceptances but didn’t flaunt it as many of his friends didn’t.

Oh dear god! I hope not.

Anonymous wrote:I already have. I have shared admit news already on social media, and so have other friends. Not a big deal.

And I will do a final reveal when DC is ready.

To each his own.

You shared where your kid was admitted? Like multiple schools? Umm

I already have. I have shared admit news already on social media, and so have other friends. Not a big deal.

And I will do a final reveal when DC is ready.

To each his own.

No. We've never lived anywhere else where a "college reveal" is a big thing. We will celebrate at home, so not joyless, but just not something people do where I am from (in the United States.)