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Anonymous wrote:For me, I had a negative experience dating an older man in my early 20s and, I’m retrospect, he really fetishized my age and our age gap in a gross way. I am wary of this set up when I see it because I’ve seen it play out in unhealthy ways enough times.

I don’t think it’s always bad and I have seen happy couples with bigger age gaps.

Oh, also I find the opinion, when it is present, that only much younger women are “hot” and the younger the better to be offensive. I am 30 and I would not want to be partnered with someone who was disgusted by the idea of a woman aging.

Older women frequently choose to look less hot. They often give up on keeping the weight in check, often throw away the short sundresses, often get androgynous hairdos.

NP.

All those things relate to aging! It’s harder to keep weight off when you get older, both for biological and environmental reasons (a 25yo often has more time and energy than a 40yo to work out and eat well, plus your uterus starts to stick out), sundresses just don’t look as good when your thighs sag and you have vericose veins, and hair thins as you age and shorter hair can hide that better.

My husband is happy with me even though I’m bigger, more wrinkled, and saggier than I was before. If he thought I should keep looking exactly the same way as I looked when we met, I’d be so creeped out. I’d be looking for an exit probably.

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Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.

I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!

I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.

You're misreading the comment you're agreeing with. He believes you are using judgment (calling them "scumbag older men") to cope with your regrettable life choices that led to being a lonely older woman who failed to lock down a "high value man."

No, I read it fine and still agree with it. Naive 22 year old women get with older scumbag older men. Only years later they regret the decision and describe how the older guy was a scumbag who they now feel took advantage of them.

Do you not think a 35yo (+) man is taking advantage when “dating” women 10+ years younger?

This is absurd and ridiculous! Of course not. All of this talk is nothing but a sleight of hand for selfish women to manipulate the dating and marriage market in their favor to accommodate all of their wishes and desires. Nothing at all wrong with a 40 year old dating a 28 year old. A lot of women just want to preserve men in their age cohort for themselves using bs like "predatory" and other shaming crap to accomplish it.

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Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.

I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!

I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.

You're misreading the comment you're agreeing with. He believes you are using judgment (calling them "scumbag older men") to cope with your regrettable life choices that led to being a lonely older woman who failed to lock down a "high value man."

No, I read it fine and still agree with it. Naive 22 year old women get with older scumbag older men. Only years later they regret the decision and describe how the older guy was a scumbag who they now feel took advantage of them.

Do you not think a 35yo (+) man is taking advantage when “dating” women 10+ years younger?

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Anonymous wrote:For me, I had a negative experience dating an older man in my early 20s and, I’m retrospect, he really fetishized my age and our age gap in a gross way. I am wary of this set up when I see it because I’ve seen it play out in unhealthy ways enough times.

I don’t think it’s always bad and I have seen happy couples with bigger age gaps.

Oh, also I find the opinion, when it is present, that only much younger women are “hot” and the younger the better to be offensive. I am 30 and I would not want to be partnered with someone who was disgusted by the idea of a woman aging.

Older women frequently choose to look less hot. They often give up on keeping the weight in check, often throw away the short sundresses, often get androgynous hairdos.

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Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.

I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!

I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.

You're misreading the comment you're agreeing with. He believes you are using judgment (calling them "scumbag older men") to cope with your regrettable life choices that led to being a lonely older woman who failed to lock down a "high value man."

No, I read it fine and still agree with it. Naive 22 year old women get with older scumbag older men. Only years later they regret the decision and describe how the older guy was a scumbag who they now feel took advantage of them.

Do you not think a 35yo (+) man is taking advantage when “dating” women 10+ years younger?

Anonymous wrote:Because I feel disgust at the thought of dating a man that young because they are still basically children. An older guy who doesn’t recognize that is just….gross.

I also dated older men (40+) when I was early 20s. At the time I thought they were so much more mature than guys my age, but in retrospect, I realize they had big problems which is why they couldn’t date women their own age.

I do understand why younger women do it. Unfortunately men of all ages are mostly a disappointment. Older ones at least have their own place without 3 roommates and sometimes even have real furniture (that you later find out their xW picked out).

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Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.

I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!

I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.

You're misreading the comment you're agreeing with. He believes you are using judgment (calling them "scumbag older men") to cope with your regrettable life choices that led to being a lonely older woman who failed to lock down a "high value man."

No, I read it fine and still agree with it. Naive 22 year old women get with older scumbag older men. Only years later they regret the decision and describe how the older guy was a scumbag who they now feel took advantage of them.

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Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.

I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!

I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.

You're misreading the comment you're agreeing with. He believes you are using judgment (calling them "scumbag older men") to cope with your regrettable life choices that led to being a lonely older woman who failed to lock down a "high value man."

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Anonymous wrote:For me, I had a negative experience dating an older man in my early 20s and, I’m retrospect, he really fetishized my age and our age gap in a gross way. I am wary of this set up when I see it because I’ve seen it play out in unhealthy ways enough times.

I don’t think it’s always bad and I have seen happy couples with bigger age gaps.

Oh, also I find the opinion, when it is present, that only much younger women are “hot” and the younger the better to be offensive. I am 30 and I would not want to be partnered with someone who was disgusted by the idea of a woman aging.

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Anonymous wrote:Ladies, at some point we gotta start being honest. I have way too many bitter corporate lady friends who wish they had done things differently. A little honesty and self reflection maybe? No one path is right for everyone, but trying to foreclose certain paths with this shaming ain't cute.

And I have way too many lady friends who got married and had kids by their early 20s with older men who groomed them and turned out to not be worth the oxygen they breathe. Like my best friend who was groomed by a grown, older man when she was a teenager, had kids with him, and is now stuck with a man that physically and emotionally abuses her, is out drinking all night, and is still trying to bang teenage girls. Which he tells her about and compares her body to. She hears aaaaallll about how tighter and more nubile those girls are. The kicker? He has a daughter their own age. Disgusting.

There’s downsides to every path, but at the very least if a woman waits until she is older and financially stable, she won’t be stuck with a deadbeat perv.

Anonymous wrote:For me, I had a negative experience dating an older man in my early 20s and, I’m retrospect, he really fetishized my age and our age gap in a gross way. I am wary of this set up when I see it because I’ve seen it play out in unhealthy ways enough times.

I don’t think it’s always bad and I have seen happy couples with bigger age gaps.

Anonymous wrote:Ladies, at some point we gotta start being honest. I have way too many bitter corporate lady friends who wish they had done things differently. A little honesty and self reflection maybe? No one path is right for everyone, but trying to foreclose certain paths with this shaming ain't cute.

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Anonymous wrote:Ladies, at some point we gotta start being honest. I have way too many bitter corporate lady friends who wish they had done things differently. A little honesty and self reflection maybe? No one path is right for everyone, but trying to foreclose certain paths with this shaming ain't cute.

Well, you see the men are shaming themselves.