Anonymous wrote:This is OP. It was not weird and people are so ridiculous trying to turn it into something more.. And the pregnant woman’s husband was right with the group. It was not a conversation about her body. It was an observation that (by another female) that she looked good. My friend was flattered. Her husband said, I said the same thing - “she looks great pregnant!”. Others chimed in and agreed.
And then the conversation evolved into what makes pregnant women attractive to some men. I brought it here bc I was curious if I would get different responses than a polite group of boundary respecting friends.
And clearly people have lots of opinions and thoughts…
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Some dudes like weird sh8t so yeah i can believe some do. but most normal guys don't.
Being attracted to pregnant women is neither weird sh8t nor weird shit. It's fairly normal, given biological urges. I think it's creepy as hell OP's friend's DH was talking about it at dinner in front of a pregnant woman.
Btw, OP, where was your pregnant friend's DH/BF?
Anonymous wrote:Some dudes like weird sh8t so yeah i can believe some do. but most normal guys don't.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What is weird and creepy?
Talking about attraction (something we all feel) being a biological or a physical thing during a particular life moment feels like a normal/thoughtful conversation.
I think its weird and creepy that people get married and pretend they are blind or don't notice physical traits of friends. Who should we discuss it with if not each other?
DCUM?
It's weird and creepy to objectify people and then discuss it in a group setting put down the porn and touch some grass.. learn social skills.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would be so uncomfortable if I were pregnant and someone called me a "hot mama," especially in front of men who all started adding commentary. I guess if it were just my closest girlfriends I wouldn't be bothered but IDK, something about men all chiming in really bothers me.
In short...your body changes or what isn't anyone business. Certainly not unwanted elicit comments. A compliment from a close friend or spouse is another thing entirely.
Yeah, I am the person you quoted and your comment about a compliment from a close friend or spouse is so true.
Really, if I were pregnant and with my closest friends and someone said my body looked good, I'd be fine and say thank you. It's just the fact that from OP's post it sounds like it was said in front of husbands who then started weighing in on how sexy pg women are. I don't think I'm that puritanical for not wanting my friend's dh commenting on my body but could be me.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:A friend is recently pregnant (or at least recently showing). We were at dinner with a group of friends and when the pregnant woman got up from the table, one of the women made a "hot mama" comment. It became clear that the (married and platonic) men around the table all agreed. This woman is generally pretty but not a supermodel. We ended up having a discussion about whether it was the physical or biological changes that bring on this new found admiration.
I am not talking about 9 month waddlers on their way to giving birth. But in general is there a time between 4-8 months where pregnant women naturally attract more attention from men? Or is it simply a personal connection to this woman that makes these group of men agree that she is striking while carrying a baby (not her first).
Op I am sure guys were trying to be nice. Who would say "you look like a fat pig" to a pregnant woman??
Anonymous wrote:What is weird and creepy?
Talking about attraction (something we all feel) being a biological or a physical thing during a particular life moment feels like a normal/thoughtful conversation.
I think its weird and creepy that people get married and pretend they are blind or don't notice physical traits of friends. Who should we discuss it with if not each other?
DCUM?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would be so uncomfortable if I were pregnant and someone called me a "hot mama," especially in front of men who all started adding commentary. I guess if it were just my closest girlfriends I wouldn't be bothered but IDK, something about men all chiming in really bothers me.
In short...your body changes or what isn't anyone business. Certainly not unwanted elicit comments. A compliment from a close friend or spouse is another thing entirely.