Anonymous wrote:Depends on debt, living arrangements.

If the only debt is mortgage and he makes $150k that’s fine.

If he makes $300k, rents, and has six figure student loan debt… No thanks.

Why? Someone like that will be out of debt and buying a house soon anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:Woman: $300K if he's older than 50, around 200K if he's closer to 40. I am 44, my own income is $250K

serious question but doesn’t that kind of limit you to doctors, corporate lawyers and hedge fund traders? I work for a non profit making 130k and I didn’t realize I am considered low income by folks around here. Yes 300k is easier but I also have a decent house, which while no McLean mega mansion is a good house in a nice neighborhood, with a manageable mortgage. I also drive used cars, don’t spend money on luxury items etc. good thing I’m not single because clearly I couldn’t get a date with any DC women because clearly that isn’t enough.

These people worship mammon. It's no surprise the country's going to hell in an handbasket.

No - these people worship hard work and egalitarian marriage. Plus here on dcurbanmom it's the mature (many older than 40 y.o) women living in high COLA area. They make 200K but its not "wealthy" by DC standards in any way.

I can see a man who is making 120K and lives in a lower COLA area marrying someone from his town, and living happily. Of marrying someone younger with good earning potential (if there is a younger woman interested). But a mature woman from DC with established income and assets won't be a good match for him.

teachers don’t work hard? Nurses don’t work hard?

Many nurses make close to 200K which would be fine for me, but I would probably encourage my nurse boyfriend to move higher to better paid nursing specialties or discuss making good investments. Not sure if school teacher is a good match for me. I am not oriented to have more kids and in my view the main benefit a man working as a teacher can bring into family is "leading" with taking care of kids. And yes,I do think male teachers do not work as hard as I do: my work day ends at 5.30pm, then I do homework with my child, cook, spend quality parenting time etc. After 9pm I have to work on my "side business", often making procurements, responding to tenants inquiries, visiting real estate locations etc.
Teachers also have a super long summer break which is their choice of a lifestyle. It doesn't need to be my choice to co-finance that lifestyle

Woman - make 200k+, I would date someone who makes $80k with limited debt, or upwards of $100k with "regular" debt (student loans/mortgage/healthcare). It's probably more tied to education level than money, I likely wouldn't date someone without a college degree. I don't want to support someone -but as long as they pay an income-proportionate share of expenses, I don't care. I am a single parent of young kids and prefer to date other single parents of younger kids, so I assume that most of our $$$ is going to kid stuff, anyway. It goes without saying that I would never ever date a man who doesn't provide for his kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Woman: $300K if he's older than 50, around 200K if he's closer to 40. I am 44, my own income is $250K

serious question but doesn’t that kind of limit you to doctors, corporate lawyers and hedge fund traders? I work for a non profit making 130k and I didn’t realize I am considered low income by folks around here. Yes 300k is easier but I also have a decent house, which while no McLean mega mansion is a good house in a nice neighborhood, with a manageable mortgage. I also drive used cars, don’t spend money on luxury items etc. good thing I’m not single because clearly I couldn’t get a date with any DC women because clearly that isn’t enough.

These people worship mammon. It's no surprise the country's going to hell in an handbasket.

No - these people worship hard work and egalitarian marriage. Plus here on dcurbanmom it's the mature (many older than 40 y.o) women living in high COLA area. They make 200K but its not "wealthy" by DC standards in any way.

I can see a man who is making 120K and lives in a lower COLA area marrying someone from his town, and living happily. Of marrying someone younger with good earning potential (if there is a younger woman interested). But a mature woman from DC with established income and assets won't be a good match for him.

teachers don’t work hard? Nurses don’t work hard?

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Anonymous wrote:Woman: $300K if he's older than 50, around 200K if he's closer to 40. I am 44, my own income is $250K

serious question but doesn’t that kind of limit you to doctors, corporate lawyers and hedge fund traders? I work for a non profit making 130k and I didn’t realize I am considered low income by folks around here. Yes 300k is easier but I also have a decent house, which while no McLean mega mansion is a good house in a nice neighborhood, with a manageable mortgage. I also drive used cars, don’t spend money on luxury items etc. good thing I’m not single because clearly I couldn’t get a date with any DC women because clearly that isn’t enough.

These people worship mammon. It's no surprise the country's going to hell in an handbasket.

No - these people worship hard work and egalitarian marriage. Plus here on dcurbanmom it's the mature (many older than 40 y.o) women living in high COLA area. They make 200K but its not "wealthy" by DC standards in any way.

I can see a man who is making 120K and lives in a lower COLA area marrying someone from his town, and living happily. Of marrying someone younger with good earning potential (if there is a younger woman interested). But a mature woman from DC with established income and assets won't be a good match for him.

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Anonymous wrote:Woman: $300K if he's older than 50, around 200K if he's closer to 40. I am 44, my own income is $250K

serious question but doesn’t that kind of limit you to doctors, corporate lawyers and hedge fund traders? I work for a non profit making 130k and I didn’t realize I am considered low income by folks around here. Yes 300k is easier but I also have a decent house, which while no McLean mega mansion is a good house in a nice neighborhood, with a manageable mortgage. I also drive used cars, don’t spend money on luxury items etc. good thing I’m not single because clearly I couldn’t get a date with any DC women because clearly that isn’t enough.

I live in central DC in my own house valued at 1.5mm (and it's very modest townhouse just in a nice safe area); own couple other investments, plus I have a full time employment. Moved to the US 20 years ago with $30,000 in savings and no debt, went to grad school and started working while investing smart. Invested my $30K into real estate in DC from the start. I am still not even fluent fully in English being limited to under $100K jobs, but my investments/real estate make up for that producing $150K net every year (after taxes). Being a first generation immigrant single mom pulling off two jobs, I would have told someone like you to get a second job if we were to get married. I don't want to sacrifice my lifestyle which is not a multi-million spending but I do drive lower-end luxury cars under 40K and buy them new or 1-2 years old. I don't want to move to McLean as I like walking to Dupont to read a book at my favorite cafe.

If no marriage is envisaged, I would just date in LTR. But I do think marriage gives huge benefits of economy of scale and lower taxation, thus I would not date anyone LTR who makes $120K/year and lives in a remote McLean

Woman here. Depends on what you mean by date, really. A relationship where you’re never going to commingle your finances? No set number just enough to pay their own way for fun travel/events/meals.

Dating for marriage, to include children, in a high COL area like DC? $200k or the financial setup to have similar purchasing power (Trust fund, fully paid off home, investment income) and no significant debt or child support.

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Anonymous wrote:Woman: $300K if he's older than 50, around 200K if he's closer to 40. I am 44, my own income is $250K

serious question but doesn’t that kind of limit you to doctors, corporate lawyers and hedge fund traders? I work for a non profit making 130k and I didn’t realize I am considered low income by folks around here. Yes 300k is easier but I also have a decent house, which while no McLean mega mansion is a good house in a nice neighborhood, with a manageable mortgage. I also drive used cars, don’t spend money on luxury items etc. good thing I’m not single because clearly I couldn’t get a date with any DC women because clearly that isn’t enough.

These people worship mammon. It's no surprise the country's going to hell in an handbasket.

Anonymous wrote:Woman: $300K if he's older than 50, around 200K if he's closer to 40. I am 44, my own income is $250K

serious question but doesn’t that kind of limit you to doctors, corporate lawyers and hedge fund traders? I work for a non profit making 130k and I didn’t realize I am considered low income by folks around here. Yes 300k is easier but I also have a decent house, which while no McLean mega mansion is a good house in a nice neighborhood, with a manageable mortgage. I also drive used cars, don’t spend money on luxury items etc. good thing I’m not single because clearly I couldn’t get a date with any DC women because clearly that isn’t enough.

Woman here-- 100k+, no child support, decent savings/retirement, and no debt beyond routine monthly bills that are current.

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Anonymous wrote:I started dating my H in college, so zero? But I knew he was hard working (he did CS and applied economics while playing baseball), his family was well off and he was the most handsome dude I've ever seen in my entire life. His eyes are amazing, they change between blue, green, and light grey depending on what he's wearing and he has the juiciest lips and he's tall too. He's making around 4 now and I make 2. IMO, if I'd date now, I'd make sure that there are no addiction, gambling, high levels of debt before even thinking of income.

And I am making 20/year and my husband is Brad Pitt

No no, I meant 400 and 200. He's hotter than BP, BP is short. Mine looks like Kelly Slater.

Kelly slater is 5ft 9 and bald

Depends on debt, living arrangements.

If the only debt is mortgage and he makes $150k that’s fine.

If he makes $300k, rents, and has six figure student loan debt… No thanks.

Damn, it’s depressing as hell on this board.

150k-ish, which is what I make. I don't need someone to pay my bills but I have no interest in being the breadwinner.

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Anonymous wrote:Women who demand $200k plus: how are you going to make that happen? What’s your plan? And don’t answer you already met you lawyer/MD husband in college. How are you going to make it happen now?

You think $200k is hard? I'm a property manager an earn over $350k a year. That doesn't even include passive income from my own investments.

If it's not hard then people's first jobs wouldn't be burger flipper, cook, or cleaning person.