Anonymous wrote:I think the ticking biological clock thing is so overstated. I got accidentally pregnant from one time unprotected sex at 38. And I know sooooooo many other women that have similar stories from their late 30s and 40s. I only know two women who had fertiility issues—one had issues starting at age 25 because it turned out an ovulation problem she never knew about. The other didn’t start trying until late 30s—so very well may have had the same issues if she had started earlier.

Also, I’ve done a lot of geneological research reviewing census records from the 19th and early 20th century. A certain percentage of women were just infertile or had low birth rates regardless of the early marriages and lack of birth control. For women that were gererallt fertile, if they didn’t die or have catastrophic gyn problems from chldbirth, they were generally having kids into their 40s. Elizabeth cady Stanton had her last at 44 (feminism not having dried up her ovaries).

I think this is is so true. I'm from an area (NYC, now live in DC) where women have kids much later. Sure, some do encounter fertility issues, but I'm not convinced all of these women wouldn't have had issues earlier and there is basically no way to know if they would or wouldn't have since they're educated women who get A+'s in birth control. My sibling, who spent much of their life in the South and knew a lot of people who married and tried to have kids MUCH younger, also had a bunch of friends going through IVF at 25. If they had waited until 35 would it have been different? Doesn't seem like it. There was something inherently not right and age was not the deciding factor, but it would have been part of the "over 35" stats. Conversely, I know tons of people like myself who waited until mid to late 30s and were prepared for years of heartache and expense who assumed fertility would be an issue (how could you make it to 35+ without an accident if you were fertile?) who were knocked up within months with no issue (birth control WORKS!)

I think fertility is extremely individual and there is probably a genetic component. My mother was the first born to her mother in 1952 when her mother was 42. My uncle was born 2 years later. No IVF obviously and her mother was an outlier who married at 40. But yes, there were many infertile younger people back then too.

Also, let's not forget about the men. I've had many female friends who have gone through tons of testing thinking they couldn't get pregnant and it was probably age related before they ever tested their husbands only to find out they had the eggs of a 20-something but DH was shooting blanks. Misogyny in medicine there.

Anonymous wrote:Brunch is so expensive for the type of food you get (eggs and pancakes are both cheap and easy to make at home.) Id much rather put that same money toward dinner out and not have to make dinner. If you go out to brunch you still have to make dinner later.

You’re doing it wrong. You have to at least get Benedict, or maybe Eggs Oscar or a sweet thing that’s a pain to cook at home. I’ve got brunch reservations for next time in the Big Easy and I guar-uhn-tee I will not be getting pancakes or scrambled eggs.

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Anonymous wrote:Brunch is so expensive for the type of food you get (eggs and pancakes are both cheap and easy to make at home.) Id much rather put that same money toward dinner out and not have to make dinner. If you go out to brunch you still have to make dinner later.

If you're single and go to all you can eat brunch, you don't make dinner. Duh.

All you can eat? Please.

If you’re single, you go to all you can drink brunch. Bottomless mimosas.

Anonymous wrote:Brunch is so expensive for the type of food you get (eggs and pancakes are both cheap and easy to make at home.) Id much rather put that same money toward dinner out and not have to make dinner. If you go out to brunch you still have to make dinner later.

If you're single and go to all you can eat brunch, you don't make dinner. Duh.

I think the ticking biological clock thing is so overstated. I got accidentally pregnant from one time unprotected sex at 38. And I know sooooooo many other women that have similar stories from their late 30s and 40s. I only know two women who had fertiility issues—one had issues starting at age 25 because it turned out an ovulation problem she never knew about. The other didn’t start trying until late 30s—so very well may have had the same issues if she had started earlier.

Also, I’ve done a lot of geneological research reviewing census records from the 19th and early 20th century. A certain percentage of women were just infertile or had low birth rates regardless of the early marriages and lack of birth control. For women that were gererallt fertile, if they didn’t die or have catastrophic gyn problems from chldbirth, they were generally having kids into their 40s. Elizabeth cady Stanton had her last at 44 (feminism not having dried up her ovaries).

Anonymous wrote:Custodial stepmom to 17 and 16 year old and have 7 year old twins of our own. Will say I look at biomom and realize even if I was not raising her kids, she would have a pretty sweet life at 40. No brunching in her 20s, but plenty of brunching in her 40s.

Wow, there has to be quite a situation for her not to have custody.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion:
anti brunch granny is not completely wrong.
Just sayin’

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Anonymous wrote:Custodial stepmom to 17 and 16 year old and have 7 year old twins of our own. Will say I look at biomom and realize even if I was not raising her kids, she would have a pretty sweet life at 40. No brunching in her 20s, but plenty of brunching in her 40s.

Yes I was lost and a mess in my 20's so I should have just had kids then. Now that I'm a happy 40-something, I know how to enjoy myself and have the funds (not Daddy's anymore, my own) to do so, but instead I'm driving everyone to sports practices every evening and weekend and no end in sight.

Custodial stepmom to 17 and 16 year old and have 7 year old twins of our own. Will say I look at biomom and realize even if I was not raising her kids, she would have a pretty sweet life at 40. No brunching in her 20s, but plenty of brunching in her 40s.

The thing is, I think most of the "cosmopolitan" women I know in fact did it all. They built careers, brunched ... and then settled down and had some kids.

There MAY be women on this thread who are like, "OK, I missed the boat" but they missed it because despite dating a lot, they just didn't meet the right partner. What are you supposed to do about that? Well, I bet they have some compensating factors such as a great group of friends and a kick ass career. Some of them also manage to have kids without a partner. It helps that they have a "village" built over their 20s and 30s.

I could have married the guy I loved when I was 19-21, but I'm sure as shit glad I did not. My life is so much better and more secure now that I've had a good career and married someone more appropriate for the adult me.

That said, I did have to do IVF. Just being honest here.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion:
anti brunch granny is not completely wrong.
Just sayin’

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+squared

You don’t get that many votes. And all three of you are wrong. Don’t worry. The non-47-year-old-grannies will raise a toast to you at our next brunch!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion:
anti brunch granny is not completely wrong.
Just sayin’

+11111948477482929484

+squared

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion:
anti brunch granny is not completely wrong.
Just sayin’

Sundays are for lazy all day f**cking. Not for drinking overpriced mimosas and pretending like your are interested in the new name for the Washington football team.

Get drunk at brunch for a decade, have fun, get that promotion at work, never miss a happy hour, acquire a xanax script, date as many men as you can, shack up with a guy for a year, break up up with him, have some one night stands, shack up with another guy, move to Manhattan, have some more one night stands, only low class Bible thumpers are dumb enough to get knocked up in their 20s, live your life, get a master's, or a JD, gun for that next promotion, imagine what you can do with an extra $30k a year, more passport stamps!, motherhood and marriage can wait, you can always have kids in your 30s, a rich mister right is always around the corner...

"I'm 37 — might be single forever."

Anonymous wrote:Brunch is so expensive for the type of food you get (eggs and pancakes are both cheap and easy to make at home.) Id much rather put that same money toward dinner out and not have to make dinner. If you go out to brunch you still have to make dinner later.

Not if you drank your dinner