the wedding was 2 years ago. I wonder how the bride made out?

You do know a registry is even more of a cash grab.

My cousin did her registry Fortunoff which was famous for a high end wedding Registry. At that story the bride can return anything for a full refund.

They only put gifts on their from $250-$1,000. The few cheap ones still of our quick. Some she just picked due to price point. Like a $500 vase. She retuned nearly of of it

A big money grab?? Common why is giving them $, giving them the equivalent --- or less, a Money Grab?

The registry is for bridal shower.

My wedding I had a registry but at Bridal Shower party most of gifts picked up.

The wedding no one went off registry.

I been to two hundred person bridal showers and bride is getting 100 gifts.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s wrong with giving cash? Better than some useless gift thats just going to be trashed or regifted.

Wouldn’t a registry not be “useless crap” as it’s items the couple personally added to a registry?

Unless you are having a super small wedding or are getting married at 18, yes it's mostly useless crap.

A household only needs so many place settings, serving dishes, etc.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Indian person here and we don’t usually do registries either; everyone knows to write a check or give cash

What if guests don't know that? Is it horrible to give, I dunno, a platter?

yes. pretty bad to give anything else unless there is a registry. absolutely ok to gift items made of pure gold and pure silver.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seems fine to me. No one is forcing you to give them money. Give them a gift of your choosing.

Op here- I don’t mind writing a check, I just usually love picking out a nice gift or two from the registry. Given she is a good friend, my plan was around a $300ish gift but I’d have no clue what to randomly buy without a registry. Guess I’ll just write the check but I’ve never been to a wedding that didn’t have a registry so was just curious.

If she is a good friend ask her if there is something she would like to have. Otherwise buy her something nice that you think she would like and be done with it.

The bridal shower was a party where we went as couple and had a registry. The wedding we had was a very nice NY/NJ wedding we paid ourselves. We were also 33/35 and were combining two apts to one and actually purging stuff. Did not need more stiff.

Wedding registries have been around for about 100 years in the US.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's hard to create a wedding registry when you have enough money to buy whatever you need already. Fancy sheets? Got it. Keurig machine-got it, gift card to wine shop-got it.

Younger couples who get married need a registry more than older couples.

Plus, you can still give a gift of your choice, a gift card or cash. I rather get $50 or $100 or whatever amount you spend, even $25 instead of a coffee maker that I don't need, or more satin sheets.

Ask her what she wants. Or just give $100 fresh cash. 1 piece, not a bunch of $20s or $10s.

It's like creating a baby shower registry. So much pressure from friends to create one because they don't know what to buy so I created one. I don't need half of the stuff on there but they said add this, add that. My favorite gifts were 3 months worth of diapers and wipes.

Cultural differences are so interesting—giving someone actual cash for a wedding used to be considered crass. Even showing up to a wedding with a gift in hand was frowned upon; gifts were sent before the wedding to their home.

Registries also used to be seen as crass.

Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with giving a gift and using your own brain to pick out something personal?

Many people are not skilled at gift selection and the married couple tends to receive duplicates of popular items.

Anonymous wrote:It's hard to create a wedding registry when you have enough money to buy whatever you need already. Fancy sheets? Got it. Keurig machine-got it, gift card to wine shop-got it.

Younger couples who get married need a registry more than older couples.

Plus, you can still give a gift of your choice, a gift card or cash. I rather get $50 or $100 or whatever amount you spend, even $25 instead of a coffee maker that I don't need, or more satin sheets.

Ask her what she wants. Or just give $100 fresh cash. 1 piece, not a bunch of $20s or $10s.

It's like creating a baby shower registry. So much pressure from friends to create one because they don't know what to buy so I created one. I don't need half of the stuff on there but they said add this, add that. My favorite gifts were 3 months worth of diapers and wipes.

Cultural differences are so interesting—giving someone actual cash for a wedding used to be considered crass. Even showing up to a wedding with a gift in hand was frowned upon; gifts were sent before the wedding to their home.

I enjoy perusing wedding registries and will select a giftcard through the registry if all the cool stuff at my price range is already bought.

What's wrong with giving a gift and using your own brain to pick out something personal?

It's hard to create a wedding registry when you have enough money to buy whatever you need already. Fancy sheets? Got it. Keurig machine-got it, gift card to wine shop-got it.

Younger couples who get married need a registry more than older couples.

Plus, you can still give a gift of your choice, a gift card or cash. I rather get $50 or $100 or whatever amount you spend, even $25 instead of a coffee maker that I don't need, or more satin sheets.

Ask her what she wants. Or just give $100 fresh cash. 1 piece, not a bunch of $20s or $10s.

It's like creating a baby shower registry. So much pressure from friends to create one because they don't know what to buy so I created one. I don't need half of the stuff on there but they said add this, add that. My favorite gifts were 3 months worth of diapers and wipes.