Anonymous wrote:It bothers me too OP. It feels wasteful and selfish and oblivious to the world we live in and the many, many people struggling.

I spent $45,000 on my wedding, 20 years ago, and I really regret it now. I look back and think how sad. All that minutia got in the way of truly connecting with what mattered that day.

We’re such a consumer driven society.

That was an insane amount of money back then. I don't know anyone that spent that amount on a wedding except maybe one Long Island wedding that was way over the top. But you were ignorant and so are they.

Do I think it's ultimately wasteful? Yes.

Am I upset about it? No. Not my money, not my problem.

I enjoy going to weddings that cost a lot of money and don't care how much others spent because it's not my money! If someone wants to spend a ton of money on a party and then invite me to it, that sounds great!

I also know people who went all out for 40th birthdays, for instance, and those parties were really fun. Bless people who just like spending money on parties.

My own wedding cost about 12k. We had to pay for it ourselves and were buying a home around the same time, so we were very frugal. I think we still had a fun party and I love my wedding memories and photos, but it would have been nice to throw money at problems as they arose because it's so stressful. I don't begrudge people who can solve the wedding issues that way.

I might internally role my eyes at a friend focusing on details that I personally don't care about, like napkins or whatever. But I wouldn't say anything and this is no different than listening to a friend complain about something else that doesn't matter to me, like Taylor Swift or the show Grey's Anatomy. It's fine, people have different interests, some of them seem dumb to me but it doesn't really impact me either way so let them have their thing.

It bothers me too OP. It feels wasteful and selfish and oblivious to the world we live in and the many, many people struggling.

I spent $45,000 on my wedding, 20 years ago, and I really regret it now. I look back and think how sad. All that minutia got in the way of truly connecting with what mattered that day.

We’re such a consumer driven society.

I enjoy the lavish weddings just as much as the small simple ones. People choose to spend their money in different ways.

It doesn't upset me, they have a right to blow their money on whatever they want, or be in debt for years for one day.

We had an under 5k wedding and I don't regret it at all. Most of the expensive weddings, in my experience, don't lead to long marriages.

this is boring

Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t upset me. I could care less how they spend their money. Too bad they’ll realize it was a waste of money after the divorce is finalized.

Pretending to be above it all but can’t resist telling on yourself with that ugly bitterness SMH.

I had to pivot when DD was planning her wedding. I was not woke to the many things that were disposable, things and practices she considered wasteful.

We liked the idea of supporting small businesses. A lot of the wedding industry really is small businesse.

Anonymous wrote:A wedding is like a car. You can have a budget event. You can have an extravagant event. It's a life event. A major life event. It brings joy (or should) to a huge circle of family. And friends. When would they get together otherwise? A funeral?

The soul-sucking ones (Op are you one?) are those who have little awareness of the specialness of life milestones.

+1

Really, stay home and wallow in your own misery, OP. No one wants someone with the inability to be happy for others trying to cloud their special day.

Anonymous wrote:Crypto Guy weddings are the best. It’s like all FU money flying around !

+1

OP, those weddings are great! What does it have to do with me?

Doesn’t upset me. I could care less how they spend their money. Too bad they’ll realize it was a waste of money after the divorce is finalized.

A wedding is like a car. You can have a budget event. You can have an extravagant event. It's a life event. A major life event. It brings joy (or should) to a huge circle of family. And friends. When would they get together otherwise? A funeral?

The soul-sucking ones (Op are you one?) are those who have little awareness of the specialness of life milestones.

Doesn't bother me. Extravagant weddings support a lot of small businesses (rental services, photographers, DJs/bands, caterers), and as a guest they're very fun to attend. Plus weddings are often surrogate family reunions for people - in my far-flung family we only all see each other at weddings and funerals. I didn't have a wedding like this but there are worse places to waste money.

Anonymous wrote:I love to be a guest in lavish weddings.

+1- Just enjoy the wedding and don't worry about how much they spend or compare your choices with theirs.