Anonymous
Post 12/26/2021 20:57     Subject: Parents and friends hate baby name
Mari is a cute nn. Once they see the baby they will change how they feel about the name. Or else they will get used to it. Do not sweat this at all. It’s a nice name and soon it will be your little girl’s name!
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2021 20:55     Subject: Parents and friends hate baby name
Anonymous wrote:We've narrowed our girl names down to Miriam or Mariam and Elizabeth. My husband is very picky and basically only likes super classic biblical names (his entire list of boy names was Andrew and Daniel). Not my favorite style but I like them well enough. Mariam is our favorite but when we mentioned it to our parents and a few friends, everyone overtly hated it. I was shocked. My (racist) mom called it an ugly Jewish name and flipped out. My MIL didn't say anything but it was really obvious she didn't like it. My friends said it was horrible. I know I shouldn't have shared the name if I couldn't handle negative comments but they kept asking and I was just so excited about it. I really didn't expect it to be so controversial. How can I move past everyone's disapproval? With my mom particularly, I'm worried she'll be awful about it even after the baby is born. And that everyone will secretly hate it.

Well sounds like you don't have to worry that everyone will "secretly" hate it.

If you go with Mariam, it's basically "Maria" with an "m" at the end, and you could call her Maria.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2021 20:46     Subject: Re:Parents and friends hate baby name
I know a woman who cannot resist just absolutely trashing any baby name she hears and doesn’t like. She trashed her niece’s name when her sister was pregnant.

Part of it is she is convinced that she can make someone change their mind about a name. She thinks they are asking her opinion and doesn’t get people are sharing their decision. She also just has no filter and poor boundaries.

I’d ignore your family and remind yourself of all the other stuff they have bad taste on (I’m sure there is a lot). Think “of course they don’t like it— they have no sense.” Give your baby a name you live and tune the noise out. Good prep for parenthood!
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2021 20:31     Subject: Parents and friends hate baby name
I love Mariam!! It sounds both Persian and European. Classic but not hipster try hard.

I feel you. Our daughter is Sunny. It got a lit of curled lips when I was pregnant. Haters gonna hate. Her full name is Susanna.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2021 07:06     Subject: Parents and friends hate baby name
Such nice names. Super common but nice. I can't imagine people reacting that way.

I'll admit I've had bad reactions to some names initially but then really grew to like them once I got to know the kid. Maybe your people will change their minds. No help for your racist mom, unfortunately.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2021 06:18     Subject: Parents and friends hate baby name
I love Bible names (DH not so much). Just for context, do you have another kid with a Bible name? My ILs who are Christian chose names for their kids that are pretty Old Testament and more associated with Jewish families. This is fine except everyone (behind their back) says it’s kinda weird because these evangelical Christians come off as a bit obsessed with Judaism. (This is a larger trend in their life, not just the kid names. As the only Jewish person in the family, I have to say it’s a bit weird.)
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2021 13:14     Subject: Parents and friends hate baby name
Lovely names. I too made the mistake of discussing names before 2nd child was born and received lots of feedback that I didn't want. Choose the name that you want and they'll adapt.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2021 13:09     Subject: Parents and friends hate baby name
OP I eyeroll at unique names with ambiguous spellings and pronunciation. Miriam is a solid name. If somebody doesn't like it they can have their own baby and pick their own name.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2021 11:40     Subject: Parents and friends hate baby name
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DH tried to get me to name our daughter Miriam. I thought it was one of the ugliest names I had ever heard. Hard no!

Elizabeth is nice and has a lot of nickname choices.


Good thing OP said nothing about the name Miriam, then.


🤦🏻‍♀️ I just read the first post again, nevermind. Later in the thread OP said the main name they're considering is Mariam and I forgot Miriam had been mentioned. Sorry.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2021 11:39     Subject: Parents and friends hate baby name
Anonymous wrote:My DH tried to get me to name our daughter Miriam. I thought it was one of the ugliest names I had ever heard. Hard no!

Elizabeth is nice and has a lot of nickname choices.


Good thing OP said nothing about the name Miriam, then.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2021 10:18     Subject: Parents and friends hate baby name
My DH tried to get me to name our daughter Miriam. I thought it was one of the ugliest names I had ever heard. Hard no!

Elizabeth is nice and has a lot of nickname choices.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2021 09:56     Subject: Parents and friends hate baby name
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I guess the name is very different culturally. Would they feel differently about Mary? As a pp mentioned, Mariam, Mary, Maria are all same name in different languages.


I'm not sure if my mom would like Mary. I know she doesn't like Marie for some reason and she hates Maria because "it sounds Mexican." She's real fun to deal with.


DP. Apparently, she never watched “The Sound of Music” or heard about the execution of the Romanov family. I would probably be tempted to name the kid “Miriam Ximena”.

All of your names are good. I wouldn’t pick Elizabeth due to it’s popularity, but it’s not a big deal either.

P.s.: People are giving you name suggestions… Do you need them?


Not really. We're very set on using Mariam or Elizabeth or at least some version of the names.

I'm less excited about Elizabeth but I don't think it's super popular, at least not in my circles. I haven't met any children named Elizabeth.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2021 09:42     Subject: Parents and friends hate baby name
Anonymous wrote:Tell them you have reconsidered and the baby will now be named Krystyl.

Then get super defensive (maybe cry) any time anyone says anything against the new name. See if you can keep up the ruse until the birth!

I guarantee no one will complain about Miriam or Elizabeth at that point.


I love this idea! I'm awful at lying so I don't think I could pull it off but it's hilarious.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2021 08:54     Subject: Parents and friends hate baby name
Ugh ridiculous- ignore them!

Miriam/Mariam is classic and has a lot of pretty nickname potential, like Mira/Miri, etc. And Elizabeth is a perpetual classic as well.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2021 08:15     Subject: Parents and friends hate baby name
My family hated our boy name, we had a boy, and now they love the name because it suits him well.

Definitely use YOUR favorite name.