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Anonymous wrote:I think this is me, even though I choose to be single ATM. I've always had a ton of men trying to get to me. I currently have very rich and some even famous men in my DMs trying to talk to me

1) I'm conventionally attractive, "beautiful" according to most people
2) I have a positive attitude and am generally happy go lucky
3) I dont care that much about male approval which seems to call it to you, bizarrely
4) I'm an interesting, fun conversationalist.

I think that's about it. It's not that complicated, men are simple creatures.

This is funny. A ton of men trying to get you is of course because you are attractive. That is how the universe works.
You are happy go lucky because men and women treat you nicer because you are attractive.
You don't care about male approval because you already have it because you are attractive.
You are interesting and fun to men because you are attractive. You could be talking about how wallpaper dries on a wall after application and men will find that fascinating because you are attractive.
Yes men are simple creatures, they like attractive females.

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is me, even though I choose to be single ATM. I've always had a ton of men trying to get to me. I currently have very rich and some even famous men in my DMs trying to talk to me

1) I'm conventionally attractive, "beautiful" according to most people
2) I have a positive attitude and am generally happy go lucky
3) I dont care that much about male approval which seems to call it to you, bizarrely
4) I'm an interesting, fun conversationalist.

I think that's about it. It's not that complicated, men are simple creatures.

Lady, this is not the same thing. You are talking about th experience of attractive looking women attracting attention. This post is about having successful, loving relationships. Not related to how many people are in your DMs!

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Anonymous wrote:Knowing your worth, and being open to love is a big thing. Also, sometimes part of it is just luck. There are really awesome people who continually get the short end of the stick. I learned at an early age that life isn’t fair a lot of the time and there is no rhyme or reason to it.

So much is about finding someone that didn't have a f____ked up childhood. A person's childhood is such a major red flag that so many miss and don't see how it will play out in middle age, the leftover, unaddressed issues and learned coping mechanisms.

I will heavily council my kids to look at their future partner's parents/family relationships very carefully.

I also think she had a lot of tragedy early in life (her mom dying young) and now karma is coming back to her in a good way. She seems like a genuinely good, warm-hearted, emotionally-sound person.

absolutely +1

Not everyone is permanently ruined because of messed up childhoods that were no fault of our own. It’s sad that you are implying these people should be doomed by a life of loneliness over circumstances which were beyond their control. Very heartless and cruel. Varied experiences and yes, even adversity can bring genuine compassion and appreciation to many relationships.

Anonymous wrote:I think this is me, even though I choose to be single ATM. I've always had a ton of men trying to get to me. I currently have very rich and some even famous men in my DMs trying to talk to me

1) I'm conventionally attractive, "beautiful" according to most people
2) I have a positive attitude and am generally happy go lucky
3) I dont care that much about male approval which seems to call it to you, bizarrely
4) I'm an interesting, fun conversationalist.

I think that's about it. It's not that complicated, men are simple creatures.

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Anonymous wrote:Just going off of what I observed, they aren't.picky and pretty much willing to date any guy and accept anything to have a guy.

They aren't more intelligent, prettier, warmer or more open than any other woman, just a lot more willing to put up with stuff.

You didnt read the thread post?

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Anonymous wrote:Witnessing the illness of your spouse and becoming a young widow isn't lucky in love... It's terrible luck.

Well yes. Of course it is. But finding not one, but two great husbands in a relatively short period of time Is lucky in love. That doesn’t mean lucky in all aspects of life, as you point out, obviously.

OP here. I actually read her blog because I started off my career in the foreign policy and think tank circles. While I never met Shawn Brimley, I certainly know people who worked with him. I was surprised by her beautiful and raw writing and struck by her intelligence and emotional maturity. When you read her story, you realize she has not always been lucky, having lost her mother so young and in such terrible circumstances, and you cannot help but admire her resilience. She then goes off and meets this brilliant and all around wonderful guy who apparently is madly in love with her. They had a love in a brief time that most do not experience in this whole life. That is lucky!

After his unfortunate passing, she is left a widow at 40 with three little kids. That's a huge baggage. And within two years she is married again to another seemingly great guy who is madly in love with her.


She does seem tremendously lucky in love, regardless of the rest of her circumstances.

I'm the PP who said it's terrible luck. I follow Marjorie's blog because I too am a 40-something widow. This could be my grief talking, but could you please stop calling her lucky in love? It comes across as tone deaf. Even if you had an amazing first husband and another great relationship with someone after your husband's death, you aren't lucky...you are able to make good of a terrible situation. Some widows can't get out of bed for months or years. Some pour out their eloquent vulnerabilities in a blog and inspire others to get out of bed and put one foot in front of the other every day. All are doing the best they can to live through the pain of loss.

Despite feeling so grateful for the men in my life, I live so many days with the pain of my circumstances and the complications of moving on in my changing world. I worked and work hard on these relationships. Perhaps someone looking in from the outside would call it luck. Other than being in the right place at the right time in meeting someone, luck is not otherwise a factor.

+10000. You put it perfectly, it seems tone-deaf. Sorry for your loss, PP. I know this post REALLY irks me, but i have not experienced the loss of a spouse like you have....I can only imagine.

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is me, even though I choose to be single ATM. I've always had a ton of men trying to get to me. I currently have very rich and some even famous men in my DMs trying to talk to me

1) I'm conventionally attractive, "beautiful" according to most people
2) I have a positive attitude and am generally happy go lucky
3) I dont care that much about male approval which seems to call it to you, bizarrely
4) I'm an interesting, fun conversationalist.

I think that's about it. It's not that complicated, men are simple creatures.

This is funny. A ton of men trying to get you is of course because you are attractive. That is how the universe works.
You are happy go lucky because men and women treat you nicer because you are attractive.
You don't care about male approval because you already have it because you are attractive.
You are interesting and fun to men because you are attractive. You could be talking about how wallpaper dries on a wall after application and men will find that fascinating because you are attractive.
Yes men are simple creatures, they like attractive females.

Anonymous wrote:I think this is me, even though I choose to be single ATM. I've always had a ton of men trying to get to me. I currently have very rich and some even famous men in my DMs trying to talk to me

1) I'm conventionally attractive, "beautiful" according to most people
2) I have a positive attitude and am generally happy go lucky
3) I dont care that much about male approval which seems to call it to you, bizarrely
4) I'm an interesting, fun conversationalist.

I think that's about it. It's not that complicated, men are simple creatures.

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Anonymous wrote:Knowing your worth, and being open to love is a big thing. Also, sometimes part of it is just luck. There are really awesome people who continually get the short end of the stick. I learned at an early age that life isn’t fair a lot of the time and there is no rhyme or reason to it.

So much is about finding someone that didn't have a f____ked up childhood. A person's childhood is such a major red flag that so many miss and don't see how it will play out in middle age, the leftover, unaddressed issues and learned coping mechanisms.

I will heavily council my kids to look at their future partner's parents/family relationships very carefully.

I also think she had a lot of tragedy early in life (her mom dying young) and now karma is coming back to her in a good way. She seems like a genuinely good, warm-hearted, emotionally-sound person.

absolutely +1

Not everyone is permanently ruined because of messed up childhoods that were no fault of our own. It’s sad that you are implying these people should be doomed by a life of loneliness over circumstances which were beyond their control. Very heartless and cruel. Varied experiences and yes, even adversity can bring genuine compassion and appreciation to many relationships.

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Anonymous wrote:Knowing your worth, and being open to love is a big thing. Also, sometimes part of it is just luck. There are really awesome people who continually get the short end of the stick. I learned at an early age that life isn’t fair a lot of the time and there is no rhyme or reason to it.

So much is about finding someone that didn't have a f____ked up childhood. A person's childhood is such a major red flag that so many miss and don't see how it will play out in middle age, the leftover, unaddressed issues and learned coping mechanisms.

I will heavily council my kids to look at their future partner's parents/family relationships very carefully.

I also think she had a lot of tragedy early in life (her mom dying young) and now karma is coming back to her in a good way. She seems like a genuinely good, warm-hearted, emotionally-sound person.

Anonymous wrote:They are usually:
Loving
Open
Warm
Attractive

Women who make their male partners feel loved will never be alone. I've seen many examples of this in my life.

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Anonymous wrote:Witnessing the illness of your spouse and becoming a young widow isn't lucky in love... It's terrible luck.

Well yes. Of course it is. But finding not one, but two great husbands in a relatively short period of time Is lucky in love. That doesn’t mean lucky in all aspects of life, as you point out, obviously.

OP here. I actually read her blog because I started off my career in the foreign policy and think tank circles. While I never met Shawn Brimley, I certainly know people who worked with him. I was surprised by her beautiful and raw writing and struck by her intelligence and emotional maturity. When you read her story, you realize she has not always been lucky, having lost her mother so young and in such terrible circumstances, and you cannot help but admire her resilience. She then goes off and meets this brilliant and all around wonderful guy who apparently is madly in love with her. They had a love in a brief time that most do not experience in this whole life. That is lucky!

After his unfortunate passing, she is left a widow at 40 with three little kids. That's a huge baggage. And within two years she is married again to another seemingly great guy who is madly in love with her.


She does seem tremendously lucky in love, regardless of the rest of her circumstances.

I'm the PP who said it's terrible luck. I follow Marjorie's blog because I too am a 40-something widow. This could be my grief talking, but could you please stop calling her lucky in love? It comes across as tone deaf. Even if you had an amazing first husband and another great relationship with someone after your husband's death, you aren't lucky...you are able to make good of a terrible situation. Some widows can't get out of bed for months or years. Some pour out their eloquent vulnerabilities in a blog and inspire others to get out of bed and put one foot in front of the other every day. All are doing the best they can to live through the pain of loss.

Despite feeling so grateful for the men in my life, I live so many days with the pain of my circumstances and the complications of moving on in my changing world. I worked and work hard on these relationships. Perhaps someone looking in from the outside would call it luck. Other than being in the right place at the right time in meeting someone, luck is not otherwise a factor.

+10000. You put it perfectly, it seems tone-deaf. Sorry for your loss, PP. I know this post REALLY irks me, but i have not experienced the loss of a spouse like you have....I can only imagine.