Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 21:08     Subject: Scared of losing my body
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How exactly do you shower moms shower with a mobile toddler? I’m waiting.


Shower while they sleep. At night, n the morning before they wake, at nap time. Or ensure your partner can help while you take 10 minutes. Or leave the kid in the crib and take 10 minutes.



This. Incredibly strange to claim you can’t shower because you have a child. Guarantee you the husband would never be claiming he can’t shower because he has a kid.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 21:07     Subject: Scared of losing my body
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Lady, I promise once the baby is out, you will be too tired to care. I find that the losing your body is not so much the problem... it's the losing 30-minutes a day to spend on basic hygiene, hair, makeup, putting thought into getting dressed --- that's the real reason why a lot of moms look bad. We literally DON'T HAVE TIME to put ourselves together, especially in those hyper-needy early years.


Nope. Maybe in the first 2 months when you're up all night, but nope. Don't scare expectant moms with this drama. I have always had time to bathe myself and look decent.


Really? You most either have a lot of help, one kid who is an easy baby, a hands on partner who lets you primp, or just ignore your kid.


This doesn’t make any sense. A baby sleeps at a minimum 12 hours a day. Newborns sleep up to 17 hours. If your baby is sleeping less than 12 hours total, there are likely medical issues. The average mom has 12 hours to choose from to have a shower or tend to herself.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 20:53     Subject: Re:Scared of losing my body
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Umm, you baby proof the bathroom and have the toddler play next to the tub while you shower. Clear shower curtain so you can see them. When he was a bit smaller, pack n play.


Add in 2 more kids and let’s talk then.


You can 7 children. The answer is the same:

While they sleep
While your partner watches them
While they are safely contained
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 20:52     Subject: Scared of losing my body
Anonymous wrote:How exactly do you shower moms shower with a mobile toddler? I’m waiting.


Shower while they sleep. At night, n the morning before they wake, at nap time. Or ensure your partner can help while you take 10 minutes. Or leave the kid in the crib and take 10 minutes.

Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 20:50     Subject: Re:Scared of losing my body
Anonymous wrote:Umm, you baby proof the bathroom and have the toddler play next to the tub while you shower. Clear shower curtain so you can see them. When he was a bit smaller, pack n play.


Add in 2 more kids and let’s talk then.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 20:49     Subject: Scared of losing my body
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How exactly do you shower moms shower with a mobile toddler? I’m waiting.


So many options: My husband isn't useless so he watches her. She often sleeps until 7:30 am so I shower before she wakes. I shower at night. I shower when she's at daycare (8:00-8:30 am start). I shower at work (we have a gym and I bike commute).


You have one. Just wait.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 15:09     Subject: Re:Scared of losing my body
Umm, you baby proof the bathroom and have the toddler play next to the tub while you shower. Clear shower curtain so you can see them. When he was a bit smaller, pack n play.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 14:58     Subject: Re:Scared of losing my body
You need to work out regularly. It will make your delivery easier AND your body will bounce back more quickly if you're working out before you get pregnant and then through your pregnancy.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 14:55     Subject: Scared of losing my body
Anonymous wrote:How exactly do you shower moms shower with a mobile toddler? I’m waiting.


I’m sorry, what? You don’t just stop functioning because you have a toddler. And most are mobile. You put them in a safe space. You have someone else watch them. You bring them in the bathroom and give them a book. You wait til they’re napping. How are those of you who can’t do any of these things able to function?
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 14:09     Subject: Scared of losing my body
Anonymous wrote:How exactly do you shower moms shower with a mobile toddler? I’m waiting.


What? I shower at night. Always have even before kids. Kid is either sleeping or my husband is home and watching him.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 14:00     Subject: Scared of losing my body
Anonymous wrote:Forty five year old non-mom here. It's all gonna go south eventually anyway even if you dont have kids. May as well get a kid or two and have something to blame it on!

+1
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 13:54     Subject: Re:Scared of losing my body
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:100% if you have more than one your body will suffer. Once you are holding the baby you really won't care.


I wish people would really stop this narrative. Yes, I still care...10 years later. No, my body will never be the same. Yes, it changed after the first and I will never get it back despite weight loss. Things fit differently. It sucks and there is no way around it. It is the price women pay and it makes me really annoyed when people just say "you won't care when you are holding the baby" because it dismisses a woman's feelings and once again makes her feel that she has to sacrifice everything--even her feelings--to have a baby. There is just no respect for women as independent beings.

OP...it is normal to feel this way. You may get close to your body back and you might not. A second is harder than a first but a first can still change your body permanently (my boobs are bigger forever..which I dont' like and clothes fit differently even after 1...after 2, it was worse). My oldest is 10. I still miss my prebaby body. These are normal feelings and you are not alone.


+1. No one would tell a woman undergoing chemo that it's shallow to miss having hair.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 13:53     Subject: Scared of losing my body
Anonymous wrote:How exactly do you shower moms shower with a mobile toddler? I’m waiting.


So many options: My husband isn't useless so he watches her. She often sleeps until 7:30 am so I shower before she wakes. I shower at night. I shower when she's at daycare (8:00-8:30 am start). I shower at work (we have a gym and I bike commute).
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 13:43     Subject: Scared of losing my body
Oh and more than one kid as well. There’s a big gap between non mobile infant and preschooler who can be trusted to watch tv when you shower
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2021 13:42     Subject: Scared of losing my body
How exactly do you shower moms shower with a mobile toddler? I’m waiting.