While I wish there were more, find some style icons you can relate to, fictional or real, who you can use for inspiration until you find your own style voice. The character Peach Salinger from You came to mind (turns out the actress who plays her is mixed Scottish Filipino descent - I thought she was Pakistani!) or Padma Lakshmi (who I LOVE but may be slightly edgy)

https://femalevillains.fandom.com/wiki/Peach_Salinger_(You)?file=Peach_1.03.png

https://www.sheknows.com/entertainment/articles/2482608/padma-lakshmi-daughter-princess-and-the-frog/

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My description is refined elegance.

Longer vs shorter hair

Heels vs flats

Feminine look vs too tailored

Some color in wardrobe besides gray and black

Fit vs fat

Highlights vs stark black dye or gray roots or gray

Friendly vs sullen

And it’s all about energy! So many younger women (and men) looking sloppy and conveying an unfriendly or standoffish vibe.

A monthly wax as well.

Oh, do you ask to see this before deeming a woman refined and elegant?

I believe that the subject line was Beauty and Grooming habits to appear to “UMC type” men. Get a life.

Don't smell like cigarettes or booze. Smell clean, not like perfume. Have white clean teeth and fresh breath.

Don't have frozen hair with so much product it looks crunchy..

I think the key is to 'under' do it.

- Nails are not like painted, bejeweled swords
- No false eyelashes
- Natural looking makeup
- No high stripper heels
- No super revealing clothes
- No super tight clothes
- No tattoos
- High quality handbag that doesn't look tacky

This is not rocket surgery. Don't try too hard.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My description is refined elegance.

Longer vs shorter hair

Heels vs flats

Feminine look vs too tailored

Some color in wardrobe besides gray and black

Fit vs fat

Highlights vs stark black dye or gray roots or gray

Friendly vs sullen

And it’s all about energy! So many younger women (and men) looking sloppy and conveying an unfriendly or standoffish vibe.

A monthly wax as well.

Oh, do you ask to see this before deeming a woman refined and elegant?

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Like a WASP.

You cannot look like a WASP if youre Pakistani. It would be literally impossible.

Better to give OP some real, actionable advice. Make sure you look clean, spray some perfume on, make sure you're not cooking with heavily smelly middle eastern flavors like curry as that can stick to you, wear flattering clothes that show off your figure, master a pretty, flattering makeup routine.

Good lord.

What? It's true. The Korean women in my office reek of oil. The black women smll like fast food. The white men smell like cheap deodorent. Those are just facts.

No. At best, these are anecdotes. At worst, they are racist stereotypes.

Anonymous wrote:"UMC" is a pretty broad category. We're not rich, but an Ivied-degreed man married to an Ivied-degree woman, so I think we qualify as UMC. She wears LL Bean and Ann Taylor clothes, gets her hair cut twice a year (never styled or colored), almost never wears makeup, and never does anything to her nails. So that's one example. There are a few million others, and some are at the other extreme.

No one aspires to look like you or your wife. Good god.

Anonymous wrote:My description is refined elegance.

Longer vs shorter hair

Heels vs flats

Feminine look vs too tailored

Some color in wardrobe besides gray and black

Fit vs fat

Highlights vs stark black dye or gray roots or gray

Friendly vs sullen

And it’s all about energy! So many younger women (and men) looking sloppy and conveying an unfriendly or standoffish vibe.

A monthly wax as well.

My description is refined elegance.

Longer vs shorter hair

Heels vs flats

Feminine look vs too tailored

Some color in wardrobe besides gray and black

Fit vs fat

Highlights vs stark black dye or gray roots or gray

Friendly vs sullen

And it’s all about energy! So many younger women (and men) looking sloppy and conveying an unfriendly or standoffish vibe.

Anonymous wrote:This is so stupid.

+1

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like a WASP.

You cannot look like a WASP if youre Pakistani. It would be literally impossible.

Better to give OP some real, actionable advice. Make sure you look clean, spray some perfume on, make sure you're not cooking with heavily smelly middle eastern flavors like curry as that can stick to you, wear flattering clothes that show off your figure, master a pretty, flattering makeup routine.

Good lord.

What? It's true. The Korean women in my office reek of oil. The black women smll like fast food. The white men smell like cheap deodorent. Those are just facts.

Rude. I wish that I knew you in person so that I could tell you about yourself. What if I said white women smell like wet dog???

Not the pp poster. But so what of white woman smell like wet dogs. There are things about cultures that are true. I’m Spanish but not Cuban and they smell like greasy food. It’s fact. It’s not polite to say but people think it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like a WASP.

You cannot look like a WASP if youre Pakistani. It would be literally impossible.

Better to give OP some real, actionable advice. Make sure you look clean, spray some perfume on, make sure you're not cooking with heavily smelly middle eastern flavors like curry as that can stick to you, wear flattering clothes that show off your figure, master a pretty, flattering makeup routine.

Good lord.

What? It's true. The Korean women in my office reek of oil. The black women smll like fast food. The white men smell like cheap deodorent. Those are just facts.

Rude. I wish that I knew you in person so that I could tell you about yourself. What if I said white women smell like wet dog???

if you are interested in pakistani adjacent men, you might find a lot in the medical field.

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Anonymous wrote:For OP: just find guys like me, who like Indian women no matter what they are wearing. Your advantage: you probably look good in any color.

She said she was from Pakistan.

Pakistan is on the Indian subcontinent.

Just get an arranged marriage, so much easier.