Anonymous
Post 11/07/2021 20:10     Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have 3 young kids and also somewhat recently got a puppy (he is 8 months old now and we got him at 4months). We were way too lax about obedience training initially and it made things extremely frustrating. Unlike you, we only crate at night and we do have a yard but he still chews through things constantly and jumps up etc. In the past month we got really serious about exercising him properly (dog park before work, walk after) and obedience training with treats. It has made a huge difference in his behavior. Even so, we will be sending him to a training camp for two weeks next month. It’s expensive but I do believe this intensive training will be best for him. This is all to say that caring for a dog is time consuming and expensive and you need to fully commit.

You have two choices. Take on this responsibility and get involved in dog care and training so you can properly care for him or rehome him. Present these options to your DH. Have the fight and come to a conclusion. If he refuses to pick an option you choose one and have that fight. DH may be livid if you rehome the dog but, if he is not on board with outsourcing training and taking basic care of the dog at home, it’s better for your DH to be mad at you than for this dog to be treated cruelly in your home.


Training camp won't work if you don't know how to train him and work on your relationship together. Your dog will be well trained for them, not you.


Pp here. This is helpful. He is doing well with basic commands “sit, lay, drop it” but he pulls at his leash when walking and has a hard time with “stay” and gets distracted easily. Would you recommend group classes (dog and me attending) over the training camp?
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2021 20:01     Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Explain you are not honoring his mother by neglecting another living creature. The pup needs to be where it can have more freedom & attention.


This. Either he re-homes it or he pays for a dog sitter/walker. Those are the two choices.


+1. Frame it as a choice that you feel terrible about the dog’s quality of life. Don’t let him put it off til you get a new house and build a fence - too far off. Good luck, OP. This is hard but you’re doing the right thing to take action. Don’t let another week go by like this. Even if you make him work at the kitchen table with the dog in there- use a baby gate.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2021 19:55     Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:We have 3 young kids and also somewhat recently got a puppy (he is 8 months old now and we got him at 4months). We were way too lax about obedience training initially and it made things extremely frustrating. Unlike you, we only crate at night and we do have a yard but he still chews through things constantly and jumps up etc. In the past month we got really serious about exercising him properly (dog park before work, walk after) and obedience training with treats. It has made a huge difference in his behavior. Even so, we will be sending him to a training camp for two weeks next month. It’s expensive but I do believe this intensive training will be best for him. This is all to say that caring for a dog is time consuming and expensive and you need to fully commit.

You have two choices. Take on this responsibility and get involved in dog care and training so you can properly care for him or rehome him. Present these options to your DH. Have the fight and come to a conclusion. If he refuses to pick an option you choose one and have that fight. DH may be livid if you rehome the dog but, if he is not on board with outsourcing training and taking basic care of the dog at home, it’s better for your DH to be mad at you than for this dog to be treated cruelly in your home.


Training camp won't work if you don't know how to train him and work on your relationship together. Your dog will be well trained for them, not you.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2021 19:50     Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't even like dogs and this post makes me so sad

OP, don't bother convincing your DH of anything. Just do it. You are abusing an animal. You don't need anyone's permission to stop the abuse. Just do it.


+100.


Seriously!
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2021 19:45     Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
OP, please update us on what you do.

You need to either outsource a lot of work (training, walking, hopefully doggy daycare) or rehome your puppy. You need to do this if your DH won’t. Get it done and then deal with the fallout.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2021 19:18     Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Even puppy mills treat their dogs better.


Now this is not true. Puppy mill dogs don't get any walks and are kept in cages that are covered in poop .


OP did say the dog poops in its crate…
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2021 19:15     Subject: Re:How to convince DH to rehome dog?
This sounds like you are abusing this dog. It may not seem like abuse to you but being in the crate all day and night is abuse. No wonder the dog misbehaves when it is loose.

You need to hire someone to walk this dog for a couple hours a day. Then the dog will be tired and behave better at home, so you or DH should be able to supervise without crating. You could also use a doggy daycare for the same reason.

If not, please surrender the dog. It’s young, so you may not have done irreparable damage although it’s possible.

Anonymous
Post 11/07/2021 19:11     Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:I don't even like dogs and this post makes me so sad

OP, don't bother convincing your DH of anything. Just do it. You are abusing an animal. You don't need anyone's permission to stop the abuse. Just do it.


+100.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2021 18:37     Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
I don't even like dogs and this post makes me so sad

OP, don't bother convincing your DH of anything. Just do it. You are abusing an animal. You don't need anyone's permission to stop the abuse. Just do it.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2021 18:37     Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Who walks the dog?
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2021 18:35     Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I actually question why OP keeps having kids? Seriously the dog is not a issue. I am being brutal but honest. I always see situations where one spouse is constantly trying to get rid of a dog they never wanted. FYI you are teaching your kids that things are disposable. Get it together. Your dog is in the teen phase. The fenced in yard will help but going for a walk is a good thing for everyone so do it. We work from home and our dog goes out on our breaks with whatever kid is around.

Man I have a completely different read on the situation. To me I see a husband who got a dog his wife didn’t want and then pushed the work to her. She is the only responsible one here.


This is it exactly.

OP, you need to rehome the dog.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2021 18:27     Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:Didn't you post this already, OP? If not, there was nother post exactly like this, with the crated dog, weak wife who can't make a decision on her own, and controlling husband. I hope this is the same poster, or else there are two severely abused dogs who need new homes with better humans ASAP.
Shame on you, OP.


I remember that poster. They didn’t have young kids, as I recalled.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2021 18:25     Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:Even puppy mills treat their dogs better.


Now this is not true. Puppy mill dogs don't get any walks and are kept in cages that are covered in poop .
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2021 18:24     Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Anonymous wrote:This is one of the worst posts I’ve read on here. Hi hope this is a troll.

Who keeps a dog in a crate 24/7?!


I'm a veterinarian. This story is not uncommon. Certainly not a troll I'm very sorry to say.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2021 17:13     Subject: How to convince DH to rehome dog?
Didn't you post this already, OP? If not, there was nother post exactly like this, with the crated dog, weak wife who can't make a decision on her own, and controlling husband. I hope this is the same poster, or else there are two severely abused dogs who need new homes with better humans ASAP.
Shame on you, OP.