Anonymous wrote:If it’s just one wall you can put another layer of drywall on top. That will deaden the energy quite a bit. You could ask sink more drywall screws to more firmly attach the original drywall to the studs more securely to prevent some of the vibration. Ask the building manager if they can do this. (And paint it)

I have to wonder if you've ever rented an apartment before. This isn't a thing. I can only imagine the looks any of my landlords would have given me for having the nerve to ask for this.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

Ok you really need to stop talking before you go into even more crazy territory. I hate people who use amplifier devices with a passion, but you have no business commenting on his habits or lifestyle or vibes or whatever. Get over yourself and keep to the issue at hand and look for solutions.

Why are people so triggered on this board whenever a woman describes herself as attractive? Attractive women exist and they surely are aware theyre good looking and it presents different risks/benefits for them than for others. I dont get all the pearl clutching this board does as a whole when any female poster describes herself as attractive. Not OP- but is it jealousy?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

Ok you really need to stop talking before you go into even more crazy territory. I hate people who use amplifier devices with a passion, but you have no business commenting on his habits or lifestyle or vibes or whatever. Get over yourself and keep to the issue at hand and look for solutions.

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Anonymous wrote:If it’s just one wall you can put another layer of drywall on top. That will deaden the energy quite a bit. You could ask sink more drywall screws to more firmly attach the original drywall to the studs more securely to prevent some of the vibration. Ask the building manager if they can do this. (And paint it)

Would an apartment complex be willing to do this?

That won't do much. She should just move. Anyone willing to do what that kid does clearly doesn't give a F enough to stop. You can try ask management to talk to him, but don't get your hopes up.

I'd switch apartments. Problem solved.

Sorry, I lived next to some med students when I was in law school with super loud bass from video games and the repetitiveness of the noise is what got me, not the late nights. Bass noises from video games are very annoying. It’s also just so unnecessary—you live in an apartment with shared walls, why TF would any non sociopath have the bass turned up?! They were young men, of course. They did not respond to complaining to them directly, they only became louder. Thankfully the building took care of it.

You got a lot of good advice re documenting and repeatedly complaining to management and offering solutions like using headphones. If management doesn’t fix the problem within a couple months, you’re in your rights to ask them to give you a new apartment in the building or to break your lease and move. There’s no exact law I’m aware of, but I’d feel comfortable leaving my security deposit as last months rent and GTFO on 30 days notice of their failure to deal with the noise. Especially with months of documenting the problem.

Anonymous wrote:If it’s just one wall you can put another layer of drywall on top. That will deaden the energy quite a bit. You could ask sink more drywall screws to more firmly attach the original drywall to the studs more securely to prevent some of the vibration. Ask the building manager if they can do this. (And paint it)

Would an apartment complex be willing to do this?

If it’s just one wall you can put another layer of drywall on top. That will deaden the energy quite a bit. You could ask sink more drywall screws to more firmly attach the original drywall to the studs more securely to prevent some of the vibration. Ask the building manager if they can do this. (And paint it)

Anonymous wrote:Not helpful to you here, but this reminds me of when my son and his roommates in college had an off-campus apartment. Once when I visited, a young woman from the next door apartment appeared, demanded to know if I was "one of their moms", then went off on a rant about how loud and obnoxious the boys were late into the night, every night, leaving her too tired for her morning classes. I gave her my phone number and told her to call me directly if she ever heard them again.

Then I told the boys that they needed to make sure that their music and video games were NEVER loud enough to disturb the neighbor. I called her to check up on this a few times.

Again, not helpful to you, but it's a story my son hates me to tell. His friends think it is hilarious, though.

Nice. She probably knew that a mom/woman would be much nicer about it. Young men have a tendency to be so needlessly oppositional

Complain each time he does it. Document it and make it their problem. Good luck OP, you seem like a nice person.

Anonymous wrote:if someone is an incel, he’d find any woman attractive.

Although I doubt OP is attractive, certainly she is not from a soul perspective assuming she is not a troll, I doubt also this is a true statement. Physical attractiveness is mostly ingrained. Being able to have or not have someone doesn't change their inherent attractiveness.

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Anonymous wrote:He stops at 6 a.m. At 6:05 am you start playing loud polka music, religious revivals, dogs barking, or babies crying, perhaps a combination of all these.

As a man, I would understand this message. I would also respect the sender of this message.

If an attractive woman came to me and made the request to turn down my music, all the blood would go to my smaller head and I would not hear a word that she is saying.

Google kid practicing the violin. It is torturous to listen to. Turn up the volume. Enjoy!

if someone is an incel, he’d find any woman attractive.

A delivery from 7-11?

Surely the lease agreement must have a reasonable noise policy prohibiting certain noises at certain hours and unreasonable noises at all other times. Similar situation. We complained to the building and documented the complaints. That would be the first step. You do not have to put up with this.