Anonymous
Post 10/21/2021 15:04     Subject: Why wouldn’t this person just SAHM for a year or two?
Anonymous wrote:I do think it's odd and would be interested to hear why this woman chose this, just out of pure curiosity. But I also know it's none of my business. I wouldn't come right out and ask her about it.


OP here and this is literally why I asked on here. It struck me as a surprising and uncommon choice and I was curious, but this is a person like and don’t know well and I wouldn’t ask. I should have guessed how it would be received here (I was not judging her or people who do admin/clerical jobs, though I can see how the way I wrote it was not clear on that point.

A bunch of PPs have offered thoughtful responses and I appreciate that, though I wish I’d never posted the thread because I’ve also been called disgusting and gross.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2021 14:44     Subject: Why wouldn’t this person just SAHM for a year or two?
I can't imagine judging someone in this situation. This is between her and her spouse and she doesn't owe you an explanation. There are many reasons.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2021 14:40     Subject: Why wouldn’t this person just SAHM for a year or two?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Being with young children is a hard job. Many women are not able to handle it. I prefer that these women work then be at home and create a toxic environment for their children.


That’s like saying some women that stay at home we’re just unemployable. And it’s sad that they’re home with their children because they probably suck at that too.


DP what? Where do you see that in what PP said?


She said that people work they can’t handle being at home And being with their children is toxic. Did you miss that part?
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2021 14:39     Subject: Why wouldn’t this person just SAHM for a year or two?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Being with young children is a hard job. Many women are not able to handle it. I prefer that these women work then be at home and create a toxic environment for their children.


That’s like saying some women that stay at home we’re just unemployable. And it’s sad that they’re home with their children because they probably suck at that too.


DP what? Where do you see that in what PP said?
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2021 14:13     Subject: Why wouldn’t this person just SAHM for a year or two?
Anonymous wrote:Being with young children is a hard job. Many women are not able to handle it. I prefer that these women work then be at home and create a toxic environment for their children.


That’s like saying some women that stay at home we’re just unemployable. And it’s sad that they’re home with their children because they probably suck at that too.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2021 14:12     Subject: Why wouldn’t this person just SAHM for a year or two?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The economy works when people work. She is working and her nanny is working, too.

The government sure likes it. The majority of her income is likely going to taxes.


Which would go to helping people if the Republicans would stop being d!cks.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2021 14:08     Subject: Why wouldn’t this person just SAHM for a year or two?
Anonymous wrote:If you had a kid under 3/4 (so not preschool age) and your spouse made a lot of money, why would you choose to work a low paid admin job that barely (or didn’t quite) cover the cost of your nanny instead of just staying home a couple years until your kid started PK?

I’m normally unphased by whatever work/childcare situation someone sets up (I work, ftr) but I don’t get this one. She doesn’t have a career to protect and her job is the sort you can find anytime. Is it just that some people don’t want or can’t handle that much time with a baby or toddler? It just seems odd.


Maybe she enjoys getti g her own paycheck? Her spouse is also paying towards child care too. Maybe it is mentally healthy for her to work or maybe her spouse treats her with more respect because she works?

If it isn't you I don't know why you care! MYOB!
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2021 14:02     Subject: Why wouldn’t this person just SAHM for a year or two?
Anonymous wrote:How are you related to this person OP and why do you care? You sound like my MIL who kept badgering me to stay home because she felt my career was beneath her dignity. Never mind that I make 5 times the salary now thanks to not dropping out of the workplace. Women like you are the worst.


+1000
Special place in hell etc etc
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2021 13:34     Subject: Why wouldn’t this person just SAHM for a year or two?
How are you related to this person OP and why do you care? You sound like my MIL who kept badgering me to stay home because she felt my career was beneath her dignity. Never mind that I make 5 times the salary now thanks to not dropping out of the workplace. Women like you are the worst.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2021 12:56     Subject: Why wouldn’t this person just SAHM for a year or two?
Anonymous[b wrote:]My mom became a better mom after she started WOH part time. [/b]I wish she had started sooner. Being at home full time with two young children is really hard and is not for everyone. Just because that particular set up is not for you doesn't mean you shouldn't have children (nobody assumes that of men). It's okay to not be with your children full time, doesn't make you less of a parent.


This. An easy, low-stress job sounds like a really good idea for women who are going a little nutty at home but don’t necessarily need to make a lot of money. Just having a little something to call your own can be great for your mental health. And that’s a good thing for your kids!
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2021 12:47     Subject: Why wouldn’t this person just SAHM for a year or two?
Being with young children is a hard job. Many women are not able to handle it. I prefer that these women work then be at home and create a toxic environment for their children.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2021 12:45     Subject: Why wouldn’t this person just SAHM for a year or two?
My mom became a better mom after she started WOH part time. I wish she had started sooner. Being at home full time with two young children is really hard and is not for everyone. Just because that particular set up is not for you doesn't mean you shouldn't have children (nobody assumes that of men). It's okay to not be with your children full time, doesn't make you less of a parent.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2021 12:31     Subject: Why wouldn’t this person just SAHM for a year or two?
I do think it's odd and would be interested to hear why this woman chose this, just out of pure curiosity. But I also know it's none of my business. I wouldn't come right out and ask her about it.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2021 12:29     Subject: Re:Why wouldn’t this person just SAHM for a year or two?
Sounds like she doesn’t want to.

Fwiw as a SAHM, once they can walk and talk they require a lot of programming.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2021 12:28     Subject: Why wouldn’t this person just SAHM for a year or two?
Nobody can win, can they?

Just leave it alone, please.