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Anonymous wrote:100% financed her tuition
Trip to Ireland
Graduation dinner
Gift Cards
One free dinner a week for her + BF for a year on her credit card
Paid for cell phone until we retire

Spoiled much ?

Who does this?

I can more than afford this and yes I’m judging.

Agree, this is surprising. I'm envisioning an older set of parents and an only child. Spoiled, undoubtedly.

+ 2. Our only child has a trust fund (for when she is in her late 20s). We will not be doing this nonsense. You are not doing your kid any favors here.unlesss you are trying to make her dependent on you? A trip and celebratory dinner sounds really nice if you can afford it.

LOL! Your kid has a trust fund + you think someone else's kid is spoiled? Look in the mirror. You are a hypocrite.

Anonymous wrote:We are getting DS a TAG watch. With his college seal on the face. He was going to buy one for himself over winter break but we told him he may want to wait until May, so he knows he’s getting a watch.

After his freshman year we bought a new car - he and his younger brother were working and we needed an extra vehicle so everyone could get to work. We’ve told him he has to pay us some money for it when he graduates if he wants to keep it. But DH and I are pretty sure we’re just going to give it to him.

I'm sorry, but eww about the college seal on face. eww.

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Anonymous wrote:Debt free college. Seriously. And at this point both kids appreciate it as they see some of their friends paying off big loans.

Us too

You don’t take them to dinner on graduation night?

Of course, with extended family over a whole weekend of events. With one kid there was a catered event for a bunch of kids and their families that we contributed $1000 to. We also paid for the hotels for several family members so they could attend. I don't think either kid counted that as a gift.

We also helped both get set up in their first apartments (including the apartment deposit, broker fee, and furniture). And they already had cars we had paid for (although they were 5-6 years old by the time they graduated from college). And we paid for grad school. I feel like that is pretty fair.

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Anonymous wrote:100% financed her tuition
Trip to Ireland
Graduation dinner
Gift Cards
One free dinner a week for her + BF for a year on her credit card
Paid for cell phone until we retire

Spoiled much ?

Who does this?

I can more than afford this and yes I’m judging.

Agree, this is surprising. I'm envisioning an older set of parents and an only child. Spoiled, undoubtedly.

Np. Pp you sound jealous! Not your kid, not your money do you shouldn't judge!

Funny! I read this 7 x wondering what I’m missing

I still don’t see a big deal in the post

Thank you! My attitude is YOLOBRO! We would rather see our child enjoy life now than have to wait until she is 50 and we leave her millions when we die.DH + I grew up dirt poor. Rich now. Went to crappy state u. + crappy law school for me + crappy mba for DH. Kid went to best privates + HYP. Earns $300k at age 28. American Dream!

Were talking parental decisionmaking and character development. No YOLOBRO. She obviously thinks everything will be handed to her so will be back, spoiled, asking for the $100K wedding and first home (oh, right, you are going to give those to her too).

What exactly on the list is over the top?

A trip? What am I missing?

Thanks for your reply. We never bought our kid a car of any kind. We live in the city and she took public transportation everywhere. She has a driver's license just in case she ever needed it. She did great in college. I grew up with 10 kids in my family. We bought our own stuff starting from age 12. DH + I taught our dd the same hard work values.u

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Anonymous wrote:100% financed her tuition
Trip to Ireland
Graduation dinner
Gift Cards
One free dinner a week for her + BF for a year on her credit card
Paid for cell phone until we retire

Spoiled much ?

Who does this?

I can more than afford this and yes I’m judging.

Agree, this is surprising. I'm envisioning an older set of parents and an only child. Spoiled, undoubtedly.

Np. Pp you sound jealous! Not your kid, not your money do you shouldn't judge!

Funny! I read this 7 x wondering what I’m missing

I still don’t see a big deal in the post

Thank you! My attitude is YOLOBRO! We would rather see our child enjoy life now than have to wait until she is 50 and we leave her millions when we die.DH + I grew up dirt poor. Rich now. Went to crappy state u. + crappy law school for me + crappy mba for DH. Kid went to best privates + HYP. Earns $300k at age 28. American Dream!

Were talking parental decisionmaking and character development. No YOLOBRO. She obviously thinks everything will be handed to her so will be back, spoiled, asking for the $100K wedding and first home (oh, right, you are going to give those to her too).

What exactly on the list is over the top?

A trip? What am I missing?

A suitcase to match her carryon. DC wants to move to Europe.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:100% financed her tuition
Trip to Ireland
Graduation dinner
Gift Cards
One free dinner a week for her + BF for a year on her credit card
Paid for cell phone until we retire

Spoiled much ?

Who does this?

I can more than afford this and yes I’m judging.

Agree, this is surprising. I'm envisioning an older set of parents and an only child. Spoiled, undoubtedly.

+ 2. Our only child has a trust fund (for when she is in her late 20s). We will not be doing this nonsense. You are not doing your kid any favors here.unlesss you are trying to make her dependent on you? A trip and celebratory dinner sounds really nice if you can afford it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:100% financed her tuition
Trip to Ireland
Graduation dinner
Gift Cards
One free dinner a week for her + BF for a year on her credit card
Paid for cell phone until we retire

Spoiled much ?

Who does this?

I can more than afford this and yes I’m judging.

Agree, this is surprising. I'm envisioning an older set of parents and an only child. Spoiled, undoubtedly.

Np. Pp you sound jealous! Not your kid, not your money do you shouldn't judge!

Funny! I read this 7 x wondering what I’m missing

I still don’t see a big deal in the post

Thank you! My attitude is YOLOBRO! We would rather see our child enjoy life now than have to wait until she is 50 and we leave her millions when we die.DH + I grew up dirt poor. Rich now. Went to crappy state u. + crappy law school for me + crappy mba for DH. Kid went to best privates + HYP. Earns $300k at age 28. American Dream!

Were talking parental decisionmaking and character development. No YOLOBRO. She obviously thinks everything will be handed to her so will be back, spoiled, asking for the $100K wedding and first home (oh, right, you are going to give those to her too).

DP. You have no way of knowing that about PP's daughter. With that salary, she won't need financial help from her parents.

Macbook pro. Had crappy computer through college. Can't afford anything else. Was a nice, $2K gift.

Younger kid got nothing. Wanted to bank the $2K for future use, probably against the price of a car.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:100% financed her tuition
Trip to Ireland
Graduation dinner
Gift Cards
One free dinner a week for her + BF for a year on her credit card
Paid for cell phone until we retire

Spoiled much ?

Who does this?

I can more than afford this and yes I’m judging.

Agree, this is surprising. I'm envisioning an older set of parents and an only child. Spoiled, undoubtedly.

Np. Pp you sound jealous! Not your kid, not your money do you shouldn't judge!

Funny! I read this 7 x wondering what I’m missing

I still don’t see a big deal in the post

Thank you! My attitude is YOLOBRO! We would rather see our child enjoy life now than have to wait until she is 50 and we leave her millions when we die.DH + I grew up dirt poor. Rich now. Went to crappy state u. + crappy law school for me + crappy mba for DH. Kid went to best privates + HYP. Earns $300k at age 28. American Dream!

Were talking parental decisionmaking and character development. No YOLOBRO. She obviously thinks everything will be handed to her so will be back, spoiled, asking for the $100K wedding and first home (oh, right, you are going to give those to her too).