Anonymous
Post 10/05/2021 13:24     Subject: Pretending to be Southern
Anonymous wrote:Tell him if he wants to be southern, he will have to give up the scrapple, Lebanon bologna, and chow-chow. And no gravy on his chicken and waffles, your strictly a maple syrup-with-fried chicken-and-waffles family now.

He may reconsider.


Wait, what? Scrapple is very Southern. At least, back in NC where I'm from, it's still very much on menus today. Not a thing of the past. Alas.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2021 13:22     Subject: Pretending to be Southern
Anonymous wrote:My mom's family is southern. My mom calls an even where you put hamburgers on the grill a "barbeque". She also calls the cuisine that consists of pulled meat with sweet tomato-based sauce on it "barbeque".

And we call our mothers "mom". Except me, I am "mommy" to my kids. I don't think anyway has used "mama" past the age of two.

I think your husband is weird. But most husbands are weird in some way, and this is relatively benign.


DP. Just addressing part of your post, not OP's husband's problem, but: Your family does "mom" but that's your family. Our family (NC) has used "Mama" for generations--like, back into the mid-19th century--and I am "Mama" to my young adult child and always will be. It's cool whatever any family chooses, just don't assume what one family does is what others choose to use. Most of my peers (I'm Southern) used mom for their mothers and are mom themselves to their kids, and that's fine. But Mamas do still exist.

Now, if the OP's husband wants OP to call him her "Daddy," that's just....weird!
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2021 13:17     Subject: Pretending to be Southern
Anonymous wrote:I'd go all in. Get yourself some of those old fashioned Southern Belle dresses, complete with parasol and giant hat, adopt a Southern accent, and talk only in Southern phrases. Keep at it all day, every day until he gives in.


Not OP, but: I love your mind.

Do this, OP. Go full Scarlett O'Hara on him.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2021 13:10     Subject: Re:Pretending to be Southern
Anonymous wrote:That’s very weird. My husband is actually southern, but doesn’t have an accent, nor say “cookout” or “momma”.


I don’t get it. Why does he prefer these words? Just because they sound southern??
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2021 12:59     Subject: Pretending to be Southern
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m from northern VA. One of my childhood friends went to UNC and she came back for winter break with a full on southern accent and a love of country music. It was so weird (she joined a sorority so I guess it was like a Southern Immersion Program or something!)


Funny. I'm from the south, went to unc in the early 80s and came home with a NJ accent. Duke, UNC and other NC schools were over run by kids from up north.


So true. My ex girlfriend went to Duke and she used to call it SUNY (State University of New York) at Durham.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2021 12:39     Subject: Pretending to be Southern
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Anonymous wrote:This must be a troll. I don't understand this at all.

I don't know anyone who says cookout. It's BBQ. But I'm from TX, not the South[b], so maybe it's different there but never heard that.

I will say that while I have hints of Texas-isms in my speech I don't force that on my kids. My kids speak like they're from NOVA, which is how it should be. How odd.


Pssst Texas is the South.

OP, it sounds like a mental disorder.


Yeah, so you missed the part where it says, I"m from Texas, not the South explicitly in the post, huh?


No, he was correcting the PP. Wasn't that obvious?

Texas was part of the Confederacy. It's the south. I know Texans take pride in being unique, or thinking they are, at least, [b]but to the rest of the country, they're part of the South, geographically, culturally, and politically.


That's because you're too lazy to understand nuance in culture. The cultures are not the same at all. But if you're not really familiar with either, you wouldn't be able to identify the differences.


Uh huh. You know, people who grew up in Montgomery County, MD, and Arlington, VA, insist that there are dramatic differences between the two counties, they'd never live in the other one, yada yada yada. To the rest of the thinking world, they're exactly the freakin' same.

That little parable seems relevant here.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2021 12:39     Subject: Pretending to be Southern
Tell him if he wants to be southern, he will have to give up the scrapple, Lebanon bologna, and chow-chow. And no gravy on his chicken and waffles, your strictly a maple syrup-with-fried chicken-and-waffles family now.

He may reconsider.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2021 12:37     Subject: Pretending to be Southern
Anonymous wrote:My DH insists that we raise our children to speak like they are southern. I love the south and the southern culture, but we live in Northern Virginia. People don't speak that way here. My DH is just a poser. Whenever I am telling a story or visiting with other moms, my DH will interrupt me to correct a term I use if it isn't southern. For example, if I refer to a BBQ, he steps in and says "cook out". If I use the word "mom", he steps in and says "momma". All the flipping time. I should add he was raised is rural Pennsylvania and no one else in his family uses southern terms. I have progressed from giving him the evil eye to telling him how unattractive his behavior is and that enough is enough. Bless his heart!

Rant over.
BBQ is what I've heard in the South and cook out up here. You are free to use mother, mum, madre, ma, momma, mom, mommy, "Angela" or whatever your mother's name is, my old lady, nana (since she's grandma), noni, granny, mee-maw etc. The only exception is if his mother herself asks you to call her "momma" on her own volition.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2021 12:33     Subject: Re:Pretending to be Southern
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's not a terrible idea. In the rest of the world, people prefer the southern accent to the standard American accent.


Which Southern accent? The genteel, sweet as molasses, slow drawl? Or the Cletus, “The Slack-jawed Yokel,” (from the Simpsons) one? There isn’t one Southern accent.


Exactly. I'm from NC and there is a distinct difference just across the state particularly for men. Guys from Charlotte had a very different accent from Raleigh guys who also had accents that were very different from Eastern NC.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2021 12:31     Subject: Pretending to be Southern
Anonymous wrote:I’m from northern VA. One of my childhood friends went to UNC and she came back for winter break with a full on southern accent and a love of country music. It was so weird (she joined a sorority so I guess it was like a Southern Immersion Program or something!)


Funny. I'm from the south, went to unc in the early 80s and came home with a NJ accent. Duke, UNC and other NC schools were over run by kids from up north.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2021 12:31     Subject: Re:Pretending to be Southern
Anonymous wrote:It's not a terrible idea. In the rest of the world, people prefer the southern accent to the standard American accent.


Which Southern accent? The genteel, sweet as molasses, slow drawl? Or the Cletus, “The Slack-jawed Yokel,” (from the Simpsons) one? There isn’t one Southern accent.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2021 12:31     Subject: Pretending to be Southern
Anonymous wrote:It's poseur.
- foreigner.
OP is correct with poser. I have never seen anyone use poseur. Poseur is esoteric at best, but technically okay in circles of French descent. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/poser
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2021 12:25     Subject: Re:Pretending to be Southern
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Anonymous wrote:That’s very weird. My husband is actually southern, but doesn’t have an accent, nor say “cookout” or “momma”.


Mine is southern as well. It isn't his accent (which is mostly vanished) or his words (although he does have some beauts) that give him away. It's his Southern Gentleman type attitude. Polite, polite, polite. Never quite saying you don't like something. Putting others before himself, always. At least in public. Gentle. It is his manners. Not his "momma" or going to a "cookout" (I say cookout, not him, and I am definitely NOT Southern!!)


Everyone claims southerners are ke this, but the vast majority or elected officials from the south are anything but. Weird. It's almost as if this is a complete myth - a facade to cover for selfish, malignant tendencies.


Some southerners are ACTUALLY like this. Maybe depends upon where you hail from.


NP. There are some people like that everywhere. I’ve lived in the South (multiple states), the Midwest (multiple states) and the Mid Atlantic (DC and MD), and I’ve encountered more people who are genuinely like that in the Midwest than in the South. IME, it’s more performative than genuine for a lot of Southerners.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2021 12:21     Subject: Pretending to be Southern
Maybe he thinks being southern is a step up from Pensyltucky?

I am southern and do say cookout but don't say momma. Usually southern accents are looked down upon in this area, at least in my experience.
Anonymous
Post 10/05/2021 12:21     Subject: Pretending to be Southern
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m from northern VA. One of my childhood friends went to UNC and she came back for winter break with a full on southern accent and a love of country music. It was so weird (she joined a sorority so I guess it was like a Southern Immersion Program or something!)


Sororities are not southern immersion programs dumbass.


I think a sorority at UNC is probably the closest thing there is to a southern immersion program, actually. Well, aside from a sorority at Ole Miss or Auburn or something.


And you would be incorrect. You simply don’t have a clue what you are writing about, not a clue. But your prejudice is showing.