Anonymous
Post 10/11/2021 13:01     Subject: Re:I think he’s cheating

Anonymous wrote:Just go out of town again and hire a PI for that weekend. Easy.


But why? It is blatantly obvious he's cheating.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2021 13:00     Subject: Re:I think he’s cheating

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP are you thinking he’s doing it in your own house, in your own bed? That’s just too much. Lying, cheating and total disregard for you, the marriage. And the whole thing seems so weird, like it has a weird addictive component to it. Agree with other posters to set up a camera or even a voice recorder to find out what’s going on. You should check on legalities, but if it’s your own house I would think you have a right to monitor it. For security and all.


Op here
Cats out of the bag, if he has done it in the past I don’t think he’ll do it now. And he’s at his brothers place now.


Unless he acknowledges what he’s doing and works to understand what’s driving the behavior, it will happen again.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2021 12:58     Subject: Re:I think he’s cheating

Just go out of town again and hire a PI for that weekend. Easy.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2021 12:58     Subject: I think he’s cheating

Anonymous wrote:Really tough situation, OP. What are you going to do about it? No need for you to feel stupid. He’s a liar and you’re not wrong for wanting to believe him.


Op is pretty stupid if she still isnt sure hes cheating
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2021 12:57     Subject: I think he’s cheating

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PS my DH always changes the sheets when I come back from being out of town - just so we can have clean sheets. So it could be legit. Does your cat puke a lot?


I think your situation is rare... any other DHs considerate enough to change the sheets?


I’m pretty sure the cat didn’t puke the last time she was out of town either.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2021 12:56     Subject: I think he’s cheating

Really tough situation, OP. What are you going to do about it? No need for you to feel stupid. He’s a liar and you’re not wrong for wanting to believe him.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2021 12:52     Subject: I think he’s cheating

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP Here.
This came to a head yesterday. I was told c ring was for self fulfillment. Is that a thing? Also is v iagra used for self fulfillment?


Guy here. Seems unbelievable, but not entirely impossible. I mean, where the heck is he self-fulfilling himself? In a parking lot somewhere? If I were using one or both of those things, I would actually be kind of excited to let my wife know all about it. The fact he didn't tell you is definitely odd. Yeah I would call BS on this.


Op here

The whole story is I came home from a night away. The sheets are changed, there’s a v wrapper in the trash, the condoms are in the house (box open but all accounted for) and so is the wandering c ring. He claims condoms and v are for us and the ring for self fulfillment. Cat puked on the bed so he had to change the sheets just like the last time I was out of town.
I know it sounds ridiculous I’m even questioning his explanations


You originally said the condoms were in the truck.


Op here
True. They came into the house when I left for the weekend. They were in truck for at least 3 weeks previously.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2021 12:46     Subject: I think he’s cheating

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP Here.
This came to a head yesterday. I was told c ring was for self fulfillment. Is that a thing? Also is v iagra used for self fulfillment?


Guy here. Seems unbelievable, but not entirely impossible. I mean, where the heck is he self-fulfilling himself? In a parking lot somewhere? If I were using one or both of those things, I would actually be kind of excited to let my wife know all about it. The fact he didn't tell you is definitely odd. Yeah I would call BS on this.


Op here

The whole story is I came home from a night away. The sheets are changed, there’s a v wrapper in the trash, the condoms are in the house (box open but all accounted for) and so is the wandering c ring. He claims condoms and v are for us and the ring for self fulfillment. Cat puked on the bed so he had to change the sheets just like the last time I was out of town.
I know it sounds ridiculous I’m even questioning his explanations


You originally said the condoms were in the truck.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2021 12:40     Subject: I think he’s cheating

Anonymous wrote:Can't tell if OP is stupid or gullible


Op here
I think I’m gullible, naive and overly trusting.
But feel really stupid.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2021 12:39     Subject: I think he’s cheating

Anonymous wrote:PS my DH always changes the sheets when I come back from being out of town - just so we can have clean sheets. So it could be legit. Does your cat puke a lot?


I think your situation is rare... any other DHs considerate enough to change the sheets?
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2021 12:35     Subject: Re:I think he’s cheating

Anonymous wrote:OP are you thinking he’s doing it in your own house, in your own bed? That’s just too much. Lying, cheating and total disregard for you, the marriage. And the whole thing seems so weird, like it has a weird addictive component to it. Agree with other posters to set up a camera or even a voice recorder to find out what’s going on. You should check on legalities, but if it’s your own house I would think you have a right to monitor it. For security and all.


Op here
Cats out of the bag, if he has done it in the past I don’t think he’ll do it now. And he’s at his brothers place now.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2021 12:35     Subject: I think he’s cheating

Can't tell if OP is stupid or gullible
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2021 12:34     Subject: Re:I think he’s cheating

Anonymous wrote:That's a cock ring. Bigger because it goes around all the equipment. Sounds like your husband is gay.

I’m learning at 45+. Never heard of such a thing!
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2021 12:31     Subject: Re:I think he’s cheating

OP are you thinking he’s doing it in your own house, in your own bed? That’s just too much. Lying, cheating and total disregard for you, the marriage. And the whole thing seems so weird, like it has a weird addictive component to it. Agree with other posters to set up a camera or even a voice recorder to find out what’s going on. You should check on legalities, but if it’s your own house I would think you have a right to monitor it. For security and all.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2021 12:28     Subject: I think he’s cheating

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP Here.
This came to a head yesterday. I was told c ring was for self fulfillment. Is that a thing? Also is v iagra used for self fulfillment?


Guy here. Seems unbelievable, but not entirely impossible. I mean, where the heck is he self-fulfilling himself? In a parking lot somewhere? If I were using one or both of those things, I would actually be kind of excited to let my wife know all about it. The fact he didn't tell you is definitely odd. Yeah I would call BS on this.


Op here

The whole story is I came home from a night away. The sheets are changed, there’s a v wrapper in the trash, the condoms are in the house (box open but all accounted for) and so is the wandering c ring. He claims condoms and v are for us and the ring for self fulfillment. Cat puked on the bed so he had to change the sheets just like the last time I was out of town.
I know it sounds ridiculous I’m even questioning his explanations


Okay, now the whole story is definitely unbelievable. No man self-fulfills wearing a condom. Just doesn't happen.


Op here
The condoms weren’t claimed for self fulfillment only the ring. No explanation for the v wrapper in the trash, I assumed defense would be self fulfillment.