Do both of your parents really need to be in the car for this? Can just grandpa take him?

Ditch the tutoring session for an on-line one at home with a gap after school. I doubt he's gaining much through this.

Kid should never be rude to grandparents, but you're setting him up for failure here.
I don't know if this is the case with you, but my mom can be very annoying to my tween/teen kids: talks to them like babies, has a higher pitch voice towards them, digs in with joking remarks that really fall flat or are a bit invasive. They love each other but she doesn't have sensitivity to them becoming tweens/teens. There's also a little tension because grandma was the favorite when they were younger but now papa is more liked and now she's amping up what used to work. It's painful to watch, and my kids are polite but not as engaged, but I would never put my kid in the situation where immediately after school and before tutoring they had to deal with her.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG I am so tired of the excuses we make for these kids. Send a snack and tell him to shape up. Apologize to your mom.

Honestly, you don't get to be rude in the world because you are tired. You might as well learn when you're 12.

Yes he's being rude, but so is grandma. You don't pester someone who has made it clear that they are stressed and anxious and don't want to talk to you. Shouldn't the emotional needs of the child come before the grown a$$ woman?

+1 It’s natural for a 12 year old to be cranky in this situation, and you’ve gotten some good suggestions for working on his rudeness and dealing with the poor timing of this session. But how self-absorbed and clueless of your mom! I think I’d hire someone to drive him instead of subjecting him to her ridiculous behavior.

Anonymous wrote:OMG I am so tired of the excuses we make for these kids. Send a snack and tell him to shape up. Apologize to your mom.

Honestly, you don't get to be rude in the world because you are tired. You might as well learn when you're 12.

Yes he's being rude, but so is grandma. You don't pester someone who has made it clear that they are stressed and anxious and don't want to talk to you. Shouldn't the emotional needs of the child come before the grown a$$ woman?

12 is old enough to have an opinion about tutoring. Let him stop if he hates it. You run the risk of him hating school (maybe more than he already does).

They should swing through the McDonalds drive thru and then be quiet while he eats it. Maybe back the tutoring up half an hour. Quiet time, eating time, then tutoring time.