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Anonymous wrote:I was searching around to see if any documents were available for the case. I didn't find them but found the court is uploading the trial exhibits to their website. I haven't looked yet, but be warned, they might be graphic if they uploaded scene photos. They can be found here

https://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/circuit/high-profile-cases

Omg. I read the telegram conversation. I wish I hadn’t. So disturbing on many levels.

My Takeaway on the telegram conversations was that Joe wanted to make sure that he didn’t cross any boundaries with who he thought was Christine. Wanted to make sure that he arrived when he was told and left when he was told and did only things that “she” consented to.

I wonder if this will have an effect on the fetish community — like it’s a major red flag if the only comms are via messages, and the person says don’t actually confirm the intent and limits with me when we meet in person. Hopefully no one ever does this again — I can see someone setting something like this up as revenge on an ex. Consent should always be confirmed in person.

I really hope so. Anyone on that website should take this case to heart to protect themselves and ensure they don't do harm to others.

The depravity of BB is astonishing. To think something like this up. To work toward it for months. To have conversations with a stranger and know you are sentencing him to death. And then, to not just murder your wife - the mother of your child - but to make her suffer, to make her last moments on earth unbearably painful. How did he even get to that point? It's unfathomable to me. Pure pure evil.

The truth of the matter is that Joe was engaging in risky behavior. Not behavior for which he should be murdered but risky behavior none the less. Meeting sex for strangers is risky.

Thank you Captain Obvious. Where would we be 1 million pages into this topic without you to educate us?

If Joe had not agreed to this, we wouldn’t be here would we?

What you should be asking or saying is that we wouldn’t be here if Brendan didn’t plot to murder his wife in cold blood. Like a Psychopath!

Did you read the telegram? The things he was talking about were violent and horrifying. Adding in comments about boundaries doesn’t discount that he was a terrifying man. That Christine had to be subjected to any part of that is beyond awful.

Just because your life is vanilla, doesn’t mean others are too 🤷🏻‍♀️
As far as I know, he’s not accused of anything. He’s a victim. If he was terrifying, he’d be out actually r4p… people

There a lot of real estate between vanilla bean and the twisted Baskin Robbin’s 31 ways to “pretend” violently rape and violate a woman in the most painful and degrading way possible (in the telegram not gonna post here)). He’s a victim for sure but not a nice one and a bit of a victim of his own making.

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Anonymous wrote:I was searching around to see if any documents were available for the case. I didn't find them but found the court is uploading the trial exhibits to their website. I haven't looked yet, but be warned, they might be graphic if they uploaded scene photos. They can be found here

https://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/circuit/high-profile-cases

Omg. I read the telegram conversation. I wish I hadn’t. So disturbing on many levels.

My Takeaway on the telegram conversations was that Joe wanted to make sure that he didn’t cross any boundaries with who he thought was Christine. Wanted to make sure that he arrived when he was told and left when he was told and did only things that “she” consented to.

I wonder if this will have an effect on the fetish community — like it’s a major red flag if the only comms are via messages, and the person says don’t actually confirm the intent and limits with me when we meet in person. Hopefully no one ever does this again — I can see someone setting something like this up as revenge on an ex. Consent should always be confirmed in person.

I really hope so. Anyone on that website should take this case to heart to protect themselves and ensure they don't do harm to others.

The depravity of BB is astonishing. To think something like this up. To work toward it for months. To have conversations with a stranger and know you are sentencing him to death. And then, to not just murder your wife - the mother of your child - but to make her suffer, to make her last moments on earth unbearably painful. How did he even get to that point? It's unfathomable to me. Pure pure evil.

The truth of the matter is that Joe was engaging in risky behavior. Not behavior for which he should be murdered but risky behavior none the less. Meeting sex for strangers is risky.

Thank you Captain Obvious. Where would we be 1 million pages into this topic without you to educate us?

If Joe had not agreed to this, we wouldn’t be here would we?

What you should be asking or saying is that we wouldn’t be here if Brendan didn’t plot to murder his wife in cold blood. Like a Psychopath!

Did you read the telegram? The things he was talking about were violent and horrifying. Adding in comments about boundaries doesn’t discount that he was a terrifying man. That Christine had to be subjected to any part of that is beyond awful.

Just because your life is vanilla, doesn’t mean others are too 🤷🏻‍♀️
As far as I know, he’s not accused of anything. He’s a victim. If he was terrifying, he’d be out actually r4p… people

There a lot of real estate between vanilla bean and the twisted Baskin Robbin’s 31 ways to “pretend” violently rape and violate a woman in the most painful and degrading way possible (in the telegram not gonna post here)). He’s a victim for sure but not a nice one and a bit of a victim of his own making.

I read the transcript and was horrified by it, but that man (Joe) was FULLY committed to consent. He, multiple times, verified things like safe words (I think they talked about snapping fingers?) and he verbally expressed concern that if he restrained her in a certain way she wouldnt be able to snap if she wanted him to stop. He even verified the exact time that he would stop restraining her and that he would set an alarm. And there were other instances of him being very proactive in making sure there was consent, and that he knew exactly what she wanted, what she didn't want, and how she could signal for him to stop. No one is going to ever accuse me of being remotely in to any of this stuff that I read in the transcript, but you absolutely cannot place the blame on Joe for this and say that he "isn't nice" based on reading this. If anything, he came across as incredibly sensitive to making sure she was comfortable with the whole plan. So GTFO with calling him "not a nice victim and a victim of his own making". That's completely unfair.

He was a sadist who found a loophole. He got pleasure from hurting people and liked it so much that he entered into a clearly unsafe arrangement to satisfy his urges. No one can consent to being punched in the face but forced a**l is fine? Come on. Let’s not normalize this and let’s not pretend if the genders were reversed we wouldn’t be talking about how on earth a woman with any sense would go into a situation like that.

+100

Even if he was the most conscientious person possible about consent, and it sounds like he was up there, it's still depraved in its very essence. And, shocker, turned out the person being attacked didn't consent at all. But it would not have been ok even if she had.

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Anonymous wrote:What is weird is that JM did call 911 based on CB’s request. She is pretty dumb.

Also shows she does what her employers tell her to do.

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Anonymous wrote:Did the defense ask any questions about whether the forensic experts discovered any evidence that Christine fought back at anytime? Or if she was asleep until she was woken up by the stabbing? I hope the prosecution clears that time gap up because they will definitely show the jury the extent that the murder happened before Joe even started any of the planned fantasy. And it will dispute the claim that BB disrupted Joe attempting to kill Christine.

That doesn’t matter. They have evidence that BB catfished Joe. No one thinks BB tried to save the day.

Agree, but still want to know what happened. Is there any chance she was stabbed before the rape scenario even started?

Juliana testified that Christine was not stabbed until after Joe was shot. Christine was able to verbally tell Juliana to call 911 after Brendan shot Joe.

Anonymous wrote:You know what people should be super angry about instead of the fact that Joe had certain consensual fetishes… The fact that a husband murdered his wife, the mother of his child because he didn’t want to get a divorce and share custody and that he also lured another to their death while trying to defame both Christine and Joe. Victim blamers are disgusting. Almost as disgusting as Brendan Banfield.

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Anonymous wrote:Did the defense ask any questions about whether the forensic experts discovered any evidence that Christine fought back at anytime? Or if she was asleep until she was woken up by the stabbing? I hope the prosecution clears that time gap up because they will definitely show the jury the extent that the murder happened before Joe even started any of the planned fantasy. And it will dispute the claim that BB disrupted Joe attempting to kill Christine.

That doesn’t matter. They have evidence that BB catfished Joe. No one thinks BB tried to save the day.

Agree, but still want to know what happened. Is there any chance she was stabbed before the rape scenario even started?

Anonymous wrote:You know what people should be super angry about instead of the fact that Joe had certain consensual fetishes… The fact that a husband murdered his wife, the mother of his child because he didn’t want to get a divorce and share custody and that he also lured another to their death while trying to defame both Christine and Joe. Victim blamers are disgusting. Almost as disgusting as Brendan Banfield.

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Anonymous wrote:I was searching around to see if any documents were available for the case. I didn't find them but found the court is uploading the trial exhibits to their website. I haven't looked yet, but be warned, they might be graphic if they uploaded scene photos. They can be found here

https://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/circuit/high-profile-cases

Omg. I read the telegram conversation. I wish I hadn’t. So disturbing on many levels.

My Takeaway on the telegram conversations was that Joe wanted to make sure that he didn’t cross any boundaries with who he thought was Christine. Wanted to make sure that he arrived when he was told and left when he was told and did only things that “she” consented to.

I wonder if this will have an effect on the fetish community — like it’s a major red flag if the only comms are via messages, and the person says don’t actually confirm the intent and limits with me when we meet in person. Hopefully no one ever does this again — I can see someone setting something like this up as revenge on an ex. Consent should always be confirmed in person.

I really hope so. Anyone on that website should take this case to heart to protect themselves and ensure they don't do harm to others.

The depravity of BB is astonishing. To think something like this up. To work toward it for months. To have conversations with a stranger and know you are sentencing him to death. And then, to not just murder your wife - the mother of your child - but to make her suffer, to make her last moments on earth unbearably painful. How did he even get to that point? It's unfathomable to me. Pure pure evil.

The truth of the matter is that Joe was engaging in risky behavior. Not behavior for which he should be murdered but risky behavior none the less. Meeting sex for strangers is risky.

Thank you Captain Obvious. Where would we be 1 million pages into this topic without you to educate us?

If Joe had not agreed to this, we wouldn’t be here would we?

What you should be asking or saying is that we wouldn’t be here if Brendan didn’t plot to murder his wife in cold blood. Like a Psychopath!

Did you read the telegram? The things he was talking about were violent and horrifying. Adding in comments about boundaries doesn’t discount that he was a terrifying man. That Christine had to be subjected to any part of that is beyond awful.

Just because your life is vanilla, doesn’t mean others are too 🤷🏻‍♀️
As far as I know, he’s not accused of anything. He’s a victim. If he was terrifying, he’d be out actually r4p… people

There a lot of real estate between vanilla bean and the twisted Baskin Robbin’s 31 ways to “pretend” violently rape and violate a woman in the most painful and degrading way possible (in the telegram not gonna post here)). He’s a victim for sure but not a nice one and a bit of a victim of his own making.

I read the transcript and was horrified by it, but that man (Joe) was FULLY committed to consent. He, multiple times, verified things like safe words (I think they talked about snapping fingers?) and he verbally expressed concern that if he restrained her in a certain way she wouldnt be able to snap if she wanted him to stop. He even verified the exact time that he would stop restraining her and that he would set an alarm. And there were other instances of him being very proactive in making sure there was consent, and that he knew exactly what she wanted, what she didn't want, and how she could signal for him to stop. No one is going to ever accuse me of being remotely in to any of this stuff that I read in the transcript, but you absolutely cannot place the blame on Joe for this and say that he "isn't nice" based on reading this. If anything, he came across as incredibly sensitive to making sure she was comfortable with the whole plan. So GTFO with calling him "not a nice victim and a victim of his own making". That's completely unfair.

He was a sadist who found a loophole. He got pleasure from hurting people and liked it so much that he entered into a clearly unsafe arrangement to satisfy his urges. No one can consent to being punched in the face but forced a**l is fine? Come on. Let’s not normalize this and let’s not pretend if the genders were reversed we wouldn’t be talking about how on earth a woman with any sense would go into a situation like that.

+100

Even if he was the most conscientious person possible about consent, and it sounds like he was up there, it's still depraved in its very essence. And, shocker, turned out the person being attacked didn't consent at all. But it would not have been ok even if she had.

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Anonymous wrote:I was searching around to see if any documents were available for the case. I didn't find them but found the court is uploading the trial exhibits to their website. I haven't looked yet, but be warned, they might be graphic if they uploaded scene photos. They can be found here

https://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/circuit/high-profile-cases

Omg. I read the telegram conversation. I wish I hadn’t. So disturbing on many levels.

My Takeaway on the telegram conversations was that Joe wanted to make sure that he didn’t cross any boundaries with who he thought was Christine. Wanted to make sure that he arrived when he was told and left when he was told and did only things that “she” consented to.

I wonder if this will have an effect on the fetish community — like it’s a major red flag if the only comms are via messages, and the person says don’t actually confirm the intent and limits with me when we meet in person. Hopefully no one ever does this again — I can see someone setting something like this up as revenge on an ex. Consent should always be confirmed in person.

I really hope so. Anyone on that website should take this case to heart to protect themselves and ensure they don't do harm to others.

The depravity of BB is astonishing. To think something like this up. To work toward it for months. To have conversations with a stranger and know you are sentencing him to death. And then, to not just murder your wife - the mother of your child - but to make her suffer, to make her last moments on earth unbearably painful. How did he even get to that point? It's unfathomable to me. Pure pure evil.

The truth of the matter is that Joe was engaging in risky behavior. Not behavior for which he should be murdered but risky behavior none the less. Meeting sex for strangers is risky.

Thank you Captain Obvious. Where would we be 1 million pages into this topic without you to educate us?

If Joe had not agreed to this, we wouldn’t be here would we?

What you should be asking or saying is that we wouldn’t be here if Brendan didn’t plot to murder his wife in cold blood. Like a Psychopath!

Did you read the telegram? The things he was talking about were violent and horrifying. Adding in comments about boundaries doesn’t discount that he was a terrifying man. That Christine had to be subjected to any part of that is beyond awful.

Just because your life is vanilla, doesn’t mean others are too 🤷🏻‍♀️
As far as I know, he’s not accused of anything. He’s a victim. If he was terrifying, he’d be out actually r4p… people

There a lot of real estate between vanilla bean and the twisted Baskin Robbin’s 31 ways to “pretend” violently rape and violate a woman in the most painful and degrading way possible (in the telegram not gonna post here)). He’s a victim for sure but not a nice one and a bit of a victim of his own making.

I read the transcript and was horrified by it, but that man (Joe) was FULLY committed to consent. He, multiple times, verified things like safe words (I think they talked about snapping fingers?) and he verbally expressed concern that if he restrained her in a certain way she wouldnt be able to snap if she wanted him to stop. He even verified the exact time that he would stop restraining her and that he would set an alarm. And there were other instances of him being very proactive in making sure there was consent, and that he knew exactly what she wanted, what she didn't want, and how she could signal for him to stop. No one is going to ever accuse me of being remotely in to any of this stuff that I read in the transcript, but you absolutely cannot place the blame on Joe for this and say that he "isn't nice" based on reading this. If anything, he came across as incredibly sensitive to making sure she was comfortable with the whole plan. So GTFO with calling him "not a nice victim and a victim of his own making". That's completely unfair.

He was a sadist who found a loophole. He got pleasure from hurting people and liked it so much that he entered into a clearly unsafe arrangement to satisfy his urges. No one can consent to being punched in the face but forced a**l is fine? Come on. Let’s not normalize this and let’s not pretend if the genders were reversed we wouldn’t be talking about how on earth a woman with any sense would go into a situation like that.

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Anonymous wrote:Did the defense ask any questions about whether the forensic experts discovered any evidence that Christine fought back at anytime? Or if she was asleep until she was woken up by the stabbing? I hope the prosecution clears that time gap up because they will definitely show the jury the extent that the murder happened before Joe even started any of the planned fantasy. And it will dispute the claim that BB disrupted Joe attempting to kill Christine.

That doesn’t matter. They have evidence that BB catfished Joe. No one thinks BB tried to save the day.

Agree, but still want to know what happened. Is there any chance she was stabbed before the rape scenario even started?

That’s what the book deals and tv shows are for

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Anonymous wrote:Did the defense ask any questions about whether the forensic experts discovered any evidence that Christine fought back at anytime? Or if she was asleep until she was woken up by the stabbing? I hope the prosecution clears that time gap up because they will definitely show the jury the extent that the murder happened before Joe even started any of the planned fantasy. And it will dispute the claim that BB disrupted Joe attempting to kill Christine.

That doesn’t matter. They have evidence that BB catfished Joe. No one thinks BB tried to save the day.