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Anonymous wrote:Too bad the other four kids are stuck

They will have more kids...

They’ll be rehomed when they are teenagers.

Oh, but those are their “actual” children. Different rules, apparently.

I don't know. When they stop fitting into the perfect mold for youtube they may be sent away.

Do you realize how absolutely stupid you sound?

I have teenagers, I can see the desire to rehome them.

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Anonymous wrote:Too bad the other four kids are stuck

They will have more kids...

They’ll be rehomed when they are teenagers.

Oh, but those are their “actual” children. Different rules, apparently.

I don't know. When they stop fitting into the perfect mold for youtube they may be sent away.

Do you realize how absolutely stupid you sound?

I won't judge these people because I have not walked in their shoes but I have to wonder as an early pp stated "Who adopts a BOY from China?" If you know anything about Chinese culture and society,you would have to know there are some serious issues with this child that he would be given up by his birth family and placed with a foreign [i]family.

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Anonymous wrote:Too bad the other four kids are stuck

They will have more kids...

They’ll be rehomed when they are teenagers.

Oh, but those are their “actual” children. Different rules, apparently.

I don't know. When they stop fitting into the perfect mold for youtube they may be sent away.

Anonymous wrote:I did not read all the pages of this thread but these issues are not as clear-cut as people like to make them out to be. Based upon my own experiences as an adoptive parent, I could see medical and psychological professionals giving the advice that finding an alternative home for one child would be a better course than continuing to have the entire family---including the other minor children---live in the current home environment. I know of situations where one child has had to go live with relatives, or in a residential treatment center, because the child's volatility in the home endangered the physical and psychological well-being of the other children. We had to send one of our children to an RTC for a six month stint because I was not going to have our other children live in a violent household. These are tragic circumstances. I am horrified, however, in general by youtubers/influencers, what-have-you---who would violate the privacy of children by revealing all this on the internet.

It is a clear cut, especially based off your post. There is a huge difference in sending a child to a relative for respite/support, or even a RTC. You have gone to your breaking point, done everything you can and doing more by getting the help they need. By sending a child to RTC, you are still their parents, you still have legal rights and if they can transition home, you would take them home. This is a 4 year old child who came from another country with a different language, customs, etc and on top of that had a brain injury which was disclosed at placement. It was clear that there would be long term issues. They still choose to take it on. And, now they got their money's worth, he is hampering their lifestyle and they gave him away. Who gives away their child and immediately goes on vacation?

We adopted a child. No one would have predicted SN. We were in therapies 5 days a week. I had to quit my job as cost/benefit of a nanny made no sense and I wanted consistent parenting. We did everything we could and got lucky it worked (who knows if the therapies helped or not). I cannot imagine at any point when it was hard that I would walk away. If anything, it made me more determined to find the right providers, the right help and do everything in my power to give my child a chance to be successful and if not, I was going to save every dime I could to create a trust fund to make sure they had life long care. There was no giving this child back. There was no giving this child away.

This woman never bonded with this child and he was a lot of work. They blame him for things like attachments but ultimately they never bonded as how can you just give your child away and be ok the next day. We have had some pretty bad things happen. I wasn't ok days after. I grieved for years and still grieve, especially that related to a child.

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Anonymous wrote:Too bad the other four kids are stuck

They will have more kids...

They’ll be rehomed when they are teenagers.

Oh, but those are their “actual” children. Different rules, apparently.

I did not read all the pages of this thread but these issues are not as clear-cut as people like to make them out to be. Based upon my own experiences as an adoptive parent, I could see medical and psychological professionals giving the advice that finding an alternative home for one child would be a better course than continuing to have the entire family---including the other minor children---live in the current home environment. I know of situations where one child has had to go live with relatives, or in a residential treatment center, because the child's volatility in the home endangered the physical and psychological well-being of the other children. We had to send one of our children to an RTC for a six month stint because I was not going to have our other children live in a violent household. These are tragic circumstances. I am horrified, however, in general by youtubers/influencers, what-have-you---who would violate the privacy of children by revealing all this on the internet.

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Anonymous wrote:I was thinking more about their claims medical professionals suggested a new home. If there wasn't violence or significant abuse, the only other reason I could think of is if she claimed to have thoughts of wanting to harm him. They can't claim he has threatened to kill one of their kids if he is barely verbal. Otherw2ise I suspect the professionals said you need to do more therapies or stop quitting therapies.

I think parents of children who are significantly impacted by their disability know their claims that medical professionals advised them to get rid of him to be false. I agree that more services would have been recommended, especially since he was not receiving the recommended amount of services and therapies in the first place.

Are you the adoptive parent of a child with a significant disability? I am and I have absolutely been advised to walk away, to "think of your own kids". Other parents I know have been encouraged to let their kids die.

I've posted here about an issue with my disabled child, and have been told that I did a terrible thing by adopting him.

We’re talking about the claim that medical professionals advised her to give the child away. If you have had professionals telling you in an official capacity that you should “walk away” from a child or let him die, you should really report them to their licensing boards.

Different poster. In fact, you may be liable for not reporting them. No qualified professional can say those things.

Even if you report them, no one is going to hold those doctors accountable. The licensing and state boards are very weak and it has to be basically death before they will do something.

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Anonymous wrote:Too bad the other four kids are stuck

They will have more kids...

They’ll be rehomed when they are teenagers.

They will run away as teenagers. Maybe the little boys new family will take them in as well.

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Anonymous wrote:There are pages and pages on influencer gossips sites about her exploiting and being cruel to her kids, usually Hux, before any of this. There are entire reddit threads with hi dreads of post about how she treated him— and her annoying fake voice.

It is really sad if you do know her and you did nothing.

And you are trusting that these are people that ACTUALLY knew her and not just random people making it up? Really?? Don’t you think if someone who knew her knew she was “abusing him” would have reported it? It’s easy to do anonymously. This whole thing is just stupid. Thousands of people making sh*t up, claiming they know her or their family or the “truth”.

She gave away her child like a dog. What else do you need to know?

That doesn’t mean he was being abused or neglected. What don’t you understand?

It is a form of abuse. He other son sucked his thumb. Why didn't she do it to him? Why are you defending someone who knew what they were getting into and used the child to make money and then abandoned the child giving him to strangers?

Did her other son have the same medical issues? What did her other son’s ped say? It sure looks like H had oral health issues. Did the other son?

100% this. Not ONE person on here knows her or her family or knows what huxleys drs and dentists and therapists told the family to do. NO ONE knows anything really besides a bunch of gossip at this point. It’s kind of sad that millions are talking this much sh*t when no one has a clue.

What people know are her actual words which included statements suggesting. that she would never give him up, he has made huge strides, in some ways he is easier than expected, that is he is living and full of smiles, that the challenges are manageable, etc. Many of us also know how the system works and we know how extreme things have to be for this scenario to play out the way it did. She is BSing somewhere and possibly everywhere. Once you chose to profit off your personal life, people will discuss you. You don't get to make ridiculous amounts of money showing your personal life and then get up in arms when people speculate about things and wonder.

The worst part isn't even all that but the damage caused to this child. Now, its all over the internet, including RAD, which it doesn't sound like, and it cannot be erased. This child deserved privacy and its now all out. Likewise, this is why many countries have shut down international adoption as people aren't honest with their intentions and bad things have happened to these kids so many families trying to adopt may not have a chance. She KNEW what she was getting into and was warned. That makes this all the more worse.

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Anonymous wrote:Too bad the other four kids are stuck

They will have more kids...

They’ll be rehomed when they are teenagers.

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Anonymous wrote:I was thinking more about their claims medical professionals suggested a new home. If there wasn't violence or significant abuse, the only other reason I could think of is if she claimed to have thoughts of wanting to harm him. They can't claim he has threatened to kill one of their kids if he is barely verbal. Otherw2ise I suspect the professionals said you need to do more therapies or stop quitting therapies.

I think parents of children who are significantly impacted by their disability know their claims that medical professionals advised them to get rid of him to be false. I agree that more services would have been recommended, especially since he was not receiving the recommended amount of services and therapies in the first place.

Are you the adoptive parent of a child with a significant disability? I am and I have absolutely been advised to walk away, to "think of your own kids". Other parents I know have been encouraged to let their kids die.

I've posted here about an issue with my disabled child, and have been told that I did a terrible thing by adopting him.

We’re talking about the claim that medical professionals advised her to give the child away. If you have had professionals telling you in an official capacity that you should “walk away” from a child or let him die, you should really report them to their licensing boards.

Different poster. In fact, you may be liable for not reporting them. No qualified professional can say those things.

Anonymous wrote:Too bad the other four kids are stuck

They will have more kids...

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Anonymous wrote:I was thinking more about their claims medical professionals suggested a new home. If there wasn't violence or significant abuse, the only other reason I could think of is if she claimed to have thoughts of wanting to harm him. They can't claim he has threatened to kill one of their kids if he is barely verbal. Otherw2ise I suspect the professionals said you need to do more therapies or stop quitting therapies.

Seriously, just shut up. Do you see what you are saying? To even put those words out there is gross. You don’t know what went on in that home and you don’t have any right to say what you just said.

What's truly gross is adopting a child specifically with special needs, using that child to make money, create content, and clout, and then cutting all of his speech therapy, and occupational therapy out completely, and only offering that child 7 hours of ABA therapy. It also should be noted how she constantly referred to H as her adopted son, and her other children as her BIOS. Not sure if that is common among adoptive families (I hope not), but it doesn't seem there was any real inclusion.

This is not common amongst educated and committed adoptive families, thankfully.

There is some argument that ABA is fine without ST and OT as the ABA therapist can do it but our experience was they were very different services and the ABA was more a generalist and behavior than a specialist in ST and OT. That kid, not in school and a parent with multiple kids/working and homeschooling should have ABA 7 hours a day, not week.

Once adoption they are your child. Adoption is how the child joined your family and should not define the role they take in your family. I have never ever called my child my adopted child. She was using him to make money. She knew exactly what she was getting into and warned about his SN. It isn't that common for a boy to be adopted out of China and and an slightly older one will almost always have SN. He was probably not much of a wait, which is why they agreed as they need immediate gratification. Vs. if they went for a child without known SN, it would have been a much longer wait.

Too bad the other four kids are stuck