Anonymous wrote:I’m 40 and I can see myself having a baby but I can’t imagine dealing with tweens and teens in my mid to late 50s.

I’m 59 and doing fine with a 14-year old. It’s different when you haven’t done it before, I think. I’m just so grateful to have the experience. Like a PP, I “did it all” in my 30s, so I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything. We can just pick the best experiences to re-do with DC.

I’m 40 and I can see myself having a baby but I can’t imagine dealing with tweens and teens in my mid to late 50s.

Who cares what other people think?

I had my third child at age 40, and she is an absolutely joy. We love her so much and are so happy we didn't follow advice of random people about whether that was too old.

I'm very active and fit and so people don't ask me if I'm the grandmother or something.

Yes.

Physically, and career wise, 25 is probably the best. But I did not have the opportunity to have kids then and had them at 42 and 44. My body has not bounced back but there is a lot that I am experiencing (they are 2 and 4 now) that makes me happy I did not have them back then. I was not mature enough, I did not have a really good partner til I was 39 and a lot of the crap you "give up" when you have kids (happy hours, cool clothes, exotic vacations) I gave up already long ago so it was a pretty seamless transition in my life, and I can focus on being a mom without thinking about what I would rather be doing. (I already did it!) If the time is right for you, and you are healthy, there is really no reason to ask anyone else for their shitty opinion.

Too old.

I think it's too old.

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP, you are not too old.
I was 46 when I gave birth to twins! Had a healthy pregnancy, and all is well. Yes, I am tired, but so are 30 year olds. Women much younger that I were on bed rest. I worked the entire time and had the twins at 38.5 weeks. Oh, and I am a single Mom too. So, don't mind what some of the posters say, do what you think is best.

How are you and the kids now? I feel like folks underestimate how draining kids can be as tweens/teens.

Too old.

Hi OP, you are not too old.
I was 46 when I gave birth to twins! Had a healthy pregnancy, and all is well. Yes, I am tired, but so are 30 year olds. Women much younger that I were on bed rest. I worked the entire time and had the twins at 38.5 weeks. Oh, and I am a single Mom too. So, don't mind what some of the posters say, do what you think is best.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife had my now 17year old son @ 41, and my soon to be 21year old DD at 37. Our first turned 37 this year - huge gap. We're stupid, crazy, all of the above...they keep us young though..lol


PSA: Have kids when you're in your twenties. Should of listened to our parents.

If your oldest is 37 and your wife had your youngest 17 years ago at the age of 41....that means that there is a twenty year age difference between your oldest and your youngest which means that your wife had your oldest when she was 21. You did listen to your parents after all, you just exceeded their expectations by having a kid in your 30's and another kid in your 40's, too .

Read again...they had their almost-21 year old when mom was 37 and their 17 year old when mom was 41.

And it also says they now have a 37 year old, a 21 year old and a 17 year old. They have 3 kids.

My mom was 38 when she had me in 1976. She was a terrific mom and was involved in her grandchildren’s lives. She passed away at 78, just before I turned 40. Miss you mom!

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Anonymous wrote:My wife had my now 17year old son @ 41, and my soon to be 21year old DD at 37. Our first turned 37 this year - huge gap. We're stupid, crazy, all of the above...they keep us young though..lol


PSA: Have kids when you're in your twenties. Should of listened to our parents.

If your oldest is 37 and your wife had your youngest 17 years ago at the age of 41....that means that there is a twenty year age difference between your oldest and your youngest which means that your wife had your oldest when she was 21. You did listen to your parents after all, you just exceeded their expectations by having a kid in your 30's and another kid in your 40's, too .

Read again...they had their almost-21 year old when mom was 37 and their 17 year old when mom was 41.

I am 54 and have a 13 year old and a 10 year old. Had them at 40 and 43.

I do not regret it for a minute and my kids are happy, healthy and thriving. DH and I are doing great too, he is a few years younger than me but, knock on wood, no health issues for us either.

for me at least, it was a great age to have my kids.

It is a very personal decision. You will always have the typical DCUM posters telling you that 40 is too old, but it is really dependent on how you feel. The way some posters described people over 40 is laughable, i.e. old, tired, low energy, etc. Maybe instead of worrying about who is going to have a baby over 40 these posters should focus on their health! I am 43 and feel great!