Pp here. Once we had my mom’s doctor diagnose her, her insurance company reached out and provided nursing and hospice resources a few days a week, all covered under her insurance plan.

This allowed my dad to take a break.

I bet you gene had insurance and probably had a policy that paid for part of all assistance. She didn’t want to use it. Surprised though, and I mean really surprised, that his doctor did not do more for him. If his heart was that bad, how often did he get check ups? If his dementia was that bad, how often did they reach out to doctors?

Both of my parents had access to resources and were given guidance. She didn’t not seek or want this for a 95 year old man.

I hope the money goes to the charities they supported. Parents don’t have to leave their money to their kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m wondering if she even took Gene to doctors that often. Someone on the outside should have been monitoring his health. It doesn’t seem like he was getting the health care he needed. None of those pills found dealt with his heart disease. He only had a pacemaker. I could go on.


I hope this was not deliberate, but feel that she could have done far more for him. I think if doctors knew about the advanced dementia ( she probably hid it), then they would have been adamant about getting home resources for him, or suggest a memory care facility for him. It’s a tough thing to do, but we went both routes with my parents. Having care at home gave us more time with one parent, and saved a little cost, though home care is not cheap.

Memory care facilities are expensive, but help you gain your life back.

He lived to 95. It's absurd to say he wasn't getting the health care he needed when in actuality his wife clearly did something right during their years of marriage considering his advanced age.

I disagree. Didn’t the autopsy reveal that he was in very poor health? Heart trouble, advanced Alzheimer’s? Moreover, wasn’t he left alone while she ran errands? Wasn’t he found with an empty stomach? Didn’t he have a pacemaker? How do you call this good health?

The doctors said that he was in very poor health at death.
And it was due to his being left alone that he died.

I think you think that living to the age of 95 meant that he did something right health wise. He may have just had great genetics, or God wasn’t ready for him to go yet.

Look at Jimmy Carter. He lived to 100. Others live past that. And some totally healthy people may succumb to death at an early age. It doesn’t mean that they didn’t live right or wasn’t getting the best health care.

Are you blaming the wife for not feeding him when she'd already been dead for a week?

Yep, though you are twisting my words.

He obviously could not feed himself. Do you think that she knew that? Yet still ran errands away from the home and left him there by himself. She was his caregiver and had no plan b should anything happen to her or any delay with her returning.
That’s not right. It’s a certain degree of negligence or neglect.

As I shared, both of my parents had advanced Alzheimer’s. Eating, restroom function, bathing—those and functions decline over time. With one parent it was rapid. With the other, it happened over a few years.

He was totally dependent on her like a baby to a parent. If that parent dies, then the baby is without a provider.

It’s as simple as that. As a few of us have shared, he needed someone else watching out for him also. I am positive that a doctor would have recommended that. Under insurance, he could have had help paid for, given his condition.

She didn’t want this. And like it or not, she never expected a time where she could not provide and he would be alone. In her position of authority, she had options but ignored him. So yeah, she is responsible for his condition, else he would have had someone there who could have helped him and fed him.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m wondering if she even took Gene to doctors that often. Someone on the outside should have been monitoring his health. It doesn’t seem like he was getting the health care he needed. None of those pills found dealt with his heart disease. He only had a pacemaker. I could go on.


I hope this was not deliberate, but feel that she could have done far more for him. I think if doctors knew about the advanced dementia ( she probably hid it), then they would have been adamant about getting home resources for him, or suggest a memory care facility for him. It’s a tough thing to do, but we went both routes with my parents. Having care at home gave us more time with one parent, and saved a little cost, though home care is not cheap.

Memory care facilities are expensive, but help you gain your life back.

He lived to 95. It's absurd to say he wasn't getting the health care he needed when in actuality his wife clearly did something right during their years of marriage considering his advanced age.

I disagree. Didn’t the autopsy reveal that he was in very poor health? Heart trouble, advanced Alzheimer’s? Moreover, wasn’t he left alone while she ran errands? Wasn’t he found with an empty stomach? Didn’t he have a pacemaker? How do you call this good health?

The doctors said that he was in very poor health at death.
And it was due to his being left alone that he died.

I think you think that living to the age of 95 meant that he did something right health wise. He may have just had great genetics, or God wasn’t ready for him to go yet.

Look at Jimmy Carter. He lived to 100. Others live past that. And some totally healthy people may succumb to death at an early age. It doesn’t mean that they didn’t live right or wasn’t getting the best health care.

He was found with an empty stomach (if that’s true) bechzse his wife and caretaker died like a week before him! She must have been taking pretty good care of him if he was doing well and then after she died, he died pretty quickly because she’s stopped caring for him.

DP. She had him living in a rodent filled house with no interaction with the outside world completely isolated and dependent on her. At 80 million net worth there’s no reason she couldn’t have hired an exterminator and a housekeeper. But seems that it blew up in her face.

This doesn't seem to be the situation at all. There are at least 3 different times he was seen out in the summer of 2024, including attending a public event. There is no evidence they lived in a rodent filled house. He as dependent on her as many very elderly people are dependent on their spouses. He may have still been able to do quite a bit of basic adls on this own and just needed her assistance. He had advancing dementia but we don't know what stage it was in or when it worsened. He wasn't close with his kids but they weren't estranged and were in contact on an irregular basis. His granddaughter was included in the family statement so clearly she knew him.

New Mexico officials publicly stated the main house was clean, that rodent evidence was found in other buildings on the property. She cleaned the house herself, nothing wrong with that. Evidence also suggests she took excellent care of him until this unexpected tragedy. But PP has a narrative and is sticking to it!

It's probably one of his kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m wondering if she even took Gene to doctors that often. Someone on the outside should have been monitoring his health. It doesn’t seem like he was getting the health care he needed. None of those pills found dealt with his heart disease. He only had a pacemaker. I could go on.


I hope this was not deliberate, but feel that she could have done far more for him. I think if doctors knew about the advanced dementia ( she probably hid it), then they would have been adamant about getting home resources for him, or suggest a memory care facility for him. It’s a tough thing to do, but we went both routes with my parents. Having care at home gave us more time with one parent, and saved a little cost, though home care is not cheap.

Memory care facilities are expensive, but help you gain your life back.

He lived to 95. It's absurd to say he wasn't getting the health care he needed when in actuality his wife clearly did something right during their years of marriage considering his advanced age.

I disagree. Didn’t the autopsy reveal that he was in very poor health? Heart trouble, advanced Alzheimer’s? Moreover, wasn’t he left alone while she ran errands? Wasn’t he found with an empty stomach? Didn’t he have a pacemaker? How do you call this good health?

The doctors said that he was in very poor health at death.
And it was due to his being left alone that he died.

I think you think that living to the age of 95 meant that he did something right health wise. He may have just had great genetics, or God wasn’t ready for him to go yet.

Look at Jimmy Carter. He lived to 100. Others live past that. And some totally healthy people may succumb to death at an early age. It doesn’t mean that they didn’t live right or wasn’t getting the best health care.

He was found with an empty stomach (if that’s true) bechzse his wife and caretaker died like a week before him! She must have been taking pretty good care of him if he was doing well and then after she died, he died pretty quickly because she’s stopped caring for him.

DP. She had him living in a rodent filled house with no interaction with the outside world completely isolated and dependent on her. At 80 million net worth there’s no reason she couldn’t have hired an exterminator and a housekeeper. But seems that it blew up in her face.

they had an exterminator. that's who called for the welfare check. remember?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m wondering if she even took Gene to doctors that often. Someone on the outside should have been monitoring his health. It doesn’t seem like he was getting the health care he needed. None of those pills found dealt with his heart disease. He only had a pacemaker. I could go on.


I hope this was not deliberate, but feel that she could have done far more for him. I think if doctors knew about the advanced dementia ( she probably hid it), then they would have been adamant about getting home resources for him, or suggest a memory care facility for him. It’s a tough thing to do, but we went both routes with my parents. Having care at home gave us more time with one parent, and saved a little cost, though home care is not cheap.

Memory care facilities are expensive, but help you gain your life back.

He lived to 95. It's absurd to say he wasn't getting the health care he needed when in actuality his wife clearly did something right during their years of marriage considering his advanced age.

I disagree. Didn’t the autopsy reveal that he was in very poor health? Heart trouble, advanced Alzheimer’s? Moreover, wasn’t he left alone while she ran errands? Wasn’t he found with an empty stomach? Didn’t he have a pacemaker? How do you call this good health?

The doctors said that he was in very poor health at death.
And it was due to his being left alone that he died.

I think you think that living to the age of 95 meant that he did something right health wise. He may have just had great genetics, or God wasn’t ready for him to go yet.

Look at Jimmy Carter. He lived to 100. Others live past that. And some totally healthy people may succumb to death at an early age. It doesn’t mean that they didn’t live right or wasn’t getting the best health care.

He was found with an empty stomach (if that’s true) bechzse his wife and caretaker died like a week before him! She must have been taking pretty good care of him if he was doing well and then after she died, he died pretty quickly because she’s stopped caring for him.

DP. She had him living in a rodent filled house with no interaction with the outside world completely isolated and dependent on her. At 80 million net worth there’s no reason she couldn’t have hired an exterminator and a housekeeper. But seems that it blew up in her face.

Wasn’t his body found by…. an exterminator? That she likely hired?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m wondering if she even took Gene to doctors that often. Someone on the outside should have been monitoring his health. It doesn’t seem like he was getting the health care he needed. None of those pills found dealt with his heart disease. He only had a pacemaker. I could go on.


I hope this was not deliberate, but feel that she could have done far more for him. I think if doctors knew about the advanced dementia ( she probably hid it), then they would have been adamant about getting home resources for him, or suggest a memory care facility for him. It’s a tough thing to do, but we went both routes with my parents. Having care at home gave us more time with one parent, and saved a little cost, though home care is not cheap.

Memory care facilities are expensive, but help you gain your life back.

He lived to 95. It's absurd to say he wasn't getting the health care he needed when in actuality his wife clearly did something right during their years of marriage considering his advanced age.

I disagree. Didn’t the autopsy reveal that he was in very poor health? Heart trouble, advanced Alzheimer’s? Moreover, wasn’t he left alone while she ran errands? Wasn’t he found with an empty stomach? Didn’t he have a pacemaker? How do you call this good health?

The doctors said that he was in very poor health at death.
And it was due to his being left alone that he died.

I think you think that living to the age of 95 meant that he did something right health wise. He may have just had great genetics, or God wasn’t ready for him to go yet.

Look at Jimmy Carter. He lived to 100. Others live past that. And some totally healthy people may succumb to death at an early age. It doesn’t mean that they didn’t live right or wasn’t getting the best health care.

Are you blaming the wife for not feeding him when she'd already been dead for a week?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m wondering if she even took Gene to doctors that often. Someone on the outside should have been monitoring his health. It doesn’t seem like he was getting the health care he needed. None of those pills found dealt with his heart disease. He only had a pacemaker. I could go on.


I hope this was not deliberate, but feel that she could have done far more for him. I think if doctors knew about the advanced dementia ( she probably hid it), then they would have been adamant about getting home resources for him, or suggest a memory care facility for him. It’s a tough thing to do, but we went both routes with my parents. Having care at home gave us more time with one parent, and saved a little cost, though home care is not cheap.

Memory care facilities are expensive, but help you gain your life back.

He lived to 95. It's absurd to say he wasn't getting the health care he needed when in actuality his wife clearly did something right during their years of marriage considering his advanced age.

I disagree. Didn’t the autopsy reveal that he was in very poor health? Heart trouble, advanced Alzheimer’s? Moreover, wasn’t he left alone while she ran errands? Wasn’t he found with an empty stomach? Didn’t he have a pacemaker? How do you call this good health?

The doctors said that he was in very poor health at death.
And it was due to his being left alone that he died.

I think you think that living to the age of 95 meant that he did something right health wise. He may have just had great genetics, or God wasn’t ready for him to go yet.

Look at Jimmy Carter. He lived to 100. Others live past that. And some totally healthy people may succumb to death at an early age. It doesn’t mean that they didn’t live right or wasn’t getting the best health care.

He was found with an empty stomach (if that’s true) bechzse his wife and caretaker died like a week before him! She must have been taking pretty good care of him if he was doing well and then after she died, he died pretty quickly because she’s stopped caring for him.

DP. She had him living in a rodent filled house with no interaction with the outside world completely isolated and dependent on her. At 80 million net worth there’s no reason she couldn’t have hired an exterminator and a housekeeper. But seems that it blew up in her face.

This doesn't seem to be the situation at all. There are at least 3 different times he was seen out in the summer of 2024, including attending a public event. There is no evidence they lived in a rodent filled house. He as dependent on her as many very elderly people are dependent on their spouses. He may have still been able to do quite a bit of basic adls on this own and just needed her assistance. He had advancing dementia but we don't know what stage it was in or when it worsened. He wasn't close with his kids but they weren't estranged and were in contact on an irregular basis. His granddaughter was included in the family statement so clearly she knew him.

New Mexico officials publicly stated the main house was clean, that rodent evidence was found in other buildings on the property. She cleaned the house herself, nothing wrong with that. Evidence also suggests she took excellent care of him until this unexpected tragedy. But PP has a narrative and is sticking to it!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m wondering if she even took Gene to doctors that often. Someone on the outside should have been monitoring his health. It doesn’t seem like he was getting the health care he needed. None of those pills found dealt with his heart disease. He only had a pacemaker. I could go on.


I hope this was not deliberate, but feel that she could have done far more for him. I think if doctors knew about the advanced dementia ( she probably hid it), then they would have been adamant about getting home resources for him, or suggest a memory care facility for him. It’s a tough thing to do, but we went both routes with my parents. Having care at home gave us more time with one parent, and saved a little cost, though home care is not cheap.

Memory care facilities are expensive, but help you gain your life back.

He lived to 95. It's absurd to say he wasn't getting the health care he needed when in actuality his wife clearly did something right during their years of marriage considering his advanced age.

I disagree. Didn’t the autopsy reveal that he was in very poor health? Heart trouble, advanced Alzheimer’s? Moreover, wasn’t he left alone while she ran errands? Wasn’t he found with an empty stomach? Didn’t he have a pacemaker? How do you call this good health?

The doctors said that he was in very poor health at death.
And it was due to his being left alone that he died.

I think you think that living to the age of 95 meant that he did something right health wise. He may have just had great genetics, or God wasn’t ready for him to go yet.

Look at Jimmy Carter. He lived to 100. Others live past that. And some totally healthy people may succumb to death at an early age. It doesn’t mean that they didn’t live right or wasn’t getting the best health care.

He was found with an empty stomach (if that’s true) bechzse his wife and caretaker died like a week before him! She must have been taking pretty good care of him if he was doing well and then after she died, he died pretty quickly because she’s stopped caring for him.

DP. She had him living in a rodent filled house with no interaction with the outside world completely isolated and dependent on her. At 80 million net worth there’s no reason she couldn’t have hired an exterminator and a housekeeper. But seems that it blew up in her face.

This doesn't seem to be the situation at all. There are at least 3 different times he was seen out in the summer of 2024, including attending a public event. There is no evidence they lived in a rodent filled house. He as dependent on her as many very elderly people are dependent on their spouses. He may have still been able to do quite a bit of basic adls on this own and just needed her assistance. He had advancing dementia but we don't know what stage it was in or when it worsened. He wasn't close with his kids but they weren't estranged and were in contact on an irregular basis. His granddaughter was included in the family statement so clearly she knew him.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m wondering if she even took Gene to doctors that often. Someone on the outside should have been monitoring his health. It doesn’t seem like he was getting the health care he needed. None of those pills found dealt with his heart disease. He only had a pacemaker. I could go on.


I hope this was not deliberate, but feel that she could have done far more for him. I think if doctors knew about the advanced dementia ( she probably hid it), then they would have been adamant about getting home resources for him, or suggest a memory care facility for him. It’s a tough thing to do, but we went both routes with my parents. Having care at home gave us more time with one parent, and saved a little cost, though home care is not cheap.

Memory care facilities are expensive, but help you gain your life back.

He lived to 95. It's absurd to say he wasn't getting the health care he needed when in actuality his wife clearly did something right during their years of marriage considering his advanced age.

I disagree. Didn’t the autopsy reveal that he was in very poor health? Heart trouble, advanced Alzheimer’s? Moreover, wasn’t he left alone while she ran errands? Wasn’t he found with an empty stomach? Didn’t he have a pacemaker? How do you call this good health?

The doctors said that he was in very poor health at death.
And it was due to his being left alone that he died.

I think you think that living to the age of 95 meant that he did something right health wise. He may have just had great genetics, or God wasn’t ready for him to go yet.

Look at Jimmy Carter. He lived to 100. Others live past that. And some totally healthy people may succumb to death at an early age. It doesn’t mean that they didn’t live right or wasn’t getting the best health care.

He was found with an empty stomach (if that’s true) bechzse his wife and caretaker died like a week before him! She must have been taking pretty good care of him if he was doing well and then after she died, he died pretty quickly because she’s stopped caring for him.

DP. She had him living in a rodent filled house with no interaction with the outside world completely isolated and dependent on her. At 80 million net worth there’s no reason she couldn’t have hired an exterminator and a housekeeper. But seems that it blew up in her face.

May both Gene and his wife rest in peace. Clearly they loved each other and their pets. They seemed to have the kind of love story we all want.

May the court system grant his kids the estate. It won't make up for an absent father over their lifetime but it will certainly help them have a comfortable retirement. The interviewed daughter put a positive spin on their relationship and said nothing negative about her father. She showed class.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m wondering if she even took Gene to doctors that often. Someone on the outside should have been monitoring his health. It doesn’t seem like he was getting the health care he needed. None of those pills found dealt with his heart disease. He only had a pacemaker. I could go on.


I hope this was not deliberate, but feel that she could have done far more for him. I think if doctors knew about the advanced dementia ( she probably hid it), then they would have been adamant about getting home resources for him, or suggest a memory care facility for him. It’s a tough thing to do, but we went both routes with my parents. Having care at home gave us more time with one parent, and saved a little cost, though home care is not cheap.

Memory care facilities are expensive, but help you gain your life back.

He lived to 95. It's absurd to say he wasn't getting the health care he needed when in actuality his wife clearly did something right during their years of marriage considering his advanced age.

I disagree. Didn’t the autopsy reveal that he was in very poor health? Heart trouble, advanced Alzheimer’s? Moreover, wasn’t he left alone while she ran errands? Wasn’t he found with an empty stomach? Didn’t he have a pacemaker? How do you call this good health?

The doctors said that he was in very poor health at death.
And it was due to his being left alone that he died.

I think you think that living to the age of 95 meant that he did something right health wise. He may have just had great genetics, or God wasn’t ready for him to go yet.

Look at Jimmy Carter. He lived to 100. Others live past that. And some totally healthy people may succumb to death at an early age. It doesn’t mean that they didn’t live right or wasn’t getting the best health care.

He was found with an empty stomach (if that’s true) bechzse his wife and caretaker died like a week before him! She must have been taking pretty good care of him if he was doing well and then after she died, he died pretty quickly because she’s stopped caring for him.

Yes. He wasn't dehydrated, so must have had water or something else to drink readily available. But probably wasn't sufficiently cognizant to get food for himself.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m wondering if she even took Gene to doctors that often. Someone on the outside should have been monitoring his health. It doesn’t seem like he was getting the health care he needed. None of those pills found dealt with his heart disease. He only had a pacemaker. I could go on.


I hope this was not deliberate, but feel that she could have done far more for him. I think if doctors knew about the advanced dementia ( she probably hid it), then they would have been adamant about getting home resources for him, or suggest a memory care facility for him. It’s a tough thing to do, but we went both routes with my parents. Having care at home gave us more time with one parent, and saved a little cost, though home care is not cheap.

Memory care facilities are expensive, but help you gain your life back.

He lived to 95. It's absurd to say he wasn't getting the health care he needed when in actuality his wife clearly did something right during their years of marriage considering his advanced age.

I disagree. Didn’t the autopsy reveal that he was in very poor health? Heart trouble, advanced Alzheimer’s? Moreover, wasn’t he left alone while she ran errands? Wasn’t he found with an empty stomach? Didn’t he have a pacemaker? How do you call this good health?

The doctors said that he was in very poor health at death.
And it was due to his being left alone that he died.

I think you think that living to the age of 95 meant that he did something right health wise. He may have just had great genetics, or God wasn’t ready for him to go yet.

Look at Jimmy Carter. He lived to 100. Others live past that. And some totally healthy people may succumb to death at an early age. It doesn’t mean that they didn’t live right or wasn’t getting the best health care.

He was found with an empty stomach (if that’s true) bechzse his wife and caretaker died like a week before him! She must have been taking pretty good care of him if he was doing well and then after she died, he died pretty quickly because she’s stopped caring for him.

Anonymous wrote:“During the presser, officials confirmed they identified signs of rodent entry in the property, which could have led to the hantavirus spreading to Arakawa.”

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Severe heart disease, possibly heart attacks, no food in stomach, no caretaker at house…

https://pagesix.com/2025/03/07/celebrity-news/gene-hackman-and-wife-betsy-arakawas-cause-of-deaths-revealed-following-autopsy-results/

When someone has Alzheimers, often their physical issues are not addressed in the hope that they will die sooner rather than later. That's a judgment call, and one I don't disagree with.

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry that’s ridiculous leaving nothing to your kids with that much wealth. Most caring parents do some kind of split. Mine is set up 75% spouse, 25% kids.

It's pretty clear that Gene didn't care much for his kids...his priorities were Betsy, acting/career, and his dogs. Very sad all around.