Anonymous wrote:Moms who ask me what my husband does for a living. This is one of those 'size up ' questions.

Tell them he is a high-class male hooker.

The hooker makes it edgy, but the high class makes it, well, classy.

Moms who ask me what my husband does for a living. This is one of those 'size up ' questions.

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Anonymous wrote:Moms who say to their child when mine is playing with something, "you will get a turn in a minute". "Share". My anwer is no you want, I am not making my child put down the toy he is playing with so yours can play with it, find another toy, shovel, piece of chalk or what ever it is. HE IS NOT SHARING!

Wow. That's not very nice of you.

Bet this same mom hasn't learned to share herself. I think the appropriate thing to say is "After my child is done playing with it, you can have it."

Here's my beef. When my child is having a rare meltdown and another mom is nearby, instead of saying, "oh they all do that," they give you a judgmental look.

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I didn't start this strand, but this doesn't make sense to me. The woman with the nanny and kids at school -- I don't get it. What do you do when the nanny is taking care of the kids or when the kids are at school -- you're not cooking or doing housework? A little confused.

Run errands, meet with landscapers, decorators, contractors, real estate agent (we are trying to buy a vacation home) shop for clothes for the kids, myself, husband, grocery shop and prepare dinner (well, I do cook), play tennis, take yoga, get waxes, facials, etc., meet with friends, volunteer at school, run errands for husbands business, read books, practice the piano, visit museums or galleries, attend lectures, sometimes check out a flick that I know my husband wouldn't feel like seeing, get the car detailed, scrapbook, organize and pay household bills, garden in the summer, walk the dog, entertain out-of-town relatives when they visit - which is a lot, write articles for my alumni magazine, chair one fundraiser per year, usually. I also am taking classes towards a teaching certificate. My kids are 3, 6 and 9.

Here's a shocker --- most of us can do that AND work AND do it w/o a nanny while the kids are at school.
Fascinating.

I'm very efficient, but I can't do all of that while working and my DH does a lot to help out. Good for her.

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Anonymous wrote:

I didn't start this strand, but this doesn't make sense to me. The woman with the nanny and kids at school -- I don't get it. What do you do when the nanny is taking care of the kids or when the kids are at school -- you're not cooking or doing housework? A little confused.

Run errands, meet with landscapers, decorators, contractors, real estate agent (we are trying to buy a vacation home) shop for clothes for the kids, myself, husband, grocery shop and prepare dinner (well, I do cook), play tennis, take yoga, get waxes, facials, etc., meet with friends, volunteer at school, run errands for husbands business, read books, practice the piano, visit museums or galleries, attend lectures, sometimes check out a flick that I know my husband wouldn't feel like seeing, get the car detailed, scrapbook, organize and pay household bills, garden in the summer, walk the dog, entertain out-of-town relatives when they visit - which is a lot, write articles for my alumni magazine, chair one fundraiser per year, usually. I also am taking classes towards a teaching certificate. My kids are 3, 6 and 9.

Here's a shocker --- most of us can do that AND work AND do it w/o a nanny while the kids are at school.
Fascinating.

Who do you think you're kidding??? I don't have a nanny and I have dishes in the sink all day long, laundry that needs doing all day long, ETC!!!! I haven' t been to a museum that doesn't have a dinosaur or an air plane in it in years. Your sour grapes are showing, PP. I would LOVE to have a full time nanny, w/ or w/out working.

Not the PP but wanted to say I really dislike when posters assume another poster is jealous or "sour grapes". I read PPs post as she was irritated by the mother with the full time nanny etc. But it does irk me that posters on the list serve cannot state an alternative / adverse opinion without being labelled jealous or such.

Well, an alternative opinion is one thing, but what PP was suggesting an alternative reality. On this planet, sorry, no way is some mom w/o a nanny out there doing all the things the mom with the full time nanny listed AND working. No way.

Ok well, I'm the one who originally posted my annoyance about the particular mom who complained but had a nanny, didn't work, kids were in school. It was a personal annoyance that I had with one person. In all honesty, I was venting and perhaps this was not the appropriate place to vent . The above mom who accomplishes the huge list of things...I respect that. I was talking about another particular instance. At the end of the day, many of us have choices and there are tradeoffs for each choice made. No one's life is better. I can afford to have a nanny but i choose accomplish less (I don't cook. I don't have time to volunteer, but I make time for the friends and family who need my help.) My life is simple, not complicated, not too many things going on. But I chose that and I love it. I am good to others and sleep well at night .

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Anonymous wrote:

I didn't start this strand, but this doesn't make sense to me. The woman with the nanny and kids at school -- I don't get it. What do you do when the nanny is taking care of the kids or when the kids are at school -- you're not cooking or doing housework? A little confused.

Run errands, meet with landscapers, decorators, contractors, real estate agent (we are trying to buy a vacation home) shop for clothes for the kids, myself, husband, grocery shop and prepare dinner (well, I do cook), play tennis, take yoga, get waxes, facials, etc., meet with friends, volunteer at school, run errands for husbands business, read books, practice the piano, visit museums or galleries, attend lectures, sometimes check out a flick that I know my husband wouldn't feel like seeing, get the car detailed, scrapbook, organize and pay household bills, garden in the summer, walk the dog, entertain out-of-town relatives when they visit - which is a lot, write articles for my alumni magazine, chair one fundraiser per year, usually. I also am taking classes towards a teaching certificate. My kids are 3, 6 and 9.

Here's a shocker --- most of us can do that AND work AND do it w/o a nanny while the kids are at school.
Fascinating.

Who do you think you're kidding??? I don't have a nanny and I have dishes in the sink all day long, laundry that needs doing all day long, ETC!!!! I haven' t been to a museum that doesn't have a dinosaur or an air plane in it in years. Your sour grapes are showing, PP. I would LOVE to have a full time nanny, w/ or w/out working.

Not the PP but wanted to say I really dislike when posters assume another poster is jealous or "sour grapes". I read PPs post as she was irritated by the mother with the full time nanny etc. But it does irk me that posters on the list serve cannot state an alternative / adverse opinion without being labelled jealous or such.

Well, an alternative opinion is one thing, but what PP was suggesting an alternative reality. On this planet, sorry, no way is some mom w/o a nanny out there doing all the things the mom with the full time nanny listed AND working. No way.

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Anonymous wrote:

I didn't start this strand, but this doesn't make sense to me. The woman with the nanny and kids at school -- I don't get it. What do you do when the nanny is taking care of the kids or when the kids are at school -- you're not cooking or doing housework? A little confused.

Run errands, meet with landscapers, decorators, contractors, real estate agent (we are trying to buy a vacation home) shop for clothes for the kids, myself, husband, grocery shop and prepare dinner (well, I do cook), play tennis, take yoga, get waxes, facials, etc., meet with friends, volunteer at school, run errands for husbands business, read books, practice the piano, visit museums or galleries, attend lectures, sometimes check out a flick that I know my husband wouldn't feel like seeing, get the car detailed, scrapbook, organize and pay household bills, garden in the summer, walk the dog, entertain out-of-town relatives when they visit - which is a lot, write articles for my alumni magazine, chair one fundraiser per year, usually. I also am taking classes towards a teaching certificate. My kids are 3, 6 and 9.

Here's a shocker --- most of us can do that AND work AND do it w/o a nanny while the kids are at school.
Fascinating.

Who do you think you're kidding??? I don't have a nanny and I have dishes in the sink all day long, laundry that needs doing all day long, ETC!!!! I haven' t been to a museum that doesn't have a dinosaur or an air plane in it in years. Your sour grapes are showing, PP. I would LOVE to have a full time nanny, w/ or w/out working.

Not the PP but wanted to say I really dislike when posters assume another poster is jealous or "sour grapes". I read PPs post as she was irritated by the mother with the full time nanny etc. But it does irk me that posters on the list serve cannot state an alternative / adverse opinion without being labelled jealous or such.

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Anonymous wrote:

I didn't start this strand, but this doesn't make sense to me. The woman with the nanny and kids at school -- I don't get it. What do you do when the nanny is taking care of the kids or when the kids are at school -- you're not cooking or doing housework? A little confused.

Run errands, meet with landscapers, decorators, contractors, real estate agent (we are trying to buy a vacation home) shop for clothes for the kids, myself, husband, grocery shop and prepare dinner (well, I do cook), play tennis, take yoga, get waxes, facials, etc., meet with friends, volunteer at school, run errands for husbands business, read books, practice the piano, visit museums or galleries, attend lectures, sometimes check out a flick that I know my husband wouldn't feel like seeing, get the car detailed, scrapbook, organize and pay household bills, garden in the summer, walk the dog, entertain out-of-town relatives when they visit - which is a lot, write articles for my alumni magazine, chair one fundraiser per year, usually. I also am taking classes towards a teaching certificate. My kids are 3, 6 and 9.

Here's a shocker --- most of us can do that AND work AND do it w/o a nanny while the kids are at school.
Fascinating.

Who do you think you're kidding??? I don't have a nanny and I have dishes in the sink all day long, laundry that needs doing all day long, ETC!!!! I haven' t been to a museum that doesn't have a dinosaur or an air plane in it in years. Your sour grapes are showing, PP. I would LOVE to have a full time nanny, w/ or w/out working.

Anonymous wrote:I guess I'm in the minority then. I wish I could do all that with or without a nanny!

Okay...maybe I do have to prioritize...I don't actually get around to writing articles for my alumni magazine!

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Anonymous wrote:I just encountered this one ---
Mothers who think it is okay that their husbands don't change diapers, feed their kids, bathe their kids, etc. and the mothers say they hate it but hey, what can you do cause they the mothers don't work on the car or do the gardening?

Wow. I must have some weird relationship with my hubby where we have a partnership -- clearly we are odd ducks!

why would this annoy you if your relationship works?

It is a fait d'accomplit attitude that grates my feminist nerves.

Anonymous wrote:I just encountered this one ---
Mothers who think it is okay that their husbands don't change diapers, feed their kids, bathe their kids, etc. and the mothers say they hate it but hey, what can you do cause they the mothers don't work on the car or do the gardening?

Wow. I must have some weird relationship with my hubby where we have a partnership -- clearly we are odd ducks!

why would this annoy you if your relationship works?

I guess I'm in the minority then. I wish I could do all that with or without a nanny!

I just encountered this one ---
Mothers who think it is okay that their husbands don't change diapers, feed their kids, bathe their kids, etc. and the mothers say they hate it but hey, what can you do cause they the mothers don't work on the car or do the gardening?

Wow. I must have some weird relationship with my hubby where we have a partnership -- clearly we are odd ducks!

Anonymous wrote:

I didn't start this strand, but this doesn't make sense to me. The woman with the nanny and kids at school -- I don't get it. What do you do when the nanny is taking care of the kids or when the kids are at school -- you're not cooking or doing housework? A little confused.

Run errands, meet with landscapers, decorators, contractors, real estate agent (we are trying to buy a vacation home) shop for clothes for the kids, myself, husband, grocery shop and prepare dinner (well, I do cook), play tennis, take yoga, get waxes, facials, etc., meet with friends, volunteer at school, run errands for husbands business, read books, practice the piano, visit museums or galleries, attend lectures, sometimes check out a flick that I know my husband wouldn't feel like seeing, get the car detailed, scrapbook, organize and pay household bills, garden in the summer, walk the dog, entertain out-of-town relatives when they visit - which is a lot, write articles for my alumni magazine, chair one fundraiser per year, usually. I also am taking classes towards a teaching certificate. My kids are 3, 6 and 9.

Here's a shocker --- most of us can do that AND work AND do it w/o a nanny while the kids are at school.
Fascinating.