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Anonymous wrote:I don’t plan to grow old or retire. I’m 43, single and childless. I don’t have a lot of money but enough while I’m working. No retirement plan because I just plan to check out when I’m done living. Will wait for my mom to pass away first. I’m not depressed and my life is fine, I just don’t want to grow old and don’t see the point.

If I didn't have a relationship with Jesus I would feel exactly the same way. It is completely rational and intelligent.

You guys hit happy hour together, or is it a more serious relationship?

I hate the term "ally" in the context of social issues. I'm an upper class white male who leans to the left. I recognize that I have been the beneficiary of just about any privilege you care to name and I generally wish marginalized groups well, but I give zero f*cks what you think it means to be "a good ally."

I'll do what I'm going to do, and I hope our interests align, but if you don't think I'm an "ally," that's perfectly ok.

Anonymous wrote:I hate having a puppy.

Troll. No one hates puppies.

Anonymous wrote:Approaching 20 years of marriage and no one knows what a miserable marriage I am in. Great kids, great in-laws, great jobs, all the trappings of success. But we are roommates and have been for a long time. I feel nothing for him sexually. But I don't want to blow up my family.

It's not blowing it up, it's moving on. Don't keep it on life support if it's going to die anyways.

If you don't make the first move, then your husband might... then he'll be in control of the process.

Anonymous wrote:Approaching 20 years of marriage and no one knows what a miserable marriage I am in. Great kids, great in-laws, great jobs, all the trappings of success. But we are roommates and have been for a long time. I feel nothing for him sexually. But I don't want to blow up my family.

You could be my wife, so why not give me a hall pass and we could live as totally amicable roommates?

Approaching 20 years of marriage and no one knows what a miserable marriage I am in. Great kids, great in-laws, great jobs, all the trappings of success. But we are roommates and have been for a long time. I feel nothing for him sexually. But I don't want to blow up my family.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t plan to grow old or retire. I’m 43, single and childless. I don’t have a lot of money but enough while I’m working. No retirement plan because I just plan to check out when I’m done living. Will wait for my mom to pass away first. I’m not depressed and my life is fine, I just don’t want to grow old and don’t see the point.

I am your life twin...except I work a stressful management job. I struggle to find what I really want to grow old for too. I recently tried to get into being a foster parent but my job is too many hours for a single parent. I am looking into changing jobs and working for an NGO or something to see if that helps.

What kind of job do you have that you can work from anywhere. I would love that!

I'm similar. 42, single , childless, very few friends, very little money, drifted away from some family and hold myself at a distance from other family (toxic). I will definitely end it when I'm finished. I will never have enough money to buy property or retire from work.

He loves me more than I love him. I’m okay with that.

Anonymous wrote:I send flowers, small gifts, and lunch to my office as if they are from a boyfriend. Everyone else in the office is paired up and I do this to fit in .

a bit crazy but why not!

PP who plans to end their life when they are “done living” — what is your perception of “old”? You say you’re not depressed, but would you say that you don’t love life?

This is the lesson you have learned. You play with fire, you will get burned.

Real men know actions speak louder than words.

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Anonymous wrote:I wear Manties.

http://www.manties.net

normally, I don't care of pass judgement on the personal choices of other people. but dude, seriously, WTF???? somethings cannot be unseen

Thank you, PP!!
Personally I immediately cut the bows off mine and hate itchy lace so it's hysterical that men would seek these out.

I send flowers, small gifts, and lunch to my office as if they are from a boyfriend. Everyone else in the office is paired up and I do this to fit in .

Lesson learned. You play with fire and you will get burned. Never try to play the master.

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Anonymous wrote:I fantasize about another man while having sex with my husband.

I’m fine with that, sex is sex. signed your husband.

He's right. We don't care who you think about. Whatever makes it hot for you. Those are your own private thoughts.

I asked my GF if she ever fantasized about another guy when we had sex. Even a movie star, not just an ex or someone known to her. She swears she only thinks about me. I don't believe her but that's OK.

I never did til i fell out of love with dh. 15 years.

Again, even an absence of love can still work... right up until you stop having sex. At that exact point, it's all over: divorce.

Disagree. In my late 50s. Give me love over sex all day long.