Anonymous wrote:3;confessions.

Dh is out of town. I just ate a big ass piece of chocolate mocha cake, now on drum, and will bust out big Bertha (sex toy) and I couldn’t be more content.

I half jokingly brought up open marriage, saying I wouldn’t really care if dh had safe sex with someone else as long as it didn’t jeopardize our marriage or family and that long term monogamy was hard. But really I was thinking of myself. He responded that he would be devastated if I was having s3x with someone else and he didn’t think he would be able to have sex and not develop feelings for someone (unlike me)


If dh left me or passed away, I would never get remarried or live with someone. I love him very much and we have a good life but I realized that as much as I thought I want and needed marriage and kids to feel complete, I actually crave solitude and autonomy.

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Anonymous wrote:Man here, tall, athletic, reasonably attractive and successful. But people would be shocked if they knew how long I have struggled with depression and anxiety. Yes, have gone through the therapy and mild medication route and know what triggers it and how to generally handle. But it is always lurking in the background ready to come up.

I am totally embarrassed by this because men are not supposed to be this way. But maybe it's better than drowning my sorrows in booze, like others do.

For what its worth, I'm a pretty tall, fit, reasonably attractive and successful guy as well. I struggle with hypochondria and some generalized anxiety. It hit me like a ton of bricks when I was in my early 30's and in grad school. These last few weeks have been really tough as both of my parents are starting to have health issues and I've been having a few issues myself.

You're more normal than you think.

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Anonymous wrote:I am having an EA with someone I met here

Shhhhhhsh!

Anonymous wrote:I answered an ad on CL "Strictly Platonic" in February and have been corresponding with a man I met for the past three months. I'm happily married but lonely, which is why I answered the ad. It hasn't been sexual or overly flirty, but I still feel guilty about it. Despite this, I don't want to quit writing because it gives me something to look forward to every day.

Anonymous wrote:I answered an ad on CL "Strictly Platonic" in February and have been corresponding with a man I met for the past three months. I'm happily married but lonely, which is why I answered the ad. It hasn't been sexual or overly flirty, but I still feel guilty about it. Despite this, I don't want to quit writing because it gives me something to look forward to every day.

Anonymous wrote:Last week I went to get a massage at an understated place I frequent in McLean. Not only did I get an unexpected happy ending, but I got a happy beginning and middle as well. Never before have I had such an experience (dating, married, etc). It was dark and I was face down so initially I just kept my eyes closed. Fingers and hands, and then his mouth. Titliating and shook me to the core. When I opened them, I started to stop him but then I just fell back and decided to enjoy it. I did. I haven't told my husband. And I thought I would be mortified afterwards, but, instead I feel free and alive somehow. I didn't invite it. I didn't stop it. It was hot. I may go back, but, that would be entirely different experience all together....

Anonymous wrote:I am having an EA with someone I met here

Anonymous wrote:I am putting my DW through absolute hell over a long-term (over two years) EA she had which didn't end until I confronted the guy myself. Meanwhile, in our first two years of dating, I had actual sex with 4 different woman. I caught her, she never caught me so she gets to suffer.

Anonymous wrote:I too am a closet Christian. There is open mockery and a complete lack of tolerance of Christians where I work.

Its an interesting perspective to gain but it does wear on your soul after a while to not be able to be yourself.