Anonymous
Post 05/07/2014 14:07     Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:OP, couldn't read through 37 pages, but wanted to offer a thought. I'm not into judging people's actions; the truth is we'll only know a portion of your story. So I'll leave the morality of what you're doing up to you. But I hear a casualness in your description of where you are in your life and I'd advise caution. At 24, it's easy to feel like you have all the time in the world to find your career, yourself, your partner, etc. The truth is, the choices you make now are shaping what happens next. Meaning, you're doing more than just treading water right now, even though it may feel that innocuous. There's a great TED talk about this: Why 30 is not the new 20: http://www.ted.com/talks/meg_jay_why_30_is_not_the_new_20

Listen to this, and consider moving on in your life. I bet there's better things ahead for you.


+1. She has already spent more than 1/5 of her life with this guy. Breaking free and building a life is only going to be that much harder one, two, five years from now.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2014 14:04     Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:Some are really desperate to kill this thread! Must really hate/fear OP.


Please do NOT kill this thread! This is fascinating. OP's thought processes are more interesting than the actual logistics. The responses are also very...educational.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2014 14:03     Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
OP, couldn't read through 37 pages, but wanted to offer a thought. I'm not into judging people's actions; the truth is we'll only know a portion of your story. So I'll leave the morality of what you're doing up to you. But I hear a casualness in your description of where you are in your life and I'd advise caution. At 24, it's easy to feel like you have all the time in the world to find your career, yourself, your partner, etc. The truth is, the choices you make now are shaping what happens next. Meaning, you're doing more than just treading water right now, even though it may feel that innocuous. There's a great TED talk about this: Why 30 is not the new 20: http://www.ted.com/talks/meg_jay_why_30_is_not_the_new_20

Listen to this, and consider moving on in your life. I bet there's better things ahead for you.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2014 14:01     Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:I have known several women who slept with or dated married men. Every one of them expects to have a faithful spouse one day. They really don't see the irony.


I've known several such women myself. All have ended up alone in their late 30s/early40s. OP, better get a day job because it's a very short ride. First time you have to dye the grey, he'll find a new model.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2014 13:59     Subject: Re:Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:Not sure if anyone asked this question before..didn't read thru the 37 odd pages!

Where/how the heck did you meet his guy, with the huge age difference and all? Did you put yourself up on one sugar daddy website, during college?


I think she said he knew her Professor and spoke to her class
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2014 13:58     Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?


The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.


Does she work? I could understand exhaustion if her job was demanding. But if she is a SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper, OMG.


Otherwise known as depression.


Well, then she does have mental health issues if that is the case, and it could certainly affect a marriage and having zero sex could definitely push a husband into an affair. I don't necessarily blame him if that's the case because having no sex clinically constitutes spousal abuse.


WTF? Spousal abuse is a serious subject, PP!
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2014 13:57     Subject: Re:Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Not sure if anyone asked this question before..didn't read thru the 37 odd pages!

Where/how the heck did you meet his guy, with the huge age difference and all? Did you put yourself up on one sugar daddy website, during college?
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2014 13:55     Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:How do you guys even know this person is for real?


+1! Sounds like another DCUM legend.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2014 13:54     Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:OP, how do you know you're the only "kept woman"? Is he just with you or does he have others?

Do you practice safe sex/get tested?


Op is under the impression that she is his only other woman and that the wife is the only other (rare) bed partner.

What are the odds that she's practicing safe sex, being tested for STDs....hmmm.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2014 13:52     Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:[quote=
I would want to be in shape and looking good even if I weren't with him. I get to pick out my clothes - it's more he'll tell me what the dress code is when we're going somewhere. No, I do what I want. He was very surprised when I fostered a dog, for example. Not upset, but surprised. There have been several times he's wanted to get together and I've been unavailable - we just plan a different time.


What did you tell the rescue organization you did for a living?


I work part time doing interior design.


Op, dump the dude and keep fostering those doggies. So much more meaningful.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2014 13:52     Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
OP, how do you know you're the only "kept woman"? Is he just with you or does he have others?

Do you practice safe sex/get tested?
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2014 13:46     Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Ugh...low class kept woman and low class sugar daddy!

Why are we wasting time here. They both obviously deserve each other. Let's not try and make it respectable or compare it with SAHMa etc.

This is just a man paying a woman for sexual favors. It's a transaction - no need to try and find a deeper motive. Sheesh! DCUM should stop trying to save her soul!
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2014 13:45     Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:And how much $$ does he earn per year?

And what is his ethnicity?


He's also a white American. I have never asked what he earns per year. My guess is mid to high six figures?


Oh, that's not enough that he ought to be taking it away from his kids (maybe wife is a bitch).


Not OP, but that's not a question.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2014 13:44     Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think I know who this man is -- initials are D.S. Am I right, OP? I won't reveal the whole name, don't worry.


No. And I'm not in Arlington.


Is his name Donald? I'll kill the mother fucker! Frigid, my ass.


Why would you ask if his name was Donald when the answer to "Are his initials DS?" was no?


Two different posters. I was the D.S. poster, but not the Donald poster.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2014 13:44     Subject: Ask me anything: I am a kept woman
OP's keeper could be making a six ir seven figure income. Or running up huge debts. It's a common story on American Greed and 20/20. Guy has a family with a high-end lifestyle plus mistresses on the side. Maxes out all his credit options and then turns to illegal sources. Maybe takes out a large insurance policy on his wife, etc. All because the guy thinks he's entitled to a life he can't earn legitimately. Lies to everyone, including his parents and friends, to keep up the facade.