Anonymous
Post 06/12/2025 20:02     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I try to do more chores.


This is the way.

This is not the way. The way is to make your wife feel valued and desired. Chores may be part of that (shows you are invested in your life together and you value her time and effort), but for me it’s not important. I just need DH to show interest in me and desire me.


What exactly do you think wanting to have sex is? Ridiculous excuses. Why aren’t you making your husband feel valued?
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2025 15:15     Subject: Re:Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
You must be new to DCUM. That's how it works. I don't think any man is stupid enough to start a thread on DCUM actually looking for advice. They're all troll threads.


Women on DCUM are experts on how men think and feel and why husbands are the source of more than 90% of any marital problems. These same women believe that men should neither post nor respond to posts about women.

Watch the responses to this post, and see the truth revealed.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2025 14:47     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ok guys. Here’s our group. How are you handling this? What has worked; what hasn’t? How will we go on in this situation? Let’s discuss.


Can anyone explain why a man created this support group for men, but it turned into 35 pages of responses written by women, attacking men?


You must be new to DCUM. That's how it works. I don't think any man is stupid enough to start a thread on DCUM actually looking for advice. They're all troll threads.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2025 12:56     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
I’m a successful family man who is so involved with my children’s development, home’s maintenance, and spouse’s support! Get with me!
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2025 12:55     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do not accept a sexless marriage. If she's not interested, declare the marriage open. Problem solved in 15 seconds.


You are disgusting.


It is a viable solution


When you have to lie about yourself and who you are in order to “get” sex, you are indeed the problem.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2025 11:37     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ok guys. Here’s our group. How are you handling this? What has worked; what hasn’t? How will we go on in this situation? Let’s discuss.


Can anyone explain why a man created this support group for men, but it turned into 35 pages of responses written by women, attacking men?


I (a woman) am discovering this thread for the first time, but I suspect it's because women wandered into this thread out of curiosity like me, and discovered many of the men in the thread misunderstanding why women have declining libido. It is frustrating for me to read some of these comments from men who seem to have misplaced anger because they view the loss of sex in their marriage as something their wives control and have taken away from them. But since loss of libido is often something a woman does not have control over, that anger is both unproductive (in fact counterproductive) and unfair.

I do think many of the comments from women in the thread are actually meant in good faith, to be helpful. Not to attack or criticize.


I think hormones, aging, and familiarity are big drivers of a lack of sexual interest by wives for their husbands. I think men often don't understand this because women often aren't very direct in explaining that these are big drivers in lack of sexual interest. Maybe they don't know themselves. Maybe the idea that forces largely out of the couple's control are responsible for the situation is just too daunting or depressing, and it's reassuring to think that if only DH did x, y, and z that's within his control that maybe the sexual desire would return.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2025 10:17     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I try to do more chores.


This is the way.


Bwahahaha. Intimacy as a trade tool. Going to end up one of the husbands walking around the mall on Sunday following his wife around contemplating if jumping from the upper level of the mall is enough to kill himself.


lol
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2025 10:16     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I try to do more chores.


This is the way.

This is not the way. The way is to make your wife feel valued and desired. Chores may be part of that (shows you are invested in your life together and you value her time and effort), but for me it’s not important. I just need DH to show interest in me and desire me.


I desire my DW with all my being, but she cares about the chores the most.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2025 10:15     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Anonymous wrote:Take meds to reduce libido, most antidepressants can help, it will improve all areas of your life too when u aren't constantly thinking of sensous pleasure


This is the way
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2025 10:02     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I try to do more chores.


This is the way.

This is not the way. The way is to make your wife feel valued and desired. Chores may be part of that (shows you are invested in your life together and you value her time and effort), but for me it’s not important. I just need DH to show interest in me and desire me.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2025 09:43     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do not accept a sexless marriage. If she's not interested, declare the marriage open. Problem solved in 15 seconds.


You are disgusting.


It is a viable solution
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2025 09:08     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I try to do more chores.


This is the way.


Bwahahaha. Intimacy as a trade tool. Going to end up one of the husbands walking around the mall on Sunday following his wife around contemplating if jumping from the upper level of the mall is enough to kill himself.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2025 08:52     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Anonymous wrote:I try to do more chores.


This is the way.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2025 08:14     Subject: Re:Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Anonymous wrote:
No, it is a function of women believing that sex is something that is to be given to someone, not something that is shared between people.

But, another weird bump of a many-year old thread.



+1
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2025 08:11     Subject: Support Group for middle aged husbands not having sex
Anonymous wrote:Do not accept a sexless marriage. If she's not interested, declare the marriage open. Problem solved in 15 seconds.


You are disgusting.