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Anonymous wrote:https://time.com/6231990/love-is-blind-zanab-cole-cuties/

I think this is a very honest take on the cuties scene. I stand by my opinion that Cole is an immature ass. He didn’t realize the impact his words had. Not just in individual moments, but cumulatively. When you take all the comments together (you’re a 9 to Colleen’s 10, you’re not my usual type, you’re going to eat 2?, etc.) and you say them to someone with insecurity issues, you’re inflicting real damage. I don’t think it was intentional, but he needs to learn how to filter.

I read this article honestly with an open mind as I went into yesterday's episodes with this essential interpretation of Zanab and have left those episodes convinced she is abusive.

You know what this article leaves out VERY conveniently? The same thing Zanab leaves out. The fact that when alerted to the fact that she had only eaten a banana that day he becomes audibly and visibly concerned, asks why she didn't eat food offered earlier and reiterates his question of why when brushed off.

THAT moment is the crux of intent in the scene. If he was trying to get at her, he would not have reacted that way.

I don't think Cole did anything wrong related to food, but at that point Zanab had her narrative of who Cole was and took everything either in the worst way possible, or the wrong way.

Anonymous wrote:Here's how you know Zanab has MAJOR issues...

Perhaps she personally remembered the cuties situation wrong. We've all had other shit going on in our heads, gone into situations already wanting a fight, and overreacted ok. It happens.

But it was aired, publicly for her to rewatch many months later. Most stable people would would have realized "oh shit, I really way overdid it and took my shit out on Cole because I was dealing with XYZ" - and then apologize for her behavior with hindsight and clarity.

Instead, she clung to her narrative, saying she stands by everything she said, disallows all commenting on all her posts, and says she has nothing to apologize for.

At least Cole apologized and realized he effed up. Zanab is living in her own crazy concocted reality that only she lives in.

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Anonymous wrote:Such a bummer trying to watch a relaxing lighthearted show and then getting triggered because Z is exactly like my mom. Imagine growing up when everything you say is purposefully twisted because the other person is so damaged and insecure. I am sorry for what she went through but I hope she never has kids.

Nobody deserves the cruelty that Z publicly inflicted upon Cole at the end of the show. Cole was not perfect. He apologized throughout the series. He might be a doofus but he was a genuine doofus.

Z is a very attractive woman. I feel sorry for any man that links up with her. She is has really serious, serious issues.

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He's been married before so I'm sure he's quite familiar with a woman talking about wedding dress fittings and dieting. the sta he commented was very much "oh right, I remember that--you must be dieting for the dress!" I know I watched what I ate for a month before my wedding, as did many of my friends. it's not a tried troupe but rather a normal occurrence for most of us who are not naturally twigs. Whether it's healthy is debatable but it's really,really common.

Yes, Cole's reaction was like my husband's: "You look awesome, but if you want to lose weight before the wedding, it's your body and your choice and I'll try and be supportive."

You really want the groom mansplaining about why the bride doesn't need to lose weight?

I must have missed Cole's "you look awesome" part.

Anonymous wrote:Such a bummer trying to watch a relaxing lighthearted show and then getting triggered because Z is exactly like my mom. Imagine growing up when everything you say is purposefully twisted because the other person is so damaged and insecure. I am sorry for what she went through but I hope she never has kids.

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He's been married before so I'm sure he's quite familiar with a woman talking about wedding dress fittings and dieting. the sta he commented was very much "oh right, I remember that--you must be dieting for the dress!" I know I watched what I ate for a month before my wedding, as did many of my friends. it's not a tried troupe but rather a normal occurrence for most of us who are not naturally twigs. Whether it's healthy is debatable but it's really,really common.

Yes, Cole's reaction was like my husband's: "You look awesome, but if you want to lose weight before the wedding, it's your body and your choice and I'll try and be supportive."

You really want the groom mansplaining about why the bride doesn't need to lose weight?

I must have missed Cole's "you look awesome" part.

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Anonymous wrote:
He's been married before so I'm sure he's quite familiar with a woman talking about wedding dress fittings and dieting. the sta he commented was very much "oh right, I remember that--you must be dieting for the dress!" I know I watched what I ate for a month before my wedding, as did many of my friends. it's not a tried troupe but rather a normal occurrence for most of us who are not naturally twigs. Whether it's healthy is debatable but it's really,really common.

Yes, Cole's reaction was like my husband's: "You look awesome, but if you want to lose weight before the wedding, it's your body and your choice and I'll try and be supportive."

You really want the groom mansplaining about why the bride doesn't need to lose weight?

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Anonymous wrote:I think Cole and Z are a terrible couple. He is way too immature but, I think, she is seriously damaged.

IMO, The "cuties" clip made her look horrible.

Agree 100%

I don't think Zaneb thinks she's lying. I think she believes she's stating things as she believes they were. But the cuties clip makes it VERY clear that she concocts her own stores, hears what she has already decided in her head is what's going on, and then accepts it at fact. It doesn't matter at all what the other person is actually saying, with their words or body language or expressions. Honestly I think she has borderline--her 'splitting' of Cole is classic.

She also disabled comments on her IG. Because the narrative that other people are nearly uniformly telling her are automatically wrong according to the story she's already made up.

I feel really bad for Cole. No he wasn't perfect and was a dumbass at the pool. But he apologized many times. If Zanab wasn't able to move on from that then that's fine, but to say he never apologized is insane. She's so far removed from reality that nothing anyone says would matter.

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He's been married before so I'm sure he's quite familiar with a woman talking about wedding dress fittings and dieting. the sta he commented was very much "oh right, I remember that--you must be dieting for the dress!" I know I watched what I ate for a month before my wedding, as did many of my friends. it's not a tried troupe but rather a normal occurrence for most of us who are not naturally twigs. Whether it's healthy is debatable but it's really,really common.

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Anonymous wrote:
He's been married before so I'm sure he's quite familiar with a woman talking about wedding dress fittings and dieting. the sta he commented was very much "oh right, I remember that--you must be dieting for the dress!" I know I watched what I ate for a month before my wedding, as did many of my friends. it's not a tried troupe but rather a normal occurrence for most of us who are not naturally twigs. Whether it's healthy is debatable but it's really,really common.

This is coming from a woman who does not get this practice . Don’t your fiancée, friends and family know what your body looks like? Who are you dieting for? That is not the you they know and fell in love with.
It is like you feel the need to create a false person for the photo album?

Anonymous wrote:
He's been married before so I'm sure he's quite familiar with a woman talking about wedding dress fittings and dieting. the sta he commented was very much "oh right, I remember that--you must be dieting for the dress!" I know I watched what I ate for a month before my wedding, as did many of my friends. it's not a tried troupe but rather a normal occurrence for most of us who are not naturally twigs. Whether it's healthy is debatable but it's really,really common.