Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 14:18     Subject: How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.


Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.


That is irrelevant to the fact that legacy is an extremely significant boost, one of the most powerful. The odds are that they would not have been accepted absent the legacy hook because that’s how the process works.


Lots of circular logic here. You must not have gone to a T10 school.


You don’t understand what circular logic actually is. Also, I went to HYSP.


Sure you did Jan.


I mean, you are the one throwing around the term “circular logic” while plainly not understanding what circular logic actually is. I’d say you are the one unlikely to have gone to a good school based on the evidence, but sadly this thread has demonstrated to me yet again that a degree from a good school doesn’t mean its graduates have basic logical reasoning skills.


Lots of kids get rejected therefore OP’s kid would be rejected. You’ve been making that argument for 30 pages now with zero knowledge of the actual applicant. Not impressive.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 14:17     Subject: How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is really nuts, if legacy parents really thought it didn't matter their kids could have applied without checking the legacy box/filling in the info, be it double legacy or 4th generation or whatever. They didn't do that because they also know it matters but once admitted they want to pretend otherwise. Just own it and move on


+1


Or they could do RD and apply to lots of schools and then pick the best one. A kid who gets into multiple Ivies in RD is clearly not getting a legacy boost.

But somehow the legacy parents never have that level of faith in their kids, even while demanding that everyone pretend their kid didn’t get a significant boost from legacy.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 14:17     Subject: How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is really nuts, if legacy parents really thought it didn't matter their kids could have applied without checking the legacy box/filling in the info, be it double legacy or 4th generation or whatever. They didn't do that because they also know it matters but once admitted they want to pretend otherwise. Just own it and move on


There is no such box on the Harvard application. I already told you that.


Actually a different poster….
Was this thread about Harvard?
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 14:15     Subject: How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.


Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.


That is irrelevant to the fact that legacy is an extremely significant boost, one of the most powerful. The odds are that they would not have been accepted absent the legacy hook because that’s how the process works.


Lots of circular logic here. You must not have gone to a T10 school.


You don’t understand what circular logic actually is. Also, I went to HYSP.


Sure you did Jan.


I mean, you are the one throwing around the term “circular logic” while plainly not understanding what circular logic actually is. I’d say you are the one unlikely to have gone to a good school based on the evidence, but sadly this thread has demonstrated to me yet again that a degree from a good school doesn’t mean its graduates have basic logical reasoning skills.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 14:14     Subject: How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

Anonymous wrote:This is really nuts, if legacy parents really thought it didn't matter their kids could have applied without checking the legacy box/filling in the info, be it double legacy or 4th generation or whatever. They didn't do that because they also know it matters but once admitted they want to pretend otherwise. Just own it and move on


There is no such box on the Harvard application. I already told you that.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 14:14     Subject: How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

Anonymous wrote:This is really nuts, if legacy parents really thought it didn't matter their kids could have applied without checking the legacy box/filling in the info, be it double legacy or 4th generation or whatever. They didn't do that because they also know it matters but once admitted they want to pretend otherwise. Just own it and move on


+1
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 14:13     Subject: How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.


Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.


Oh BS just because your kid is not as hard working that's on you.

Legacies get in if they have the grades and test scores.

Or if mommy or daddy buys a building. Which is not that often.

Spare us your stupidity.

My kids were legacies at two different colleges. One was 4 generations. They got in because they did the work. We did not do their college apps. What we did do is teach them how to learn and love learning. They definitely had advantages like tutors during high school if they wanted but getting in that college door they got in on their own. Some of mine came from Public school MOCO and some went to boarding all got in not because of us.

I will not diminish their accomplishments because people do not understand how legacies work.


The point is many kids have the grades and stats this is not unique to your kids. Your kids got in because of legacy.


Many kids may think they have the stats, but it turns out that there 4.0 with “high rigor” is from a school where 20 percent of the kids have the same average due to grade inflation and take the same classes isn’t that impressive.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 14:13     Subject: How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

This is really nuts, if legacy parents really thought it didn't matter their kids could have applied without checking the legacy box/filling in the info, be it double legacy or 4th generation or whatever. They didn't do that because they also know it matters but once admitted they want to pretend otherwise. Just own it and move on
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 14:11     Subject: How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.


Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.


Oh BS just because your kid is not as hard working that's on you.

Legacies get in if they have the grades and test scores.

Or if mommy or daddy buys a building. Which is not that often.

Spare us your stupidity.

My kids were legacies at two different colleges. One was 4 generations. They got in because they did the work. We did not do their college apps. What we did do is teach them how to learn and love learning. They definitely had advantages like tutors during high school if they wanted but getting in that college door they got in on their own. Some of mine came from Public school MOCO and some went to boarding all got in not because of us.

I will not diminish their accomplishments because people do not understand how legacies work.


The point is many kids have the grades and stats this is not unique to your kids. Your kids got in because of legacy.


Dp, and you don’t know. OP’s kid might have done something else to distinguish themselves that got them in. Lots of high stats legacies were deferred or rejected this cycle.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 14:08     Subject: How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.


Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.


Oh BS just because your kid is not as hard working that's on you.

Legacies get in if they have the grades and test scores.

Or if mommy or daddy buys a building. Which is not that often.

Spare us your stupidity.

My kids were legacies at two different colleges. One was 4 generations. They got in because they did the work. We did not do their college apps. What we did do is teach them how to learn and love learning. They definitely had advantages like tutors during high school if they wanted but getting in that college door they got in on their own. Some of mine came from Public school MOCO and some went to boarding all got in not because of us.

I will not diminish their accomplishments because people do not understand how legacies work.


The point is many kids have the grades and stats this is not unique to your kids. Your kids got in because of legacy.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 14:07     Subject: How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

Anonymous wrote:Was your DS confident enough to omit parents’ info on the application? If so, you could mention that.

If not, why are you distressed about this?


Harvard no longer asks about legacy.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 14:06     Subject: How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.


Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.


That is irrelevant to the fact that legacy is an extremely significant boost, one of the most powerful. The odds are that they would not have been accepted absent the legacy hook because that’s how the process works.


Lots of circular logic here. You must not have gone to a T10 school.


You don’t understand what circular logic actually is. Also, I went to HYSP.


+1, this is not circular logic.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 14:06     Subject: How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.


Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.


Oh BS just because your kid is not as hard working that's on you.

Legacies get in if they have the grades and test scores.

Or if mommy or daddy buys a building. Which is not that often.

Spare us your stupidity.

My kids were legacies at two different colleges. One was 4 generations. They got in because they did the work. We did not do their college apps. What we did do is teach them how to learn and love learning. They definitely had advantages like tutors during high school if they wanted but getting in that college door they got in on their own. Some of mine came from Public school MOCO and some went to boarding all got in not because of us.

I will not diminish their accomplishments because people do not understand how legacies work.


You’re flying off the handle at someone whose point is in support of yours. Not really sure what that says about you.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 14:05     Subject: How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

Was your DS confident enough to omit parents’ info on the application? If so, you could mention that.

If not, why are you distressed about this?
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 14:03     Subject: How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.


Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.


Oh BS just because your kid is not as hard working that's on you.

Legacies get in if they have the grades and test scores.

Or if mommy or daddy buys a building. Which is not that often.

Spare us your stupidity.

My kids were legacies at two different colleges. One was 4 generations. They got in because they did the work. We did not do their college apps. What we did do is teach them how to learn and love learning. They definitely had advantages like tutors during high school if they wanted but getting in that college door they got in on their own. Some of mine came from Public school MOCO and some went to boarding all got in not because of us.

I will not diminish their accomplishments because people do not understand how legacies work.