^^^ of forgot to add - for example, I wish I had more time to cook nutritious meals for my kids; food they could take to school etc. But I do not. You probably have time to do this.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not usually a very strict parent, but if my 13 year old said that to me I would make them submit to a week where I: do not drive them anywhere, including their favorite sports and classes, make them take the school bus, make them make their own meals, stop cleaning the house or doing the dishes, and stop doing laundry. If they have no idea what adulting looks like, we need to show them.

The thing is that all this gets done if both parents work. It’s not like their friends who have working parents don’t play sports, wear clean clothes or have dinner. Talk to your child about the pros and cons of staying home and why it works for you and DH and it may or may not work for then if they have families.

Exactly, I agree with PP. I am a single mom (totally solo parent) with two boys, I work full-time and have had health issues, but I still do all of these things for the family. Ok, now my kids are helping with doing laundry and take the trash out at least, and they take the school bus. But you can explain to your kids that there are all kind of different family structures, and you are probably able to give them more quality parenting time....I assume you do. Maybe they made this remark, because they have been over to some of their friends' homes where both parents work and all of this is still being done by the parents?

Spanking* worthy lol. Not spamming.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, they should respect you no matter what you’re doing all day. But they’re no dummies. You are basically them. They are dependents and you are too.

Except as child dependents they still need to go to school, do homework, go to sports practice or music class, study for tests, prep for college etc. there is no comparison - kids ARE busier than their sahm as teens. Pointing it out is hardly spamming worthy.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are behaving very disrespectfully toward their mother. No child should ever utter words like this toward their parent. I work but if my kids ever speak to me like this, their bum is getting a visit from Mr. Slipper. Not acceptable at all.

You’d beat your child for asking what you do all day or asserting that school is harder than staying home all day? Yikes.

I didn't have to do that yet. But I wouldn't hesitate to stop disrespectful talk.

Your child owes everything they have to you, including their life. The food in their stomach, the clothes on their body, textbooks in their room, everything they ever have, or need to have, they rely on you on. Without you, they are helpless and rudderless. They need to realize this. Even if all you did was watch soaps all day!

Why is it disrespectful? Even a child wonders what you do all day.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are behaving very disrespectfully toward their mother. No child should ever utter words like this toward their parent. I work but if my kids ever speak to me like this, their bum is getting a visit from Mr. Slipper. Not acceptable at all.

You’d beat your child for asking what you do all day or asserting that school is harder than staying home all day? Yikes.

I didn't have to do that yet. But I wouldn't hesitate to stop disrespectful talk.

Your child owes everything they have to you, including their life. The food in their stomach, the clothes on their body, textbooks in their room, everything they ever have, or need to have, they rely on you on. Without you, they are helpless and rudderless. They need to realize this. Even if all you did was watch soaps all day!

They also didn’t ask to be born, as a parent they are your responsibility. You sound like a tyrant.

Sounds like they owe most of those things to their father actually!

😂 you’re right. The working dad is the one providing the food in their stomachs, the textbooks in their rooms etc. if mom is watching soaps all day, she’s certainly not providing any of those !

Anonymous wrote:I am not usually a very strict parent, but if my 13 year old said that to me I would make them submit to a week where I: do not drive them anywhere, including their favorite sports and classes, make them take the school bus, make them make their own meals, stop cleaning the house or doing the dishes, and stop doing laundry. If they have no idea what adulting looks like, we need to show them.

Yes, I’d have said “I’ll put you to work and you will find out.”

NP. I don't know, but I wfh 100% (and have for 10 years), with a flexible (but well paying) job. And my kids have *still* acted a little entitled ever since about age 11.

They may not ask me what I do all day, but they certainly believe that their needs supercede everything else, including my work responsibilities. I have been available to them for everything, from all meals, to the laundry, to cleaning, to transportation for various activities, to daily homework help. The sheer lack of gratitude is grating, so I empathize OP.

Yes, they should respect you no matter what you’re doing all day. But they’re no dummies. You are basically them. They are dependents and you are too.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are behaving very disrespectfully toward their mother. No child should ever utter words like this toward their parent. I work but if my kids ever speak to me like this, their bum is getting a visit from Mr. Slipper. Not acceptable at all.

You’d beat your child for asking what you do all day or asserting that school is harder than staying home all day? Yikes.

I didn't have to do that yet. But I wouldn't hesitate to stop disrespectful talk.

Your child owes everything they have to you, including their life. The food in their stomach, the clothes on their body, textbooks in their room, everything they ever have, or need to have, they rely on you on. Without you, they are helpless and rudderless. They need to realize this. Even if all you did was watch soaps all day!

They also didn’t ask to be born, as a parent they are your responsibility. You sound like a tyrant.

Sounds like they owe most of those things to their father actually!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are behaving very disrespectfully toward their mother. No child should ever utter words like this toward their parent. I work but if my kids ever speak to me like this, their bum is getting a visit from Mr. Slipper. Not acceptable at all.

You’d beat your child for asking what you do all day or asserting that school is harder than staying home all day? Yikes.

I didn't have to do that yet. But I wouldn't hesitate to stop disrespectful talk.

Your child owes everything they have to you, including their life. The food in their stomach, the clothes on their body, textbooks in their room, everything they ever have, or need to have, they rely on you on. Without you, they are helpless and rudderless. They need to realize this. Even if all you did was watch soaps all day!

Wonder how things will go when you are ancient and want your kids to care for you.

Maybe you will get a taste of your own medicine.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are behaving very disrespectfully toward their mother. No child should ever utter words like this toward their parent. I work but if my kids ever speak to me like this, their bum is getting a visit from Mr. Slipper. Not acceptable at all.

You’d beat your child for asking what you do all day or asserting that school is harder than staying home all day? Yikes.

I didn't have to do that yet. But I wouldn't hesitate to stop disrespectful talk.

Your child owes everything they have to you, including their life. The food in their stomach, the clothes on their body, textbooks in their room, everything they ever have, or need to have, they rely on you on. Without you, they are helpless and rudderless. They need to realize this. Even if all you did was watch soaps all day!

They also didn’t ask to be born, as a parent they are your responsibility. You sound like a tyrant.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids are behaving very disrespectfully toward their mother. No child should ever utter words like this toward their parent. I work but if my kids ever speak to me like this, their bum is getting a visit from Mr. Slipper. Not acceptable at all.

You’d beat your child for asking what you do all day or asserting that school is harder than staying home all day? Yikes.

I didn't have to do that yet. But I wouldn't hesitate to stop disrespectful talk.

Your child owes everything they have to you, including their life. The food in their stomach, the clothes on their body, textbooks in their room, everything they ever have, or need to have, they rely on you on. Without you, they are helpless and rudderless. They need to realize this. Even if all you did was watch soaps all day!

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are behaving very disrespectfully toward their mother. No child should ever utter words like this toward their parent. I work but if my kids ever speak to me like this, their bum is getting a visit from Mr. Slipper. Not acceptable at all.

You’d beat your child for asking what you do all day or asserting that school is harder than staying home all day? Yikes.