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Anonymous wrote:Fo most Americans, when they are attending a large social gathering, they don't expect to take their shoes off. If it's hundreds of people, a really high percentage of them are going to feel weird wandering around in socks or barefoot. They won't be prepared for it. If you are really insistent on things, I'd either cancel the social function or make peace with some vacuuming and mopping afterwards.

NP here, but, is this really true? In the DC area? We are in NoVa and, where we live, at least, people always semi-expect to take shoes off in the home. Maybe because our school is around 50% Asian/Muslim but it's pretty standard. No one is offended, most expect it. I'm really struggling to figure out where people live that this idea is "so crazy and unexpected"???

Agreed. This isn't uncommon anymore. The few people who are so rabid to keep their shoes on likely know many people who do this, they just refuse to associate with them lest someone see their nasty feet

Op here. I think it is different if I am inviting friends or our kids’ friends to our home vs complete strangers.

We keep an immaculate home. I will just invite people we actually have a relationship with or want a relationship with who would respect our wishes. I am so glad I actually asked this question on here. I thought most people would say that it would be no big deal but obviously many people would find the request to take their shoes off offensive.

I keep an immaculate home as well but I wouldn't ask guests at a school dinner party to take their shoes off. I bet your house isn't as clean as you think but in any event you reek of judgment.

Not OP, but you (and everyone else whining about not taking shoes off) are literally revealing yourselves to be a complete and total clowns who enjoy living in filth and squalor. Yes, we are judging you unless you literally have a maid at the door ready to follow guests with a mop, bucket, and rug shampooer.

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Anonymous wrote:I am from Norway originally and live in the states now so my perspective may be skewed but I've never had guests over who haven't taken off their shoes at the door. Wouldn't it be very unsanitary for people to be walking inside with their shoes on? I just find this very strange and frankly a bit gross.

Moreover I don't see how this is an inconvenience to anyone. What would their reservation be? And again, would people wear shoes even if they're walking on a rug or something? Do you have to mop/clean daily, and have floor coverings professionally cleaned frequently? Just trying to wrap my head around this, thanks.

There have been 34 pages of discussion about this. I'm not sure what else there is to say.

Yes, 34 pages of proof establishing that [white] Americans are selfish and filthy.

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Anonymous wrote:In my 60 years of living I have only been to one party where the host demanded guests to remove shoes.(and it was awkward ). I’ve been to lots and lots of social events in many states and countries and I always dress up and include shoes as part of my outfit. Everyone else wears shoes too. I think it’s strange to have a party and ask people to go shoe-less. Never in my life have I seen this. And I know a lot of people and haven’t been living under a rock.

Do you have any Asian friends?

No only white people

Yes, white people who go to other white people’s homes are not used to taking their shoes off. Shocker.

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Anonymous wrote:Fo most Americans, when they are attending a large social gathering, they don't expect to take their shoes off. If it's hundreds of people, a really high percentage of them are going to feel weird wandering around in socks or barefoot. They won't be prepared for it. If you are really insistent on things, I'd either cancel the social function or make peace with some vacuuming and mopping afterwards.

NP here, but, is this really true? In the DC area? We are in NoVa and, where we live, at least, people always semi-expect to take shoes off in the home. Maybe because our school is around 50% Asian/Muslim but it's pretty standard. No one is offended, most expect it. I'm really struggling to figure out where people live that this idea is "so crazy and unexpected"???

Agreed. This isn't uncommon anymore. The few people who are so rabid to keep their shoes on likely know many people who do this, they just refuse to associate with them lest someone see their nasty feet

Op here. I think it is different if I am inviting friends or our kids’ friends to our home vs complete strangers.

We keep an immaculate home. I will just invite people we actually have a relationship with or want a relationship with who would respect our wishes. I am so glad I actually asked this question on here. I thought most people would say that it would be no big deal but obviously many people would find the request to take their shoes off offensive.

I keep an immaculate home as well but I wouldn't ask guests at a school dinner party to take their shoes off. I bet your house isn't as clean as you think but in any event you reek of judgment.

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Anonymous wrote:I am from Norway originally and live in the states now so my perspective may be skewed but I've never had guests over who haven't taken off their shoes at the door. Wouldn't it be very unsanitary for people to be walking inside with their shoes on? I just find this very strange and frankly a bit gross.

Moreover I don't see how this is an inconvenience to anyone. What would their reservation be? And again, would people wear shoes even if they're walking on a rug or something? Do you have to mop/clean daily, and have floor coverings professionally cleaned frequently? Just trying to wrap my head around this, thanks.

There have been 34 pages of discussion about this. I'm not sure what else there is to say.

Yes, 34 pages of proof establishing that [white] Americans are selfish and filthy.

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Anonymous wrote:In my 60 years of living I have only been to one party where the host demanded guests to remove shoes.(and it was awkward ). I’ve been to lots and lots of social events in many states and countries and I always dress up and include shoes as part of my outfit. Everyone else wears shoes too. I think it’s strange to have a party and ask people to go shoe-less. Never in my life have I seen this. And I know a lot of people and haven’t been living under a rock.

Do you have any Asian friends?

No only white people

Get booties for the guests who won’t take their shoes off, everyone else should take off their shoes entering any household. It’s filthy.

Anonymous wrote:In my 60 years of living I have only been to one party where the host demanded guests to remove shoes.(and it was awkward ). I’ve been to lots and lots of social events in many states and countries and I always dress up and include shoes as part of my outfit. Everyone else wears shoes too. I think it’s strange to have a party and ask people to go shoe-less. Never in my life have I seen this. And I know a lot of people and haven’t been living under a rock.

Do you have any Asian friends?

In my 60 years of living I have only been to one party where the host demanded guests to remove shoes.(and it was awkward ). I’ve been to lots and lots of social events in many states and countries and I always dress up and include shoes as part of my outfit. Everyone else wears shoes too. I think it’s strange to have a party and ask people to go shoe-less. Never in my life have I seen this. And I know a lot of people and haven’t been living under a rock.

Not taking my shoes off. After attending a party where the host had us take our shoes off and had a basket of old slippers with the big animal heads for us to use, I vowed never to do it again. Like I want your old funky slippers.

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Anonymous wrote:I am from Norway originally and live in the states now so my perspective may be skewed but I've never had guests over who haven't taken off their shoes at the door. Wouldn't it be very unsanitary for people to be walking inside with their shoes on? I just find this very strange and frankly a bit gross.

Moreover I don't see how this is an inconvenience to anyone. What would their reservation be? And again, would people wear shoes even if they're walking on a rug or something? Do you have to mop/clean daily, and have floor coverings professionally cleaned frequently? Just trying to wrap my head around this, thanks.

There have been 34 pages of discussion about this. I'm not sure what else there is to say.

Op here. Our school hasn’t even mentioned these at home socials. I just know our school does this. I have not officially volunteered and don’t plan to. I don’t know if these are planned by the actual school or parents. We have a calendar full of back to school events and socials and there is no mention of these at home socials. There are plenty of ways to meet others without having strangers come to my home in their shoes.

We went to a party at our Asian friend’s house this weekend where they allowed shoes. All the other times we have been to their home, we have taken our shoes off. I actually put my shoes back on because it felt weird to be the only ones without shoes. Some of our mutual Asian friends were joking about how we felt pressured to wear our shoes. All of us talked about all the crap our shoes touch and don’t want that on our floors.

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Anonymous wrote:I am from Norway originally and live in the states now so my perspective may be skewed but I've never had guests over who haven't taken off their shoes at the door. Wouldn't it be very unsanitary for people to be walking inside with their shoes on? I just find this very strange and frankly a bit gross.

Moreover I don't see how this is an inconvenience to anyone. What would their reservation be? And again, would people wear shoes even if they're walking on a rug or something? Do you have to mop/clean daily, and have floor coverings professionally cleaned frequently? Just trying to wrap my head around this, thanks.

Canadian that also doesnt understand the blind rage at this issue.

It's all been discussed.

Anonymous wrote:I am from Norway originally and live in the states now so my perspective may be skewed but I've never had guests over who haven't taken off their shoes at the door. Wouldn't it be very unsanitary for people to be walking inside with their shoes on? I just find this very strange and frankly a bit gross.

Moreover I don't see how this is an inconvenience to anyone. What would their reservation be? And again, would people wear shoes even if they're walking on a rug or something? Do you have to mop/clean daily, and have floor coverings professionally cleaned frequently? Just trying to wrap my head around this, thanks.

Canadian that also doesnt understand the blind rage at this issue.

Anonymous wrote:I am from Norway originally and live in the states now so my perspective may be skewed but I've never had guests over who haven't taken off their shoes at the door. Wouldn't it be very unsanitary for people to be walking inside with their shoes on? I just find this very strange and frankly a bit gross.

Moreover I don't see how this is an inconvenience to anyone. What would their reservation be? And again, would people wear shoes even if they're walking on a rug or something? Do you have to mop/clean daily, and have floor coverings professionally cleaned frequently? Just trying to wrap my head around this, thanks.

There have been 34 pages of discussion about this. I'm not sure what else there is to say.

I am from Norway originally and live in the states now so my perspective may be skewed but I've never had guests over who haven't taken off their shoes at the door. Wouldn't it be very unsanitary for people to be walking inside with their shoes on? I just find this very strange and frankly a bit gross.

Moreover I don't see how this is an inconvenience to anyone. What would their reservation be? And again, would people wear shoes even if they're walking on a rug or something? Do you have to mop/clean daily, and have floor coverings professionally cleaned frequently? Just trying to wrap my head around this, thanks.