Anonymous
Post 12/27/2022 18:31     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

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Anonymous wrote:My mother in law has spent the last 30 minutes trying to decide on pizza toppings.


I absolutely refuse to take individual orders with my ILs anymore when takeout is involved. No kidding, they spend so much time ordering that we’ve had dinner totally ruined on several occasions (elaborate plan only to find out Restaurant A is closed, and by the time Restaurant B order is ready, now it’s an hour wait and the kids have to go to bed.) Nope, they’ve proven too many times they can’t handle ordering.

Now, I let them choose one of 3 restaurants, but I put a timer on it: “The choices are A, B, and C. Let me know by 5:30, otherwise I’m ordering from Restaurant A at 5:30.” Then I order several, family-style meals and don’t take any input. I know what they like and I order more food than we need, but I’m not putting up with their antics anymore.


This is smart!
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2022 17:45     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

Anonymous wrote:My mother in law has spent the last 30 minutes trying to decide on pizza toppings.


I absolutely refuse to take individual orders with my ILs anymore when takeout is involved. No kidding, they spend so much time ordering that we’ve had dinner totally ruined on several occasions (elaborate plan only to find out Restaurant A is closed, and by the time Restaurant B order is ready, now it’s an hour wait and the kids have to go to bed.) Nope, they’ve proven too many times they can’t handle ordering.

Now, I let them choose one of 3 restaurants, but I put a timer on it: “The choices are A, B, and C. Let me know by 5:30, otherwise I’m ordering from Restaurant A at 5:30.” Then I order several, family-style meals and don’t take any input. I know what they like and I order more food than we need, but I’m not putting up with their antics anymore.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2022 17:41     Subject: Re:Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

Anonymous wrote:DH doesn't buy or wrap any gifts for our DDs, their significant others or any of our 6 small Grands. All I asked this year was for him to handle his picky Mom's and sweet Dad's gifts. I have bought that woman everything under the sun over the past 35 years and have never seen her use or wear one gift. I do love her so most recently we just give her gift cards to places she likes. I was about to order her one but DH stopped me and said he'd get something...Right before they arrived, he asked me what we'd give them....He grabbed a throw we'd been gifted and threw on a bow


Stop saying “grands” ugh. Just no, Carole.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2022 17:39     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

Anonymous wrote:My mom shops almost exclusively at thrift store, Costco and discount stores like TJ Maxx. She picks one thing each year to get all her kids and their spouses. This year it was cozy blankets. Nice thought but mine is 100% acrylic with laundering instructions “spot clean only”. Why is such a blanket even allowed to exist? We all have kids and cats. This is all ending up in a landfill in the next few years. Whyyyyyy


Put them on Buy Nothing so that someone who doesn’t have pets/kids can enjoy.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2022 17:37     Subject: Re:Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

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Anonymous wrote:My 80 year old Mother saved a nasty sweet potato pie frozen from Thanksgiving and brought it out to add to our Christmas tamale, rice and bean dinner. We didn't want it then and didn't touch it at Christmas. I GUARANTEE she'll freeze it again for next year. Waste not...


My MIL was invited to a potluck holiday dinner. She ordered pizza and garlic knots from a pizza chain, ate the pizza for lunch, and brought the greasy garlic knots in the greasy brown paper bag.
She wears fur coats and has a rolex. Probably close to a millionaire. Cheapest grossest person I know.


It's crazy how cheap these octogenarian who have money can be about the dumbest things. My mom always refers to being raised during the WWII depression. I mean she never missed a meal. They lived in TX not Europe and her folks were wealthy professionals. Her freezer is full of old hard ass rolls and ice sculpted dried fruit from 1974. I love sneaking food out to toss when she's not paying attention. My sister and I make a game of it.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2022 17:16     Subject: Re:Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

Anonymous wrote:My 80 year old Mother saved a nasty sweet potato pie frozen from Thanksgiving and brought it out to add to our Christmas tamale, rice and bean dinner. We didn't want it then and didn't touch it at Christmas. I GUARANTEE she'll freeze it again for next year. Waste not...


My MIL was invited to a potluck holiday dinner. She ordered pizza and garlic knots from a pizza chain, ate the pizza for lunch, and brought the greasy garlic knots in the greasy brown paper bag.
She wears fur coats and has a rolex. Probably close to a millionaire. Cheapest grossest person I know.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2022 17:14     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

Anonymous wrote:My mother in law has spent the last 30 minutes trying to decide on pizza toppings.


Ugh- sorry, PP. Watch, she won’t eat any of it.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2022 17:12     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

ILs like to zoom in and scrutinize photos we share, then comment on stuff they see in the background, especially anything imperfect. The comment on things like items/brands on the counter, someone's pants, photos they can see in the background, and most especially anything weird or unattractive or unflattering candid photos might capture. "Bet DIL just loves that photo haha", and "look at that face DIL is making in the background haha, bet she loves that one". It's so obnoxious.

So we got them an Aura digital frame for Christmas. FIL on the phone when we were helping them set it up" "we can't enlarge on this. Why doesn't it zoom in."
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2022 17:11     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

My mother in law has spent the last 30 minutes trying to decide on pizza toppings.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2022 16:22     Subject: Re:Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

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Anonymous wrote:My FIL is exactly like UNcle Colm from Derry Girls but without the accent. Just drones on and on about something that no one is remotely interested in. Did it today about paint colors that people have in their houses and colors that he has chosen, in his various homes, for various reasons, over the years . “Then we switched to Benjamin Moore Light Grey…. Or was it Everyday Grey? Actually come to think of it…. There wasn’t a Benjamin Moore paint supplier near us in that house. It’s possible it was a shade from Behr. They have many shades of grey as well that all seem quite similar at first glance”

I am not making this up, to the point where as I hit send I’m worried he is going to somehow stumble upon this website and recognize himself


Lol. This one's awesome. Does he have a wife?


I don’t know if he has a wife, but he definitely has a twin: my mother! 😂

My sister and BIL do this. They tell stories and get so caught up in the details that you never hear the actual story. “We left on Wednesday, or was it Tuesday?”. “It was Wednesday because you remember you had your doctor’s apt”. “No, my drs apt was Tuesday?”. “Are you sure, I thought it was Wednesday “. Holy crap, it doesn’t matter what day it was, just tell the f&@?&@$ story!!
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2022 15:53     Subject: Re:Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

My 80 year old Mother saved a nasty sweet potato pie frozen from Thanksgiving and brought it out to add to our Christmas tamale, rice and bean dinner. We didn't want it then and didn't touch it at Christmas. I GUARANTEE she'll freeze it again for next year. Waste not...
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2022 15:51     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs live in the same county/township as we do, about 7 miles away. Our locality has had recycling for decades and ILs have a designated recycling bin in their garage. We have a similar setup, although lack a garage.

Every single time ILs visit our house, MIL pitches her cans in our inside trash can or holds out her empty can and asks if we recycle/have recycling here like we like in a foreign land. Or sometimes, just piles her cans and bottles (Diet Coke chain drinker) atop our counter and leaves.


Wait - you expect people to go outside to dispose of their recycling? Why not have a bin?


We have a bin inside in our kitchen and also along an outside kitchen door. Couple of options here but no, MIL befuddled by it all.


You didn't mention the inside bin.


Ok sorry I know I’m being super petty. It’s just that I’ve helped them for years clean up after family parties and I’m well familiar with how recycling works and have no problem tossing cans in their garage bin. Always bugged me that she would toss her recyclables at our house like it was a foreign concept or too hard for her.


What? You don’t recycle at their house but expect it at yours? You sound crazy.


I don’t know why people are being obtuse. The recycling PP lives in the same town as MIL so by default MIL knows a) THAT they recycle and b) what the outdoor recycling bin looks like. PP has also answered MIL’s questions about recycling systems multiple times, showing MIL two different convenient locations for recyclables. MIL continues to feign confusion and ask others to handle her cans or leaves them around. PP knows that this is not difficult because when she visits MIL, PP is able to successfully recycle in someone else’s home .

They are not being obtuse. OP just wrote “ have no problem tossing cans in their garage bin”. That is why PP questioned OP’s recycling complaint.
Easy misread in the context. That’s why I don’t think anyone is being obtuse.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2022 15:48     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs live in the same county/township as we do, about 7 miles away. Our locality has had recycling for decades and ILs have a designated recycling bin in their garage. We have a similar setup, although lack a garage.

Every single time ILs visit our house, MIL pitches her cans in our inside trash can or holds out her empty can and asks if we recycle/have recycling here like we like in a foreign land. Or sometimes, just piles her cans and bottles (Diet Coke chain drinker) atop our counter and leaves.


Wait - you expect people to go outside to dispose of their recycling? Why not have a bin?


We have a bin inside in our kitchen and also along an outside kitchen door. Couple of options here but no, MIL befuddled by it all.


You didn't mention the inside bin.


Ok sorry I know I’m being super petty. It’s just that I’ve helped them for years clean up after family parties and I’m well familiar with how recycling works and have no problem tossing cans in their garage bin. Always bugged me that she would toss her recyclables at our house like it was a foreign concept or too hard for her.


What? You don’t recycle at their house but expect it at yours? You sound crazy.


I don’t know why people are being obtuse. The recycling PP lives in the same town as MIL so by default MIL knows a) THAT they recycle and b) what the outdoor recycling bin looks like. PP has also answered MIL’s questions about recycling systems multiple times, showing MIL two different convenient locations for recyclables. MIL continues to feign confusion and ask others to handle her cans or leaves them around. PP knows that this is not difficult because when she visits MIL, PP is able to successfully recycle in someone else’s home .

They are not being obtuse. OP just wrote “ have no problem tossing cans in their garage bin”. That is why PP questioned OP’s recycling complaint.


Thank you for pointing that out, I misread that as garbage bin.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2022 15:47     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs live in the same county/township as we do, about 7 miles away. Our locality has had recycling for decades and ILs have a designated recycling bin in their garage. We have a similar setup, although lack a garage.

Every single time ILs visit our house, MIL pitches her cans in our inside trash can or holds out her empty can and asks if we recycle/have recycling here like we like in a foreign land. Or sometimes, just piles her cans and bottles (Diet Coke chain drinker) atop our counter and leaves.


Wait - you expect people to go outside to dispose of their recycling? Why not have a bin?


We have a bin inside in our kitchen and also along an outside kitchen door. Couple of options here but no, MIL befuddled by it all.


You didn't mention the inside bin.


Ok sorry I know I’m being super petty. It’s just that I’ve helped them for years clean up after family parties and I’m well familiar with how recycling works and have no problem tossing cans in their garage bin. Always bugged me that she would toss her recyclables at our house like it was a foreign concept or too hard for her.


What? You don’t recycle at their house but expect it at yours? You sound crazy.


I don’t know why people are being obtuse. The recycling PP lives in the same town as MIL so by default MIL knows a) THAT they recycle and b) what the outdoor recycling bin looks like. PP has also answered MIL’s questions about recycling systems multiple times, showing MIL two different convenient locations for recyclables. MIL continues to feign confusion and ask others to handle her cans or leaves them around. PP knows that this is not difficult because when she visits MIL, PP is able to successfully recycle in someone else’s home .

They are not being obtuse. OP just wrote “ have no problem tossing cans in their garage bin”. That is why PP questioned OP’s recycling complaint.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2022 15:41     Subject: Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs live in the same county/township as we do, about 7 miles away. Our locality has had recycling for decades and ILs have a designated recycling bin in their garage. We have a similar setup, although lack a garage.

Every single time ILs visit our house, MIL pitches her cans in our inside trash can or holds out her empty can and asks if we recycle/have recycling here like we like in a foreign land. Or sometimes, just piles her cans and bottles (Diet Coke chain drinker) atop our counter and leaves.


Wait - you expect people to go outside to dispose of their recycling? Why not have a bin?


We have a bin inside in our kitchen and also along an outside kitchen door. Couple of options here but no, MIL befuddled by it all.


You didn't mention the inside bin.


Ok sorry I know I’m being super petty. It’s just that I’ve helped them for years clean up after family parties and I’m well familiar with how recycling works and have no problem tossing cans in their garage bin. Always bugged me that she would toss her recyclables at our house like it was a foreign concept or too hard for her.


What? You don’t recycle at their house but expect it at yours? You sound crazy.


I don’t know why people are being obtuse. The recycling PP lives in the same town as MIL so by default MIL knows a) THAT they recycle and b) what the outdoor recycling bin looks like. PP has also answered MIL’s questions about recycling systems multiple times, showing MIL two different convenient locations for recyclables. MIL continues to feign confusion and ask others to handle her cans or leaves them around. PP knows that this is not difficult because when she visits MIL, PP is able to successfully recycle in someone else’s home .


That’s not what she said, she’s changed her story twice but ok.