Anonymous wrote:Status insecure MC and UMC are most certainly triggered by you sending your children to a private. They take it VERY personally, sometimes they are upfront about it, others are passive aggressive and talk about you behind your back. And let’s be frank, they’re triggered because they know the private is better, so they feel inferior. Spare me the spin that it’s somehow a benefit to be at a public with no admissions filter, nobody ever gets expelled, half full of loser kids from bad families, and led by political wannabe board members, admins, and teachers. It’s a freakin’ circus at best you tolerate because you can’t afford private. Period.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I feel like private school is good for elementary school and middle school. Those are the years where your kid really needs support from both home environment and school environment to be the best version of themselves in the future.
But when it comes to high school I’d prefer public school. Kids at private high school especially girls, get very competitive and alot of them are addicted to adderall(for studying).
Maybe 10 years ago....DD is in a competitive private HS and drugs/smoking/alcohol are just not a thing amongst the academically inclined. My DD 16 says she'll never drink, which surprises me. She even judges me for having one glass of wine with dinner on occasion. Her friends are the same. And, no, she's not nerdy, she's fairly average in the social circle.
Anonymous wrote:By 9th grade, about 50% of the kids in our neighborhood left the Pyle-Whitman track to go to private schools.
After we moved our boys to private school, our relationship with SOME of our neighbors with kids our kid’s ages changed. They were still cordial and polite, of course, but our relationship was much cooler. But I don’t think this had anything to do with any of them being jealous. It’s not as if they couldn’t also switch if they wanted to.
What I sensed and believe is that more than anything is they were disappointed. These were the people who have evidenced the greatest amount of enthusiasm for the idea of “The Neighborhood” and the role of the public schools in binding it all together.
Absent the same schools thing and with different sports teams to support, we just had a lot less in common.