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Anonymous wrote:I'm around 60, older Gen X. I never diet, never have. I just stay active. Yesterday I put more than 17,000 steps and 140 active minutes on my fitness tracker between my long walk and yardwork. I do this 3-4 times a week. I eat three square meals, enjoy a glass of red wine every day and a small dessert. I can still wear my shirts from middle and high school. You must keep yourself moving.

And you work 40 or 50 hours a week in an office job too? I’m just kidding you couldn’t possibly be a law firm partner and have that much free time. I’m 60 too and 30 pounds overweight from the stress

I’m mid 50s, lift, walk daily(though not 17k!), and a bunch of other things. And I’m a law firm partner. Haven’t you understood by now that no one really cares about you as a person at all firm? You have to look out for you.

Exactly - which brings up another toxic Gen X trait. Trading personal health outcomes for more compensation or some other striver goal. Or flexing by talking about how little personal time they have because of work.

It’s not a flex at all and just shows how imbalanced your life is. Anybody can find time to be healthy, it just costs something else. Choose wisely.

Anonymous wrote:I think whether you feel traumatized or content about your eating habits is all a matter of perception.

My family is from western Europe and has always been very judgemental about women's bodies. I have been called fat and told not to eat so much. Funnily enough, that didn't really bother me - I am not the sort of person to feel ill-used easily.

I watch what I eat in middle age, not because I've been conditioned to do that by my family, but more importantly because I have borderline high cholesterol and my HbA1C has occasionally been elevated. I don't want to block my arteries or develop diabetes like a few of my relatives! Two of them had stents put in, and one had multiple bypass surgery. My father has a lot of atherosclerosis. None of them are overweight. They just didn't eat the right things, plus we probably have a genetic predisposition to high cholesterol. But they were uninformed when they were younger, and thought looking slender and eating less, not better, was the goal.

I want to be healthy. I am naturally slim (but still fat in my mother's eyes, ha!), so this isn't really about looking a certain way.

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Anonymous wrote:My mom never "talked" about weight but ate every meal on a salad plate or saucer. I just thought that's what women did, until, I went to dinner with my MIL. She ordered a full sized pork chop dinner. I was shocked. She is about the same size as my mom too. Thin.
However, my Sisters in law are obese. Not a deal but they talk about their obesity all the time.

My mother never ate dinner with us. She would make the meat loaf and mashed potatoes or whatever but then had a thin slice of toast for dinner every night. Seemed to subsist on M and M’s and that slice of toast and lots of black coffee. Growing up I assumed women didn’t eat dinner? Or breakfast?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm around 60, older Gen X. I never diet, never have. I just stay active. Yesterday I put more than 17,000 steps and 140 active minutes on my fitness tracker between my long walk and yardwork. I do this 3-4 times a week. I eat three square meals, enjoy a glass of red wine every day and a small dessert. I can still wear my shirts from middle and high school. You must keep yourself moving.

And you work 40 or 50 hours a week in an office job too? I’m just kidding you couldn’t possibly be a law firm partner and have that much free time. I’m 60 too and 30 pounds overweight from the stress

I’m mid 50s, lift, walk daily(though not 17k!), and a bunch of other things. And I’m a law firm partner. Haven’t you understood by now that no one really cares about you as a person at all firm? You have to look out for you.

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, blame the boomers for dieting.

Oh sweetie, the boomers are YOUR parents. Ours are greatest gen.

Anonymous wrote:My mom never "talked" about weight but ate every meal on a salad plate or saucer. I just thought that's what women did, until, I went to dinner with my MIL. She ordered a full sized pork chop dinner. I was shocked. She is about the same size as my mom too. Thin.
However, my Sisters in law are obese. Not a deal but they talk about their obesity all the time.

Anonymous wrote:According to the charts I am 2 1/2 inches shorter than I was in high school. So, I need to weigh less to be at the same weigh class as I was in high school. It stinks.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a boomer mother and I relate to this so hard. Both she and my former mother in law, both in their 70s, are obsessed with weight and being thin. my mom has been scary skinny her whole life and it's a big point of pride for her. It's a life achievement that she still manages to bring up on a daily basis. Never misses a way to work in to the conversation that she is "still the same weight she was in high school". I hope when I am in my 70s I have other things to reflect back on than "staying thin."

Being the same weight as high school is a big thing in East Asia, we have people immigrated for over 30 years, weight train and eat mostly western diet and still boast about wearing t shirt from high school.

Anonymous wrote:I have a boomer mother and I relate to this so hard. Both she and my former mother in law, both in their 70s, are obsessed with weight and being thin. my mom has been scary skinny her whole life and it's a big point of pride for her. It's a life achievement that she still manages to bring up on a daily basis. Never misses a way to work in to the conversation that she is "still the same weight she was in high school". I hope when I am in my 70s I have other things to reflect back on than "staying thin."

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Anonymous wrote:The GLP craze has exposed the lie that people liked being fat and accepted their bodies.

Bingo. All of the plus size celebs have dropped the weight. Even Miss All About That Bass.

My sister is a youtube influencer and gained so many followers about loving being fat and fighting body shaming (although she regularly shamed normal to thin people).

I about dropped dead when she went on ozempic. I couldn't even believe it. Her whole schtick was talking about loving being fat. When I mentioned it to my mom she said "why did you think that? No one wants to be fat." I'm still in shock and I guess it was all a lie.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm around 60, older Gen X. I never diet, never have. I just stay active. Yesterday I put more than 17,000 steps and 140 active minutes on my fitness tracker between my long walk and yardwork. I do this 3-4 times a week. I eat three square meals, enjoy a glass of red wine every day and a small dessert. I can still wear my shirts from middle and high school. You must keep yourself moving.

And you work 40 or 50 hours a week in an office job too? I’m just kidding you couldn’t possibly be a law firm partner and have that much free time. I’m 60 too and 30 pounds overweight from the stress

Anonymous wrote:I have a boomer mother and I relate to this so hard. Both she and my former mother in law, both in their 70s, are obsessed with weight and being thin. my mom has been scary skinny her whole life and it's a big point of pride for her. It's a life achievement that she still manages to bring up on a daily basis. Never misses a way to work in to the conversation that she is "still the same weight she was in high school". I hope when I am in my 70s I have other things to reflect back on than "staying thin."