Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If someone directly asks me how I lost weight, I will tell them, but so far only one person has directly asked me. Many people have said "you look great, have you lost weight?" and I just respond with "Thank you, yes I have" and move on to a different topic. I would answer this way regardless of how I lost weight.

Some people push it though. My mil is obsessed with weight. I refuse to share this sort of info with her bc I know she will discuss it endlessly with her friends. I know bc she does this about her sil. I don’t really want my appearance and weight loss to be gossip.

I am careful around this type of person. I am very open with other fat people though.

Anonymous wrote:I assume everyone who has lost weight is on a GLP.

I am guessing you know that this assumption doesn't hold in all cases. I have lost 35 to 40 pounds in the past year. I just accepted the weight gain, which happened over perhaps ten years, as "one gets older and plumper." But a year ago I found out I have a disease for which weight gain is a symptom. Untreated, the disease can be lethal. I am now under treatment for the underlying disease (no weight loss medications involved), which is why I have lost the weight.

I have had three people ask me about the weight loss, two of whom were close enough they knew about the disease. I don't mind telling people about the disease because it would have been caught much earlier had I simply had a physical every year, (One of the routine tests would have indicated the problem.) I didn't bother with physicals because I felt perfectly fine. That was a mistake on my part, and I don't mind reminding people that yearly testing is important.

Based on this thread, I now assume the people who don't ask think I am on a GLP-1.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s the only context in which I would share, to help someone asking me for tips. But it has not come up in that way since only always-thin people have commented and asked. So no, I just lie and say it’s exercise and different food habits (I have lost very slowly and do exercise a lot).

My SIL took over the conversation at a family dinner recently bragging about how she's lost over 50lbs working with a personal trainer. At the end of the evening, after impressing and amazing everyone with all of this, she says to me "I'm also on the GSPs like you are." I said "Do you mean a GLP-1"? She said "Yes." She was (and still is) quite obese, so working with the personal trainer involved being able to walk to the end of the block and back. She still does not use the upstairs in her house because she can't use the stairs. In other words, don't picture her in a gym doing squats and lifting weights.

Yes, being able to walk to the end of the block was good progress for her. But FFS. The trainer probably had 2% at most to do with her weight loss. I'm not against GLP-1 weight loss, I've lost over 70lbs on Wegovy. But let's stop the lying. I'm not interested in discussing my weight with people, but I'm going to set boundaries like an adult rather than "just lie" as you put it.

You're wicked. I hope she sits on you.

Same. Especially UMC middle aged women who have been fat for many years and are now suddenly losing weight.

I assume everyone who has lost weight is on a GLP.

Just be like Mindy Kaling and say you exercise and eat healthy if you don’t want people to know.

I tell people if it feels right.
Someone I met after my 37 lb weight loss said I’m lucky I’m naturally thin at 5’4” and 128. I said I’m not naturally thin at all. I used meds to drop the weight. I’m not going to make anyone feel hopeless.
If it was someone I didn’t trust or know well enough I wouldn’t bother

I used to say that I would tell people, but I've changed my opinion to: "It depends on who they are and how they ask." Recently, I had someone who is a long-time acquaintance ask me in a sort of aggressive way in front of a group of people, "Are you doing the shot? You've lost a lot of weight," and I said, " Nope." They just wanted gossip material, and it wasn't coming from a "good for you" type of place. Also, I did not feel like answering questions about my weight/health in front of an audience. Another person who I know has been struggling to drop weight for a long time said "you look fabulous" and then quietly asked if I'd done anything radically different to finally move the scale (she knew that I'd also been stuck at a too high weight). I told her I finally bit the bullet and started a GLP. We had a conversation about my experience and pros/cons because she's considering it. The latter felt positive and helpful.

people can tell.
it's nothing to be embrassed about - you'll have great labs (blood pressure, cholestorol, etc) and feel healthy again! hooray!

Anonymous wrote:No ones asking
The world knows

Except people are asking. I have answered people who asked me how I lost weight. But ladies, it's incredibly rude to ask someone who is not your close friend or family member how they lost weight. Just don't talk about weight, it's not hard.

I tell everyone. It was life changing for me and I hope it can be for other ppl too

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only person who knows is my husband. I've lost 60 pounds so its noticeable although its been slow. My FIL directly asked me and I blew it off and didn't answer. He then proceeded to tell me all about people who knew who were on it and I realized I did the right thing not telling him anything. My Mom has not directly asked but hinted. I would probably be okay telling her but at this point I feel like the time has passed and I'm more in the maintaining phase so its not as much a topic for conversation.

People know you are on it that is why they brought it up.

Not sure what your point is. Knowing or suspecting something is a good reason to bring it up? Or something else?

No ones asked. My weight has always fluctuated so being down 10-12 lbs doesnt look drastically different. But if I keep losing weight I know I will start getting questions.

No of course not. I don't share any of my medical information ever.

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Anonymous wrote:No ones asking
The world knows

So what? It's nothing to be ashamed about. People are all losing weight for the same reasons, it doesn't matter how they lost it. Get over yourself.

It is obvious that you are self conscious about it