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Anonymous wrote:Modern day helicoptering (I am looking 👀 at you DCUM). “Young Larlo has graduated from his $90K/year college, but he is welcome to live in his twin bed boyhood room so he save for a down payment. If we do charge him rent, we will deposit all of it in a special account and happily return this money when he moves out.” Is this the new independence?

In this economy with its cost of housing, yes. Your snark is not landing in the way you thought it would.

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Anonymous wrote:Modern day helicoptering (I am looking 👀 at you DCUM). “Young Larlo has graduated from his $90K/year college, but he is welcome to live in his twin bed boyhood room so he save for a down payment. If we do charge him rent, we will deposit all of it in a special account and happily return this money when he moves out.” Is this the new independence?

In this economy with its cost of housing, yes. Your snark is not landing in the way you thought it would.

Anonymous wrote:Modern day helicoptering (I am looking 👀 at you DCUM). “Young Larlo has graduated from his $90K/year college, but he is welcome to live in his twin bed boyhood room so he save for a down payment. If we do charge him rent, we will deposit all of it in a special account and happily return this money when he moves out.” Is this the new independence?

Anonymous wrote:This morning on the FB page for my kids school was looking for recommendations for dorm cleaner/maid.

That parent was ridiculed by most people. If your kid one can't keep their 12 by 8 section of the room clean or google local cleaners on their own you have failed as a parent.

These people are robbing their kids of basic problem solving skills.

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Anonymous wrote:All ivies except Cornell. They are like ants at the rest - the heavily curated experiences the parents manufactured for the kids to get into the ivies shifts over to targeting IB or MBB internships

Ha! Cornell parent here. There are definitely helicopter parents as evidenced by the parents FB group. I nearly lost it when a mom posted asking for how to get the schedule for the bus that runs through campus and town. I responded that it’s her kid’s job to learn how to navigate these type of situations and figure out how to reach out to the resources on campus to find the schedule. Some other mom scolded me for my response saying that the kids are studying so much and that it’s okay to help with things like this. 😂😂😂

OP—they are on every campus. Don’t be one.

Wow, what a story! I always wonder how long these parents go at it. Does it continue past when the kids get their first jobs?

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Anonymous wrote:Two types of helicopter parents.

The good kind who are gradually pulling back but still helping their special needs kids through the journey of life.

The bad kind who are vicariously looking for a second chance at success in life by trying again as their kids constant surrogate.

Unfortunately the bad kind outnumber the good kind at least 5 to 1 in every university setting.

The worst ones accompany there kids to job interviews.

Are you saying they sit next to their kid during the actual job interview? Really? Everything in this culture is 'do it alone' whether that be go to a job interview alone or wherever else (fill in the blank). But what's wrong with a parent (or friend) accompanying them to an interview for moral support (waiting in the car or office lobby) or to park the car while their kid (or friend) goes in?

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Anonymous wrote:All ivies except Cornell. They are like ants at the rest - the heavily curated experiences the parents manufactured for the kids to get into the ivies shifts over to targeting IB or MBB internships

Ha! Cornell parent here. There are definitely helicopter parents as evidenced by the parents FB group. I nearly lost it when a mom posted asking for how to get the schedule for the bus that runs through campus and town. I responded that it’s her kid’s job to learn how to navigate these type of situations and figure out how to reach out to the resources on campus to find the schedule. Some other mom scolded me for my response saying that the kids are studying so much and that it’s okay to help with things like this. 😂😂😂

OP—they are on every campus. Don’t be one.

Wow, what a story! I always wonder how long these parents go at it. Does it continue past when the kids get their first jobs?

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Anonymous wrote:Just look at the parent fb groups for almost any college. Helicopter parents are everywhere. But that's not a reason for your child to avoid a school -- they aren't interacting with parents.

This. That’s where you’ll see such critical questions posed like

HOW MANY WASHCLOTHS ARE YOU SENDING WITH YOUR KID? IM THINKING SIX.

HOW MANY BRITTA FILTER PITCHERS CAN FIT INTO A DORM FRIDGE? IS IT OK IF THEY JUST SHARE ONE AND REFILL IT MORE FREQUENTLY?

Yes, these are two real posts I saw in FB groups. That I ended up leaving.

How many filter pitchers can fit in one of those mini fridge btw? And where do students go to have water filtered via the britta? There's no sink in the dorm rooms at least not in most rooms.

My kid is going to a concert in xx city with his friends. What’s the best way for them to get there via public transportation?

I’ve seen this type of post multiple times.

I would expect there is zero chance the kid asked the parent to figure this out for them and by the time the parent comes back with whatever information they gathered the kid will already be back from the concert. This is just parent inserting themselves and meddling.

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Anonymous wrote:Just look at the parent fb groups for almost any college. Helicopter parents are everywhere. But that's not a reason for your child to avoid a school -- they aren't interacting with parents.

This. That’s where you’ll see such critical questions posed like

HOW MANY WASHCLOTHS ARE YOU SENDING WITH YOUR KID? IM THINKING SIX.

HOW MANY BRITTA FILTER PITCHERS CAN FIT INTO A DORM FRIDGE? IS IT OK IF THEY JUST SHARE ONE AND REFILL IT MORE FREQUENTLY?

Yes, these are two real posts I saw in FB groups. That I ended up leaving.

How many filter pitchers can fit in one of those mini fridge btw? And where do students go to have water filtered via the britta? There's no sink in the dorm rooms at least not in most rooms.

My kid is going to a concert in xx city with his friends. What’s the best way for them to get there via public transportation?

I’ve seen this type of post multiple times.