When my DD was 10-11, if we left for an hour we would have her Facetime with grandparents. Could you arrange for her to do that every hour with grandparents/cousins? They could call her? That way she doesn't feel so alone since she'd be on the phone with them. They could even watch a show "together" while on Facetime.

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Anonymous wrote:Skip the wedding and spend as little time as possible at reception. Put your child first.

This is lunacy. A tween can be away from her mom for 2-3 hours.

+1.

+2 You can leave the reception a little early. Or, get a babysitter.

Anonymous wrote:Is she 9 or is she 12? That would make a difference to me.

Agree.

Anonymous wrote:Stop treating your 14 year old like a baby. Surely she can find something to occupy her time - she can watch a movie marathon or something.

OP said she has a tween. That's 9-12 years old. Did OP later say the kid is 14?

Is she 9 or is she 12? That would make a difference to me.

Stop treating your 14 year old like a baby. Surely she can find something to occupy her time - she can watch a movie marathon or something.

I think it was rude not to invite the tween and would have declined in the first place. At this point I would develop noro or something and stay home with my tween. It’s a crazy age where kids have varying levels of comfort around staying home alone, and maybe there is something happening with OP’s kid that is making it a little tough for her. I would definitely prioritize my kid. DH can go, you sent a gift, the end.

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Anonymous wrote:OMFG. OP, if your tween can't be alone, get a damn babysitter and go to the wedding.

I just can't with people who make a federal case out of kids not being invited to weddings. I am sure you leave your kid alone or with a babysitter for plenty of other activities. Just stop with the drama. Clearly you are trying to make a point and pout about your kid not being invited. Get over it.

I think it's weird to exclude mature children from weddings. Toddlers and babies and bratty k-2 children, sure. But a polite 11 year old? That's just petty and rude.

A man should think twice about marrying a woman who is hostile to children at weddings. And yeah it's mostly brides insisting on this exclusion.

The bride probably has a not-polite niece or nephew whose parents would blow a gasket if they saw that this kid was present, so it's safer to exclude ALL kids regardless of maturity.

It's possible, but far-fetched.

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Anonymous wrote:OMFG. OP, if your tween can't be alone, get a damn babysitter and go to the wedding.

I just can't with people who make a federal case out of kids not being invited to weddings. I am sure you leave your kid alone or with a babysitter for plenty of other activities. Just stop with the drama. Clearly you are trying to make a point and pout about your kid not being invited. Get over it.

I think it's weird to exclude mature children from weddings. Toddlers and babies and bratty k-2 children, sure. But a polite 11 year old? That's just petty and rude.

A man should think twice about marrying a woman who is hostile to children at weddings. And yeah it's mostly brides insisting on this exclusion.

The bride probably has a not-polite niece or nephew whose parents would blow a gasket if they saw that this kid was present, so it's safer to exclude ALL kids regardless of maturity.

it's fine

Anonymous wrote:OMFG. OP, if your tween can't be alone, get a damn babysitter and go to the wedding.

I just can't with people who make a federal case out of kids not being invited to weddings. I am sure you leave your kid alone or with a babysitter for plenty of other activities. Just stop with the drama. Clearly you are trying to make a point and pout about your kid not being invited. Get over it.

I think it's weird to exclude mature children from weddings. Toddlers and babies and bratty k-2 children, sure. But a polite 11 year old? That's just petty and rude.

A man should think twice about marrying a woman who is hostile to children at weddings. And yeah it's mostly brides insisting on this exclusion.

If your kid can not stay home alone you should have not rsvp ed yes!

What’s wrong with you ?

What’s wrong with your parenting that your kid can not stay alone ?

Seriously you failed here at every turn

It is SO rude. The ceremony is the important part.

Leave your kid home alone. Have her write out a schedule of what she'll do so she isn't wandering around the house aimlessly, and include her FaceTiming with Grandpa or someone, and you and DH calling between the ceremony and reception.

Anonymous wrote:No ruder than them excluding one of your family members.

+1

I would be tempted to just take her along. There will likely be a few children who are close relatives of the couple. I doubt one extra would ruin the wedding.

OMFG. OP, if your tween can't be alone, get a damn babysitter and go to the wedding.

I just can't with people who make a federal case out of kids not being invited to weddings. I am sure you leave your kid alone or with a babysitter for plenty of other activities. Just stop with the drama. Clearly you are trying to make a point and pout about your kid not being invited. Get over it.