Anonymous
05/08/2026 22:57
Subject: Re:Struggling to Fit In
If someone in the locker room called out my tighty whities, I’d say something like “why are you so obsessed about my underwear, (fill in name)? It’s just underwear, why are you so obsessed with other guys underwear?” It was usually enough to get them embarrassed and make them stop.
Of course it was me who was obsessed with men’s underwear…but that’s my secret. Not theirs.
Of course it was me who was obsessed with men’s underwear…but that’s my secret. Not theirs.
Anonymous
05/03/2026 22:16
Subject: Struggling to Fit In
Teach your kid that he is awesome and don’t make him think you and your husband feel he is lacking. Confidence is the most important thing. Help him feel comfortable with who he is and stop competing him to his cousin. And if your nephew needles your son and your son is uncomfortable, you can step in with a joking comment that slightly shifts the power dynamic in the room.
I agree that you should get him colored briefs or else boxer briefs. Get a name brand not a cheapo brand. Tighty whiteys are just bad at every single age. It’s the equivalent of granny panties.
I agree that you should get him colored briefs or else boxer briefs. Get a name brand not a cheapo brand. Tighty whiteys are just bad at every single age. It’s the equivalent of granny panties.
Anonymous
05/03/2026 20:38
Subject: Struggling to Fit In
"PSA: Your son is NOT GAY just because YOU PURCHASED him white underwear and he can draw."
No, but he is likely to be teased because of the white briefs and art class and bullied for seeming gay. To me, that's the point.
Anonymous
05/03/2026 20:32
Subject: Struggling to Fit In
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Hmmm. Where is a 12 year old going online to be gay and “safe”?
I think she means her son is mostly out only to people he chats with online and "friends" he has met on the internet. A 12-year-old afraid of being bullied for being gay at school could feel safe this way...
Anonymous
05/02/2026 08:07
Subject: Struggling to Fit In
Anonymous wrote:
"Wait — has your son ever told you he thinks he’s gay? It sounds like you’re making assumptions based on his personality.
Also, your nephew is being a jerk.
Op here. Yep, DS is still semi-closeted largely due to privacy and safety reasons and is mostly out only online in comfortable spaces. It is heartbreaking to me that he is missing out on the typical social life of a 12-year-old just because of his orientation. He is shy and complains that no one is that friendly at his school. Meanwhile, people tell me what a polite, great kid he seems to be. Deserves so much better!
Well, my nephew is still only ten. Don't you think most ten-year-olds can be jerks or too quick to dismissive anything that seems too gay? I have noticed boys at that age giggling at a waiter who was too flouncy.
Hmmm. Where is a 12 year old going online to be gay and “safe”?
Anonymous
05/02/2026 07:53
Subject: Struggling to Fit In
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why not get your son boxer briefs or boxers so he's not wearing the least cool underwear to ever exist?
Op here. Growing up, my son was always the type of sweet kid who would never throw temper tantrums for boxers. White briefs were what I kept buying him but maybe now he will want to switch to boxers because of peer pressure. My son is shy and struggling socially and it doesn't help that his cousin is always considered "the cool one." At least, to most people.
It doesn't bother me that my son is a little different. My husband also loves our son but is sometimes disappointed that he isn't a more masculine or athletic boy. I want to encourage my son to be himself but worry about him getting teased.
…….he’s 12. One day he will notice titties and then you won’t be able to contain his manhood.
Anonymous
05/02/2026 07:48
Subject: Struggling to Fit In
Anonymous wrote:My DS is a nice 12-year-old whose favorite subject is art class and I would say he does seem more creative and more sensitive than other boys his age.
Meanwhile my nephew is ten, plays ice hockey and is popular at his school. He sometimes giggles at my son because he thinks he seems a little, well, gay. My son usually just shrugs off my nephew and doesn't let it bother him. Over the Christmas break, I spent a night in the hotel room with the two boys. The kids had been getting along really well but then it was time to get ready for bed. My nephew stripped down to his boxers and my son got worried when he realized he forgot to pack his pajamas. I whispered to him that it was okay, he could just sleep in t-shirt and underwear like his cousin.
When my son came out of the bathroom, my nephew laughed, "Nice tighty whities!" My son blushed and rolled his eyes. Even though my nephew was just messing with him, my son was very embarrassed and hated looking uncool in front of a younger cousin. I'm afraid my son will likely face more incidents like this in middle school and high school and it seems so unfair.
Most of his friends still think there is something wrong with being gay or at least that it is second best to being straight. What's your advice?
PSA: Your son is NOT GAY just because YOU PURCHASED him white underwear and he can draw.
Anonymous
05/02/2026 07:37
Subject: Re:Struggling to Fit In
Tighty whitie underpants? They’re super comfy.
I remember my mom really wanting me to switch to boxers, which made briefs feel like a rebellion. I remember going to school in my brand new red-plaid boxers, changing in the locker room, and seeing these cute nerdy boys wearing tighty whities (seemingly) with no shame. I remember admiring them both for how cute and soft they looked and for how strong and care-free it made them seem. People would get bullied and they just didn’t care. I had a lot of respect for that. So when I was a sophomore in high school, I walked myself to the store and bought my own tighty whities. I wore them secretly for about a year before I accidentally left a pair out for my mom to see. At that point she didn’t say anything about it, and one day I came home to find a brand new pack of fruit of the loom tighty whities in my dresser drawer. (Thanks mom.) It’s the perfect combination of sex psychology and comfort.
I remember my mom really wanting me to switch to boxers, which made briefs feel like a rebellion. I remember going to school in my brand new red-plaid boxers, changing in the locker room, and seeing these cute nerdy boys wearing tighty whities (seemingly) with no shame. I remember admiring them both for how cute and soft they looked and for how strong and care-free it made them seem. People would get bullied and they just didn’t care. I had a lot of respect for that. So when I was a sophomore in high school, I walked myself to the store and bought my own tighty whities. I wore them secretly for about a year before I accidentally left a pair out for my mom to see. At that point she didn’t say anything about it, and one day I came home to find a brand new pack of fruit of the loom tighty whities in my dresser drawer. (Thanks mom.) It’s the perfect combination of sex psychology and comfort.
Anonymous
04/21/2026 17:40
Subject: Struggling to Fit In
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why not get your son boxer briefs or boxers so he's not wearing the least cool underwear to ever exist?
Op here. Growing up, my son was always the type of sweet kid who would never throw temper tantrums for boxers. White briefs were what I kept buying him but maybe now he will want to switch to boxers because of peer pressure. My son is shy and struggling socially and it doesn't help that his cousin is always considered "the cool one." At least, to most people.
It doesn't bother me that my son is a little different. My husband also loves our son but is sometimes disappointed that he isn't a more masculine or athletic boy. I want to encourage my son to be himself but worry about him getting teased.
What you said makes zero sense. A child shouldn't have to throw a temper tantrum to get something. They should be able to say "Next time you're buying me underwear, can you get me boxer briefs in black and grey instead of white tighty whities?" and then you just ... do that.
Or by 10, take your son shopping with you and say “ You are size X and need Y pairs of new underwear for this year. I don’t know what you want so please go over and pick out what you want.”
Shopping for yourself is a good skill for all kids to learn.