Anonymous wrote:Give it to him. 90% of the time the guy can't find a girl who isn't willing without him paying. And by then, the wife has had a dozen lovers. At that point he'll be begging you to close the relationship and it'll be your decision if you even want to.

Guaranteed this guy is already sleeping with AP(s) and wants to pre-empt exposure.

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Anonymous wrote:He’s a loser! I would divorce over this. I bet he’s already sleeping around.

Yeah that was my initial reaction, but I’m not sure if divorcing him is a good idea. When my grandfather got divorced, he ended up getting remarried later and some skank stole my mother’s inheritance. I don’t want my kids inheritance to get stolen from them by a sleazy second wife.

It might not be your choice if he decides to leave.

Yeah but we have a prenup that whoever files for divorce is gets less of the assets. There’s no cheating clause in it, just basically it’s presumed that the person who files for divorce is the one who caused the divorce.

that makes zero sense.

So, if the person is abusive (financially, mentally, emotionally, physically), and you file for divorce, it must be your fault?

We got married in our 20’s and I saw the prenup as more of a formality. I never expected to actually need to use it. I thought it was just something his parents were forcing him to do, but I did not have any reason to expect that it would be potentially weaponized against me during the marriage to excuse bad behavior.

Did you have your own lawyer?

+1 Void if she did not have her own lawyer.
Also when did you sign it? If it's too close to the wedding it's considered duress.

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Anonymous wrote:He’s a loser! I would divorce over this. I bet he’s already sleeping around.

Yeah that was my initial reaction, but I’m not sure if divorcing him is a good idea. When my grandfather got divorced, he ended up getting remarried later and some skank stole my mother’s inheritance. I don’t want my kids inheritance to get stolen from them by a sleazy second wife.

It might not be your choice if he decides to leave.

Yeah but we have a prenup that whoever files for divorce is gets less of the assets. There’s no cheating clause in it, just basically it’s presumed that the person who files for divorce is the one who caused the divorce.

I bet a judge would throw that prenup out if he was the one who cheats/ed. Maybe a lawyer consult is in your immediate future.

Anonymous wrote:Are you guys having sex a lot? Why would he want this?

Men can get steak every day and still want to go lick a cigarette ashtray. Duh. Men are dumb.

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Anonymous wrote:He’s a loser! I would divorce over this. I bet he’s already sleeping around.

Yeah that was my initial reaction, but I’m not sure if divorcing him is a good idea. When my grandfather got divorced, he ended up getting remarried later and some skank stole my mother’s inheritance. I don’t want my kids inheritance to get stolen from them by a sleazy second wife.

You can structure both of your finances to protect against this, at least to an extent.

But IMO, a relatively rare "what if" is not enough to stay in such a shit show of a relationship. There are some guarantees in this situation (he WILL sleep with someone else), but what you're grasping at is not.

Give it to him. 90% of the time the guy can't find a girl who isn't willing without him paying. And by then, the wife has had a dozen lovers. At that point he'll be begging you to close the relationship and it'll be your decision if you even want to.

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Anonymous wrote:He’s a loser! I would divorce over this. I bet he’s already sleeping around.

Yeah that was my initial reaction, but I’m not sure if divorcing him is a good idea. When my grandfather got divorced, he ended up getting remarried later and some skank stole my mother’s inheritance. I don’t want my kids inheritance to get stolen from them by a sleazy second wife.

It might not be your choice if he decides to leave.

Yeah but we have a prenup that whoever files for divorce is gets less of the assets. There’s no cheating clause in it, just basically it’s presumed that the person who files for divorce is the one who caused the divorce.

that makes zero sense.

So, if the person is abusive (financially, mentally, emotionally, physically), and you file for divorce, it must be your fault?

We got married in our 20’s and I saw the prenup as more of a formality. I never expected to actually need to use it. I thought it was just something his parents were forcing him to do, but I did not have any reason to expect that it would be potentially weaponized against me during the marriage to excuse bad behavior.

Did you have your own lawyer?

Anonymous wrote:File for divorce.
I’m not joking. He’s already cheating and is trying to now have his cake and eat it too. He has no respect for you or your vows. Would you want to have sex with a walking STI factory?

Good point. I add another notation to my list
5) do not sleep with him again. Ever.

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Anonymous wrote:He’s a loser! I would divorce over this. I bet he’s already sleeping around.

Yeah that was my initial reaction, but I’m not sure if divorcing him is a good idea. When my grandfather got divorced, he ended up getting remarried later and some skank stole my mother’s inheritance. I don’t want my kids inheritance to get stolen from them by a sleazy second wife.

NP here. My FIL has been divorced and remarried several times. In his last divorce, as part of the divorce agreement, his then wife negotiated an inheritance for his two kids with her via some sort of Succession show kind of post nuptial agreement to avoid this very problem. Was actually genius if you ask me (my DH is not one of those kids, and we didn’t have an issue with it anyway). The inheritance was put into a trust so if he got remarried the new wife couldn’t spend it down.

I couldn’t even get over the ask. I would see an attorney.

1) he already has someone in mind
2) he may have already done something with said person
3) agree to it, go get 500 matches in 12seconds and go have some fun
4) divorce him

No kids? GTFO

What’s the point of an open marriage? If you want to F other people then just become single and do what you like.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're an idiot to not divorce

For real. The marriage was over the moment the husband asked for an open marriage. If she wants to inflict some pain on the way out, she should go ahead and reluctantly agree. And then insist that Tuesday and Friday evenings are free for her to date. And that the husband will be expected to pick up the kids from school and make dinner on those two nights while she goes out on dates. If she's reasonably attractive, she will have a million options. She doesn't have to sleep with them, but it will drive the husband nuts while he's doing the dishes and contemplating his poor choices and whether his affair with Susan or whatever in accounting has been worth it. The marriage is over regardless.

OP, you're an idiot to not divorce