Seriously my Asian immigrant parents wouldve been pissed. You need to have high expectations and make them known. If you want to go tiger parent-light you don't have to punish, but they don't get a reward either.

If it’s an Asian kid you disown him immediately

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Anonymous wrote:Kids in gifted classes, if truly gifted, often do not know how to study or check work. Things come easy until the devil is in the details. I know. My story.

If they can’t be taught how to study and how to check work then they aren’t gifted.

Third grade is all about memorization. Multiplication tables, simple addition and subtraction, learning very basic math skills so they can go on to the difficult math problems.

That's not true. There's also a lot of word problems and figuring out how to set up and solve a problem from a verbal description of a situation. Memorizing math facts helps do that faster. Mine would have to work out problems like "Dweezil has seven bags of mushrooms and each bag has nine mushrooms. Moon Unit secretly takes one mushroom from each bag and gives Dweezil a new bag containing ten mushrooms. How many does Dweezil have in total?"

Anonymous wrote:He needs help for his ADHD, OP.

What a terrible parent you are.

F—k off, troll.

Anonymous wrote:Kids in gifted classes, if truly gifted, often do not know how to study or check work. Things come easy until the devil is in the details. I know. My story.

If they can’t be taught how to study and how to check work then they aren’t gifted.

Third grade is all about memorization. Multiplication tables, simple addition and subtraction, learning very basic math skills so they can go on to the difficult math problems.

He needs help for his ADHD, OP.

What a terrible parent you are.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids in gifted classes, if truly gifted, often do not know how to study or check work. Things come easy until the devil is in the details. I know. My story.

A truly gifted third grader should not NEED to study or check work for a third grade gifted class.

Do some of you folks even hear yourselves?

My kid who is really strong in math learned to write out his work and check it because it was what was expected. It is a skill that kids will need as they get into higher math. It helped that my kid loved math competitions and the math competition teacher required that the kids show all of their work. This reinforced the importance of writing out your work.

That’s great, but has absolutely nothing to do with the comment to which you replied.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he needs help, not punishment

100%

Third grade is a great time to fail. Does he care about the C? Will he only care if you take something valuable away from him? If he cares, no punishment is needed. Help him find a way to succeed.

If he doesn’t care, punishing him will not make him care about his grades. It will make him resentful about school. I would ask to move him back to regular class. School performance is less attributable to aptitude than effort.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids in gifted classes, if truly gifted, often do not know how to study or check work. Things come easy until the devil is in the details. I know. My story.

A truly gifted third grader should not NEED to study or check work for a third grade gifted class.

Do some of you folks even hear yourselves?

My kid who is really strong in math learned to write out his work and check it because it was what was expected. It is a skill that kids will need as they get into higher math. It helped that my kid loved math competitions and the math competition teacher required that the kids show all of their work. This reinforced the importance of writing out your work.

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Anonymous wrote:She said he was in a gifted class. Next year they will put him in an appropriate class. No big deal.

Where is there a "gifted class" in third grade?

AAP starts in third grade, it is not gifted but advanced and parents commonly call it gifted. FCPS does not use letter grades though.

Either the child is rushing and not making their best effort so not getting the grade that they should or the child doesn't belong in an advanced class. If it is the first scenario, the parents can correct that at home with additional work to help them learn the material and understand that rushing work or not making your best effort will lead to redoing the work at home. If it is the second then the child should be moved into the regular math class. Not because they got a C but because they are not mastering the material and third grade math is something that should be mastered. The child needs a slower pace and more practice.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids in gifted classes, if truly gifted, often do not know how to study or check work. Things come easy until the devil is in the details. I know. My story.

A truly gifted third grader should not NEED to study or check work for a third grade gifted class.

Do some of you folks even hear yourselves?

+1

This is what happens in districts that use blunt instruments like the CogAT or NNAT to sort the gifted from the regular kids. Those tests are beatable with coaching, which MANY parents do, openly or in secret. As a result you have "gifted" classes with smart kids who are not gifted, but have insecure anxious parents and a whole stack of prep books in their cabinet.

Anonymous wrote:Kids in gifted classes, if truly gifted, often do not know how to study or check work. Things come easy until the devil is in the details. I know. My story.

A truly gifted third grader should not NEED to study or check work for a third grade gifted class.

Do some of you folks even hear yourselves?

Punishing kids for grades will not solve your problem. Ask him why he’s struggling and then provide needed supports. He may need a neuropsych to rule out ADHD or anxiety. Don’t assume the worst about your child. My DD at that age would do anything to avoid schoolwork and I was very frustrated. I didn’t punish but did offer to sit with her and help. Beyond that it was natural consequences. Years later I learned she had inattentive ADHD and felt badly about not evaluating sooner. We addressed that and she went on to do very well in school. If your son refuses supports and you rule out an underlying issue, then the consequence is he moves down a level next year. It’s not going to ruin his life and he might be happier with less pressure.

Kids in gifted classes, if truly gifted, often do not know how to study or check work. Things come easy until the devil is in the details. I know. My story.