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Anonymous wrote:350k stressful job 5 years ago. Spouse makes 180k and recently I get worried about the economy but not worried enough to try to get a paying job. I love my freedom and time.

Maybe this is just me, but absent very specific circumstances (tons of money in the bank already, massive inheritance, child with very severe special needs requiring a parent at home etc), I just don't get this at all. Unless it's some kind of troll post.

You would understand if you’d ever had an incredibly stressful and/or toxic job situation. It interferes with all aspects of life including physical health. It’s not worth any amount of money if you have ti give up your health, physically or mentally

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Anonymous wrote:350k stressful job 5 years ago. Spouse makes 180k and recently I get worried about the economy but not worried enough to try to get a paying job. I love my freedom and time.

Maybe this is just me, but absent very specific circumstances (tons of money in the bank already, massive inheritance, child with very severe special needs requiring a parent at home etc), I just don't get this at all. Unless it's some kind of troll post.

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously, the proportion of posters who say biglaw is out of wack. Why is that?

My theory - former big law SAHMs love DCUM, have time, and like answering questions about money (and many other DCUM favorite topics).

Anonymous wrote:350k stressful job 5 years ago. Spouse makes 180k and recently I get worried about the economy but not worried enough to try to get a paying job. I love my freedom and time.

Anonymous wrote:Seriously, the proportion of posters who say biglaw is out of wack. Why is that?

Anonymous wrote:350k stressful job 5 years ago. Spouse makes 180k and recently I get worried about the economy but not worried enough to try to get a paying job. I love my freedom and time.

Anonymous wrote:Everyone responding that their DH / spouse makes $1M+ - what do they do?

I’m assuming most are big law partners (for DC area PPs at least). Or maybe other partner-level roles like Deloitte GPS PPMD. I know some doctors can hit $1M+ but it’s rare and getting rarer with PE all over medicine now.

Anonymous wrote:300k a decade ago. No regrets about the money. DH went from 500k to $3m. I was able to focus on our kids 100% and DH was able to concentrate on work and not have to deal with sick days, drop offs, half days, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously, the proportion of posters who say biglaw is out of wack. Why is that?

Because being a big law lawyer in DC kind of sucks. Most everyone I know hates or hated it. It's a grind, and for many people, it's not sustainable for any sort of work-life balance.

+1 and some of the posters, like me, are older. 20+ years ago when tech was not as advanced and remote work was what you did from an airplane on paper while traveling out of town to see a client in person. Investing in newly emerging tech (cell phones, lap tops, broadband) was very expensive, and law was slow to adopt.

Before I had kids, what I saw and learned from partners who were parents was not good. They delegated everything related to their lives outside of work, and in attempts to get home, sometimes delegated even more to the people who worked under them, making those lawyers lives even more miserable as you waited in the office for the partner to call in after the kids were in bed. Several only ever talked to thier kids by phone before bedtime. Partners had drivers for them and their kids, chefs, three shifts of nannies, housekeepers, and cleaners. Most ended up divorced. Everyone drank too much. I attended a few funerals where the eulogies from the adult children of these parents gutted me.

Many associates left when they became parents. The year after I left, the firm instituted a committee to explore ways to keep parents and a program to keep those who left engaged in the hopes that they'd come back some day.