Anonymous wrote:No and honestly I wish I would have paid more attention to his parents/family then I did. I probably wouldn't have married him.

+10000

Man. My father-in-law passed away suddenly 18 years ago when our DS was an infant. I miss him greatly and am sad that my son never got a chance to spend time with his Pappy. My DS's sons personality is lot like his and he even looks a bit like him. Miss him everyday.

My Mother-in-law had been extremely helpful after she moved to our area. Helping to get the kids to practice, pickups, etc. Watching our dogs. Now that she is aging it's our turn to pay it back to her and we are doing our best with that.

Sorry that so many have negative experiences with their spouses parents.

Not a thing.

Anonymous wrote:No and honestly I wish I would have paid more attention to his parents/family then I did. I probably wouldn't have married him.

Agree 100%. MIL died in 2023. I was sad that I only felt relief. Sad for the lost opportunity. She was just awful. I was relieved. Horrible, but true.

No and honestly I wish I would have paid more attention to his parents/family then I did. I probably wouldn't have married him.

NYET

Anonymous wrote:Married 20+ years. I love my in-laws like they are my own family.

Married 30 years and feel the same way.

Mine like the line from When Harry Met Sally. They are high maintenance but think they are low maintenance.

My in laws are great. They come down to care for kids when I go out of town once or twice a year.

We drop kids off for a week in the summer.

They are generous with me and the kids.

They keep their comments to themselves.

I’m lucky.

My MIL is wonderful. We needed childcare help unexpectedly this summer and she dropped everything and came to help for three weeks. I was actually sad when she left! Amazing

Hi OP, thank you for asking this question. Thank you for inviting good stories... I think because DCUM is mostly about asking questions and trying to get advice on important quandaries (and trolls, too many trolls), it's not a place to post your "I'm so grateful that..." posts. But this is a really sweet one, and I'm so glad you asked the question. I already answered in a previous post, but I wanted to thank you, so thank you! And wishing you great holidays this season!

I absolutely adore my MIL (FIL unfortunately passed away before DH and I married). My MIL is one of the most kind, thoughtful people I have ever met - never overbearing, always offering to come help with childcare (and she does an amazing job, is soft and sweet with all the grandkids but can also manage bath, bed, etc.) She texts me to ask about my big work meetings, checks in and send me encouragement on sad days like the anniversary of my moms passing, always has my favorite wine in the fridge, remembers my friends / family and asks about them. She is just the best and is exactly how I want to be as a MIL.

I also adore my husbands siblings and their spouses - a greater variety of personalities of course but I get along with them all. I feel so, so lucky to have married into this family.

Absolutely! I really lucked out when it came to in-laws. Last year I went on a mission trip to Africa for a week with my FIL and it was truly special. I can’t imagine being with my own father 24/7! My husband had done a similar trip five years ago with my FIL and he said it was a trip I’d never forget and I won’t.

My in-laws are fantastic. They are generous, non judgmental and fun to be with. My oldest daughter and I are heading over to their home today to bake Christmas cookies with my MIL. My FIL is taking a bunch of younger grandchildren to the movies and it was his idea.

Last year my sister in law pulled me aside on a trip and said how sorry and embarrassed she was now— in her thirties and with a partner from a functional family— of how her family treated me particularly in our first few years.

It shows that people can learn to do better, and having the grace to apologize was big.