Anonymous
Post 02/19/2026 03:15     Subject: 18yo not showering
Anonymous wrote:Your son is weird.


Why weird?

I think it’s fairly normal for some guys his age. As I said above, I was terrible when I was 18, not showering and wearing the same clothes. I also had a habit of having favorite underwear that I wore over and over. I figured that if no one could see them then why did it matter.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2026 09:42     Subject: 18yo not showering
Your son is weird.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2026 04:49     Subject: 18yo not showering
Anonymous wrote:Update: DS is showering and attending to bodily odors. Peer pressure from friends really helped. They have commented that he doesn't smell so bad anymore.


So happy for you! I have a tween girl who goes completely bananas when I try to convince her to shower. She IS mild ASD/adhd. I’ve had to get all crafty teaching her to be more aware of social norms. It seems to be mostly working, but there are gaps when I am relieved she isn’t a full fledged oily teen yet.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2026 02:43     Subject: 18yo not showering
Anonymous wrote:Visited ds at college this weekend. He smelled of bo and his breath was horrible. I know he is showering and doing laundry but it’s clearly not enough. DH didn’t want me to make too much of it and claimed he couldn’t smell it but ds stinks!!! I brought it up once during our visit. I also asked him to arrive to one of the events showered and in clean clothes. He came smelling of bo wearing the same shirt as the day before but different jeans. He said no one cares, but I found his bo smell really strong. He’s made new friends and girls were saying hi to him. HELP! Any suggestions about how to get him to attend to his personal hygiene would be appreciated. tia


Be upfront and direct with him. Better him be embarrassed by you than someone else. If he doesn't eventually work it out, someone will say something.

I was terrible at that age, didn’t shower for days, wore the same clothes for a week at a time and didn’t shave much. It wasn’t until an embarrassing experience that I woke up to myself.