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Anonymous wrote:My daughter is a freshman in Vtech. She has started drinking with other college kids in dorm. She has denied it and continues to do it. She has started skipping classes. As she is 18 yrs old but under 21 yrs old, Can i as a parent ask for help from the college counselling center? What can i do before it becomes too late to do anything?

This is obviously a troll. No real parent would write “freshman in Vtech.”

Yep. And worrying about drinking in the dorm? Welcome to college - anywhere.

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Anonymous wrote:Kids who grow up in authoritarian households with micromanaging parents party hard in college. I witnessed this with my students when I taught at college.

This conventional wisdom is very stupid.

Yet here OP is. . .

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids who grow up in authoritarian households with micromanaging parents party hard in college. I witnessed this with my students when I taught at college.

This conventional wisdom is very stupid.

It’s observational/anecdotal info. However, having been exposed to tons of child psychology research on authoritarian vs authoritative parents, authoritative parenting is associated with far better outcomes.

Partying with friends is normal but skipping class is NOT okay. If there's any spending money or privileges you give her, tell her you will be cutting that off if she doesn't go to class and try.

Anonymous wrote:How do you know this, OP?

Probably Life 360. You can see when your kid leaves hir or her dorm.

What is vtech? The toy company?

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Anonymous wrote:OP how do you know she is skipping class?

You can not control her behavior at college.

What you do is you wait til the semester ends.

C's get degrees if she has a 2.5 or above she stays.

After the semester if she's 2.5 or less then a conversation is had. We don't pay for you to go away to school and not try. Hence Community college and living at home is next semester.

I would not agree with this. I would set a minimum of a 3.0 for first semester freshman year. Why teach her to settle for so little? The goal is not simply to get a degree.

I cannot imagine most type A parents in this area enforcing this. Sorry dear, you got a 2.9 at Dartmouth so you’ll need to drop out and go to NoVA next year, even though the school has no problem with you. I will be telling my friends at the country club about your failure. Forget law school, maybe you can become a manager at a coffee shop someday.

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is a freshman in Vtech. She has started drinking with other college kids in dorm. She has denied it and continues to do it. She has started skipping classes. As she is 18 yrs old but under 21 yrs old, Can i as a parent ask for help from the college counselling center? What can i do before it becomes too late to do anything?

This is obviously a troll. No real parent would write “freshman in Vtech.”

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP how do you know she is skipping class?

You can not control her behavior at college.

What you do is you wait til the semester ends.

C's get degrees if she has a 2.5 or above she stays.

After the semester if she's 2.5 or less then a conversation is had. We don't pay for you to go away to school and not try. Hence Community college and living at home is next semester.

I would not agree with this. I would set a minimum of a 3.0 for first semester freshman year. Why teach her to settle for so little? The goal is not simply to get a degree.

It literally is the goal tho.

WTAF is wrong with you.

Not that PP but the goal is definitely to do better than 3.0 not only out of self respect and respect for your parents but also self interest (if you ever want to attend grad school).