Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re raising a selfish child. Congrats!

There is nothing wrong with being selfish. It's better than being a doormat.

+100

Also interesting that the “compliant” person (the kid) is the selfish one, but not granny who
Is stomping her feet and creating a crisis where there isn’t one, just because she isn’t getting what she wants. She’s the grownup, but not “selfish”?

We need to teach these young women especially that they don’t have to do what they don’t want to do. It sounds hyperbolic, but so many of us were told to never say no, to put up and shut up or we were terrible - and it ended up in abusive relationships, workplace harassment, dangerous situations, harmful places. Because having an opinion over your own body or wants is “selfish” and not what good women do.

Anonymous wrote:You’re raising a selfish child. Congrats!

There is nothing wrong with being selfish. It's better than being a doormat.

It’s such a boomer thing to be shocked and offended or play hurt when their adult children don’t force the kids to do things they don’t want to do. My theory is that the boomers were raised in a very authoritative manner, kids regularly beaten by parents, teachers etc, always forced to be obedient etc. The silent generation was really evil when it came to parenting. Now that boomers are aging they are regressing and shocked when a grandchild isn’t forced to be obedient to the whims of the grandparents.