Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:When I was 25, I started dating someone who was 38 (my parents were NOT thrilled.) We got married when I was 29 and he was 42. We have been together for 25y.
I will say it is more challenging now at 50/63 as he is looking towards retirement, and I have a way to go. I love DH, and I don't regret marrying him, but if I could do it again, I would choose someone within a decade or less of me.
Well yes…and of course you will really regret it if he declines physically at 68 when you are 55 (as an example) and you become his nurse.
Thats when people really regret the age gap.
Anonymous wrote:When I was 25, I started dating someone who was 38 (my parents were NOT thrilled.) We got married when I was 29 and he was 42. We have been together for 25y.
I will say it is more challenging now at 50/63 as he is looking towards retirement, and I have a way to go. I love DH, and I don't regret marrying him, but if I could do it again, I would choose someone within a decade or less of me.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If a 24 year old wanted to get engaged to her 24 year old steady boyfriend, DCUM would've tripped even if both were well employed.
However, relationship with a decade+ older senior colleague seems acceptable to them. That's kind of surprising!
I got married at 25 (we were both employed, post grad school). I have no issue with the age difference here. Plus this is a crush, not a relationship! Are we policing thoughts now?
+1. Are you really overseeing your adult DD’s crushes now? God help us.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why is this a problem? Do you envision her to be a teenager and he is an adult? I mean, 35 year olds are still in an extended adolescence too in this generation- with exceptions of course, but it looks like adulting doesn't even start till 40s now.
But assuming they are both fairly mature- where is ths problem?
I just have always thought an agegap of 1 decade is a bit too much /OP
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:As long as he’s not married, what’s the problem?
Different life stages makes it inappropriate right? /OP