Anonymous
01/13/2025 07:38
Subject: How is Sorority Rush going?
Anonymous wrote:I rushed at UVA in 2010 (wow...how is that possible) but did not pledge a sorority. Not going to lie, it was...difficult.
I never really thought about/wanted to join a sorority prior to college - it was not on my radar, but I signed up for rush because it was such a big thing at UVA. I was out of state and didn't know anyone. Long story short, I ended up getting dropped from most sororities and getting a bid from what those on campus called the 'fat', 'loser' sorority (I may have been a loser, but I was not fat!) I declined the bid and decided not to be in a sorority at all.
EVEN AS someone who didn't really care that much about being in a sorority and went on to have good friends and a good college experience, it really stung. I remember telling my mom that 'a third of the girls at this school must not like me' after getting dropped nearly everywhere, and I always felt a bit insecure wondering what it was. In class, I'd wonder if I was sitting near a girl who dropped me or had talked badly about me during the decision-making process. Even looking back today, I wonder what was wrong with me at the time. And some people took it even harder - a girl in my dorm was so devastated her parents had to come up, and she nearly withdrew from the school (she ended up staying, fortunately, and getting really involved in a cool hobby group where she ended up meeting her husband, so all worked out).
Anyways, I find the system problematic and wouldn't support my daughter joining a sorority or rushing.
So you met these girls, they picked you, and you decided to reject them because random people said they were fat losers? You come off as the mean girl here. I wonder if they sat in class and saw you as the person who came to their events, but then rejected them.
Greek life isn't for everyone, but you opted in. You went through the process and it worked because you were offered a spot. YOU rejected it because you decided you were too good for it.
And every college has great groups that aren't tied to sororities. You wrote about the girl from your dorm, but did you do something else? Because you seem like you haven't moved on.
Anonymous
01/13/2025 07:13
Subject: How is Sorority Rush going?
I didn't rush in college but was asked by a couple of sororities if I wanted to join because their numbers were so low, I assume. I couldn't afford it and had other interests so said no. But this was 30 years ago.
Anonymous
01/13/2025 07:03
Subject: How is Sorority Rush going?
Anonymous wrote:Thinking you are better than “those” houses or the “awkward” girls is just as cringe-worthy as being rejected and judged by the “good” sororities that rejected you.
Yes. This is awful!
Anonymous
01/13/2025 05:23
Subject: How is Sorority Rush going?
Anonymous wrote:What is DCUMers ranking of top to bottom houses?
It’s totally different at each school. One sorority could be the top house at one college, but be a less desirable house at another.
Anonymous
01/13/2025 04:02
Subject: How is Sorority Rush going?
What is DCUMers ranking of top to bottom houses?
Anonymous
01/13/2025 03:19
Subject: How is Sorority Rush going?
Thinking you are better than “those” houses or the “awkward” girls is just as cringe-worthy as being rejected and judged by the “good” sororities that rejected you.
Anonymous
01/13/2025 00:11
Subject: Re:How is Sorority Rush going?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's tough everywhere, OP.
The universal problem at every school is that all of the girls rushing want the same top, few sororities. If she can be happy anywhere, you'll be fine. If your daughter insists on being an XYZ, she's likely to be disappointed.
Depends on the girl and any hooks she has.
What kind of hooks?
Pretty, uber rich, skinny
How would ppl even know if you are rich?
It's called "zip coding" at my DD school. She zip-coded well, wore a lot of Love Shack Fancy and all her Cartier.
Sad but true.
What does the zip-code mean??
Looking for wealthier hometown zip codes.
Anonymous
01/12/2025 23:56
Subject: How is Sorority Rush going?
Anonymous wrote:Why does the National Panhellenic decide how many girls can be in each house? If there are 9 houses and 90 % of the girls want the same 3 houses, why cant the popular house expand to accommodate more girls? They try to force all these girls into the houses with weird or awkward girls (sorry but true) and then they just end up dropping out and are traumatized. Why cant you just have 5 really big sororities? It makes no sense to me. It is just brutal and mean to these girls.
Yeah, and it doesn’t work on either side bc the smaller houses get like five people and struggle to stay afloat. I am the UVA rusher from earlier who got one of ‘those’ houses. Nearly the entire pledge class declined the bid, hardly anyone even went to the bid day event.
Anonymous
01/12/2025 23:55
Subject: Re:How is Sorority Rush going?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's tough everywhere, OP.
The universal problem at every school is that all of the girls rushing want the same top, few sororities. If she can be happy anywhere, you'll be fine. If your daughter insists on being an XYZ, she's likely to be disappointed.
Depends on the girl and any hooks she has.
What kind of hooks?
Pretty, uber rich, skinny
How would ppl even know if you are rich?
It's called "zip coding" at my DD school. She zip-coded well, wore a lot of Love Shack Fancy and all her Cartier.
Sad but true.
Yes, it’s sad that you have raised a daughter like this.
Anonymous
01/12/2025 23:44
Subject: How is Sorority Rush going?
Why does the National Panhellenic decide how many girls can be in each house? If there are 9 houses and 90 % of the girls want the same 3 houses, why cant the popular house expand to accommodate more girls? They try to force all these girls into the houses with weird or awkward girls (sorry but true) and then they just end up dropping out and are traumatized. Why cant you just have 5 really big sororities? It makes no sense to me. It is just brutal and mean to these girls.
Anonymous
01/12/2025 23:42
Subject: Re:How is Sorority Rush going?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's tough everywhere, OP.
The universal problem at every school is that all of the girls rushing want the same top, few sororities. If she can be happy anywhere, you'll be fine. If your daughter insists on being an XYZ, she's likely to be disappointed.
Depends on the girl and any hooks she has.
What kind of hooks?
Pretty, uber rich, skinny
How would ppl even know if you are rich?
It's called "zip coding" at my DD school. She zip-coded well, wore a lot of Love Shack Fancy and all her Cartier.
Sad but true.
What does the zip-code mean??
Anonymous
01/12/2025 23:30
Subject: Re:How is Sorority Rush going?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's tough everywhere, OP.
The universal problem at every school is that all of the girls rushing want the same top, few sororities. If she can be happy anywhere, you'll be fine. If your daughter insists on being an XYZ, she's likely to be disappointed.
Depends on the girl and any hooks she has.
What kind of hooks?
Pretty, uber rich, skinny
How would ppl even know if you are rich?
It's called "zip coding" at my DD school. She zip-coded well, wore a lot of Love Shack Fancy and all her Cartier.
Sad but true.
Anonymous
01/12/2025 23:29
Subject: How is Sorority Rush going?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I rushed at UVA in 2010 (wow...how is that possible) but did not pledge a sorority. Not going to lie, it was...difficult.
I never really thought about/wanted to join a sorority prior to college - it was not on my radar, but I signed up for rush because it was such a big thing at UVA. I was out of state and didn't know anyone. Long story short, I ended up getting dropped from most sororities and getting a bid from what those on campus called the 'fat', 'loser' sorority (I may have been a loser, but I was not fat!) I declined the bid and decided not to be in a sorority at all.
EVEN AS someone who didn't really care that much about being in a sorority and went on to have good friends and a good college experience, it really stung. I remember telling my mom that 'a third of the girls at this school must not like me' after getting dropped nearly everywhere, and I always felt a bit insecure wondering what it was. In class, I'd wonder if I was sitting near a girl who dropped me or had talked badly about me during the decision-making process. Even looking back today, I wonder what was wrong with me at the time. And some people took it even harder - a girl in my dorm was so devastated her parents had to come up, and she nearly withdrew from the school (she ended up staying, fortunately, and getting really involved in a cool hobby group where she ended up meeting her husband, so all worked out).
Anyways, I find the system problematic and wouldn't support my daughter joining a sorority or rushing.
Same experience, same school, but in the 90s. If I could go back and choose a different college, I would pick one where there was no Greek system. It really soured my time there.
I'm sorry you also had that experience. I should add - it was even more difficult for women whose friends joined, and they did not (I met many of my friends later in my first year, but most of my 'initial' friends did not pledge).
Yeah, it just really caused a rift in friendships that had organically formed on my hall. Just when you’re starting to get to know people and settle in, there’s a seismic social shift.
DP. I was secretly thrilled when my daughter told me she had no interest in rushing at her large state school. The vast majority of kids don't, so she had plenty of non-Greek friends. I was so relieved that she avoided that whole mess and just had a fantastic four years with no drama.
Anonymous
01/12/2025 23:28
Subject: How is Sorority Rush going?
It’s for insecure women who have nothing going for them but their appearance and their mommy/daddy’s money.
Anonymous
01/12/2025 21:33
Subject: Re:How is Sorority Rush going?
Anonymous wrote:I think Wake guarantees every girl receives a bid, but not necessarily to their choice of sorority. It is meant to soften the process, but there is still disappointment as people get their hearts set on specific houses.
I'm the UVA poster and I think everyone could have gotten a bid if they wanted one, but most girls dropped out if they didn't get the houses back they wanted. Some of the less-desirable sororities then end up with like 5 people in their pledge class.